I have this wild dream often!

[namewitheld33]

I often dream about going on a date with a guy, pretending to be his girlfriend. I am not sure if it only happens to me or are there others here who also have these kind of crazy thoughts. Or is it even crazy? I don't why I often fantasize about this. In fact, whenever I see a pretty lady out in the public with her boyfriend, I never feel "Wish I was in the guy's shoes!" What actually crosses my mind is wish I was that lady. I am hoping that somebody else here can add some insightful comment on this topic.

[Kate Simmons]

I've had similar dreams in the past. Now, however, I'm making those dreams a reality by actually dating men. Now, one in particular who is my BF.

[Kaz]

Yeah, daily! It is a tough one to figure out! It doesn't mean you are gay, but then again it might! The thing for me is that I am not wanting to be with that specific guy. So it is not about me wishing I was her because I want to be with him... this is important, because if for you it is... that will tell you something!

For me, I do want to be her... BUT I want to experience what she is experiencing... So yeah, I fantasise a lot...

The thing for me though is that I accept that this is fantasy... for me and for now!

[Kate Simmons]

We have talked about lucid dreams here in the past as well. Those are the ones I've had with regard to this mainly. In these I direct the outcome and make sure everyone lives happily ever after.

[namewitheld33]

Actually, I associate the word "gay" with somebody having sexual desires which is not the case here. What I adore most is the feeling of looking pretty and draing the other person's attention, even better if he treats me like a queen (definitely in that case, I will have to look like one too). It's this feeling that drives me crazy.

[EllieOPKS]

I fantasize more about being passable enough to go in public without the stares or comments. The best compliment would be someone treating me as a girl in a matter of fact kinda way.

[Kaz]

I fantasize more about being passable enough to go in public without the stares or comments. The best compliment would be someone treating me as a girl in a matter of fact kinda way.

Absolutely... but what if we get male attention? Because we are presenting well as girls? Because we are passing and therefore 'read' as female?

K

[KellyJameson]

This would make for an interesting business model based along the lines of a male escort service but strictly for crossdressers. The escort becomes an extension
of the clothes and acts the role leading man.

I don't think your fantasy is crazy, you are sensitive enough to appreciate the feeling of being adored. Some of the attributes born out of a sensitive mind are artistic creativity and imagination that allow you to place yourself into and imagine on an emotional level what it would feel like and so want the experience for yourself.

If there is one outstanding ability on this forum it is creativity, everyone here is an artist in their own way including those in science which is an art form all its own.

[namewitheld33]

I think Kelly put has put it very nicely. I think those are exactly yht thoughts that races through my mind.
As for the attention from guys, I would like it but not to the point that I would want to be sexually involved in any way. I just like the feeling that I could make somebody crave me for my appearance, that's it, plain and simple. I just want to feel pretty.

[Michelle01]

Most of us probably don't mind the idea of being attractive to a good looking man. But I have those dreams from time to time too... On occasion, I also dream of being the male on a date with a nice looking CD.

[Eryn]

I've dreamed about being accepted as a woman, but in ordinary situations like supermarket checkouts, etc. Men haven't entered into those dreams at all and frankly I wouldn't know what to do if approached. With my looks that isn't likely to be a concern.

[sherib]

Talking about dreams, I have so many. I'm in the closet and a lot of my dreams are about waking up in the middle of a crowd or my closes friends dressed in high heels and a tight dress. I never dream about having sex with a guy. If I dream about having sex, its always with a women. But its always a women to women thing.

[outhiking]

I've thought about this a lot and I imagine a lot of crossdressers do have similar fantasies. In my mind, it's not about being gay because you aren't fantisizing about being a man with another man, but rather being a woman with a man. What could be more femine?

[Lucy Long Legs]

I have often thought about this too but on the occasions when I have been hit on by a guy, I feel profoundly uncomfortable. My masculine feelings suddenly emerge and I feel I have to compete and am unable to continue my feminine role. Difficult when I'm all prettied up!

[monalisa]

Nothing wrong with having fantasies and it only seems natural when dressed to think what it would be like with a man and to experience everything that a natural woman experiences.Whether you choose to act out the fantasy is all up to you.

[jillleanne]

I often have dreams about being taken by aliens far away in a sexy red(my favorite color) spaceship . They give me tons and tons of shoes and RHT hose and makeup and skirts and jewellry, and............well you get the idea. Then they adore me for my beauty, finess and gracefullness. Then I wake up and go make coffee. I love coffee.

[Launa]

This fantasy does not happen to me I'm just a lesbian when I'm dressed as a woman. However I do fantasize about being able to pass 100% in public and get treated like a lady.

[Launa]

I often have dreams about being taken by aliens far away in a sexy red(my favorite color) spaceship . They give me tons and tons of shoes and RHT hose and makeup and skirts and jewellry, and............well you get the idea. Then they adore me for my beauty, finess and gracefullness. Then I wake up and go make coffee. I love coffee.

I've just had a new fantasy, if I had a Genie in a bottle like a young Barbara Eden I would get her to make me over every 6 hours and I'll keep dreaming about the rest of the stuff we could do!

[Sweet Caroline]

Men are such jerks! I'd rather go out alone.

[Karren H]

I often have dreams about being taken by aliens far away in a sexy red(my favorite color) spaceship . They give me tons and tons of shoes and RHT hose and makeup and skirts and jewellry, and............well you get the idea. Then they adore me for my beauty, finess and gracefullness. Then I wake up and go make coffee. I love coffee.

According to the MUFON that's a common "dream" that people who have been abducted report! have any missing time?

[Cheryl T]

I've had dreams like that as well. Nothing sexual, just a date, perhaps dinner and dancing (I don't dance so that's a big change for me).
I think it's the aspect of being seen as a woman in all ways that's attractive. Being watched over, doors being opened for you, your chair being slid in beneath you, someone's attention directed solely at you. It would be interesting, but as I said in no way am I sexually interested.

[EllieOPKS]

Absolutely... but what if we get male attention? Because we are presenting well as girls? Because we are passing and therefore 'read' as female?

K

HI Kaz
I guess to answer your question, if I got male attention my expectations would be based on how I treat women when I am in male mode. I try and be polite and friendly and not over bearing. If I encountered a guy and he treated me like that we would continue with the female with male roles. Of course he would have to be reasonably attractive as well .

[Saffron]

This fantasy does not happen to me I'm just a lesbian when I'm dressed as a woman. However I do fantasize about being able to pass 100% in public and get treated like a lady.

same here.

we should create the lesbian CD club :-D

[Kate T]

Personal experience, no, never had that fantasy.

You seem relatively new on these forums. You would like insight, well:
1. You need to look at and consider your gender (i.e. do you feel male, female etc. or elements of both) and your sexuality (are you physically sexually attracted to males or females).
2. You need to learn to differentiate between fantasy and reality. You may be able to do that already but some people don't. Reality can be a LONG way from fantasy.
3. Search on these forums and on the internet AutoGynephilia (AGP). It is the sexual arousal and attraction to oneself as a woman. I suspect that many CD's, and from the research probably even some TS, go through an AGP "phase". I did. I still do occasionally. I've found you tend to get it less as you accept yourself more.

Hope that helps

[BLUE ORCHID]

All of my dreams are about what I'm going to wear the next time that I dress.