..and Deanna joins the ranks of many others who should have been more forthcoming with their spouse than what they were. I've only dressed or even donned under-things once or twice in the past 4 months - not really giving it much thought. But the missus found herself with a free day at home on Monday, and to be nice decided to clean out our large, deep, crawl-in hall closet to get rid of some junk for a church yard sale. I came home and saw all of Deanna's things spread out upon the floor.
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My wife knew I would on rare occasion don a bra or a pair of stockings or would put on a pair of Spanx just to show "it's not *that* bad", but this was entirely too much. I cried and apologized, and she said that she loves me, even in light of finding it - but she wanted it gone. So as she went out for a drive, I gathered Deanna's things, and out they went for trash pickup the next morning
We'll be going to see a counselor together next Friday - one that she'd seen once or twice by herself for stress-at-work mgmt, so I'm not sure what to expect. I'm a bit afraid of what to expect, actually - I know the lady has ties to some more "questionable" Charismatic Christian groups which scares me a bit, but we agreed that we could go to at least one session and if it doesn't work, try someone else perhaps.
She hasn't said anything about the one pair of panties & stockings she knew I'd had and would rarely wear in our dresser, but I'm thinking she's probably forgotten about them. Anyway, I appreciate any prayers, encouraging thoughts, etc anyone would care to send-up my way. We've been dealing with a lot of other stuff besides (ailing family member) and coming out/purging like this just adds another layer to things.
--A/D