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    Quote Originally Posted by ReineD View Post
    Anne: you're inspiring me to paint my own toes now. I think I'll do this tomorrow.
    Pictures! Pictures!

    It is true that one size definitely does not fit all. I personally would be uncomfortable showing off toes in colored polish in male mode. OTOH a quick visual poll of what GGs are wearing on their toes leads me to believe that color is almost required during sandal season so I almost always paint my nails before going out en femme.

    I made an exception today because I was invited to visit a museum en femme and had another commitment right after that in drab. I went with clear polished toes that work in both modes because I only had a limited time to switch modes. It worked, but I sure missed having colorful toes!
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    Men wearing nail polish is the same as men wearing earrings 20 years ago. If you read any of the men wearing nail polish blogs you will learn that if you wear nail polish, you need to wear it confidently. Nothing draws more attention that a person walking around like a scared rabbit. If you do this, folks will know that something is up and will stare at you. On the other hand, if you wear you polish confidently and just go about you business, you will not receive reactions. The only reactions that I have received are compliments. SissyStephanie has also received the same reactions and she is wearing polish in a very redneck area. The way to gain acceptance is to push the envelope in male mode very confidently and not care what other folks think. Women have done this for years and it is the reason that they can wear items from male fashion.
    You will become stronger in the ways of the Pink Fog. May the Pink Fog guide you and be with you now and forever.

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    Pretty toes love the look and color keep showing them off I admire you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Anne2345 View Post
    But when it comes right done to it, what I really think their problem may be, is that they were jealous of my pedi, and wanted one of their own. Maybe I am completely off-base on this observation, but here are some pics of my current pedi so that you may arrive at your own conclusion. Were they jealous of mine? Or were they right to make fun of my pedi? You be the judge . . . . .
    No, I don't think they were jealous. They were making fun of you because you're a guy and you have very girly feet.
    It's that simple.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Noel Chimes View Post
    You should have gone straight to mall security and had those rude, morons escorted out of the mall for harassment. The only way we can be on equal footing with the world is to force the laws of the land to work for us. We have a right to fair and equal treatment under the law. These mall rats need to learn that there are reprocoutions that go along with your actions.
    Do not give up the ground you have conqured. This is one time a man said something profound " I don't like fighting for the same ground twice". General George Patton.

    Had she done that then she would have probably been the one getting escorted out of there. Well, I will say this, you've got some beautiful toes and some thick skin!

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    I love your toes, they look great. Your avatar also shoes a beautiful woman....and you now have the toes to match.

    I am going on vacation soon, into pools and beaches and I have no intention of removing my toe polish (bright pink), so I will see what is said..or not.

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    Well... they probably weren't jealous, Anne... if all those people had had any sense... they should have been!
    Your OP has lots of fascinating aspects in it... and your pictures are a treat.
    I'm really proud of you!
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    The Reality is, teenagers in general, and females in particular are probably among THE most clueless of Humans roaming the planet. Of course we were all teenagers at one time...

    Thankfully, most of them, outgrow their insecurities, heightened I believe during those years, by their raging hormones.

    Nice toes btw and good for you for ignoring them. Next time you encounter clueless teenagers or anyone for that matter, just give them your best smile and mouth the words "Thank You" to them. That usually wipes the smirks off their faces.

    An aside, is that you will rarely see such a behavior from a lone teen.

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    Anne, you have very nice toes dahling. Anyone says otherwise, just use the toes for walking away. - BrendaB.

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    Were you presenting en femme or drab when those teenagers attacked you?
    Hugs,

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    I really appreciate all of the fantastic responses, compliments, and kind words!!! Reading through it all, I have smiled much, and been touched deeply. Just to clarify, though - I do not really think anyone was jealous. My statement was an attempt at humor, as dry as my sense may be at times. :-P

    Regardless, the experience, both the good and the bad, was quite positive. I proved to myself that I could do it, and I proved to myself that I could remain true to me. In the grand scheme of things, this may not be such a big deal. But to me now, to the person I currently am, and more importantly the person I hope to be, this exercise was a big deal . . . .

    Anne

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    Cute toes!

    I'm sure you can't help but be a little taken aback when something like being openly laughed at happens. But, accepting and loving yourself as you are is a strong foundation and lets you bounce back from any hate the world may throw your way.

    Keep rocking those toes girl.

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    I am sorry Anne,
    Young teenage girls are the savages in this world of ours and they hunt in packs.
    Most accept us and we think we are fine, but, walk past a YTAG. and see if you can really pass.
    From your post I was not sure wether youwere en femme or partly dressed.
    With a pedicure on show I would want to be dressed.
    Shaved legs are not the worry even in short shorts.
    I think the pedi set them off.
    My legs are hairless and I have worn a polo shirt, lemon, short short shorts and androgynous sandals in male mode in Key West without problem.
    They do accept everything down there.
    Work on your elegance,
    and beauty will follow.

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    We should continue to display our brightly painted toenails in both male and girl mode. Men wearing nail polish is becoming a trend and eventually it will be like earrings. I'm sure that the first guys that wore earrings had the same experience with teenage girls.
    You will become stronger in the ways of the Pink Fog. May the Pink Fog guide you and be with you now and forever.

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    I agree that a pedi is one of the pleasures of life. But honestly Anne, did you expect anything other than what you received? We all agree that in this microcosm of a forum what you did was no big deal but you go to a very public display with the desire for people to see your nail polish and get upset because they do just that but don't necessarily agree with you. There's a proper time and place for everything unless you like being controversial.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EllieOPKS View Post
    I agree that a pedi is one of the pleasures of life. But honestly Anne, did you expect anything other than what you received? We all agree that in this microcosm of a forum what you did was no big deal but you go to a very public display with the desire for people to see your nail polish and get upset because they do just that but don't necessarily agree with you. There's a proper time and place for everything unless you like being controversial.
    Sometimes it is necessary to be controversial. Why should a little thing like nail polish be a big deal? After all it is just paint! I see a lot of folks walking around on the city streets and in mall that are tattooed all over their bodies. Both males and females with their arms, legs, and sometimes even the neck covered in multiple colorful tattoos. It is not a big deal and therefore nail polish is not a big deal. The folks that are covered in tattoos exude confidence and they don't care what anyone else thinks. If you want to do something that is out of the ordinary, then you must show complete confidence. If you lack confidence and look like a scared rabbit, folks will notice and they will wonder what you are up to. It will draw attention and stares. It would happen no matter how you are dressed. When women starting wearing items from male fashion such as pants and many other items, they just went out there and did it with complete confidence. Yes many of those women took some criticism for it, but that is what is required to affect change. The same is true for men that started wearing earrings. At first they were ridiculed for wearing earrings, but now it has become commonplace and even NFL Football Players wear earrings. It is all what you make of it and how you go about it. I would not suggest wearing bright nail polish to work, but when you are not at work, you can certainly expose you painted nails. Men that started wearing earrings did the same. They didn't wear earrings at work, but when they were away from work, they put the earrings back in. If you don't try to affect change then it may never happen. You can help affect change by proudly wearing feminine items in male mode. We can all be part of the solution as we attempt to achieve gender equality by pushing the envelope of fashion.
    You will become stronger in the ways of the Pink Fog. May the Pink Fog guide you and be with you now and forever.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Anne2345 View Post
    ....Regardless, the experience, both the good and the bad, was quite positive. I proved to myself that I could do it, and I proved to myself that I could remain true to me. In the grand scheme of things, this may not be such a big deal. But to me now, to the person I currently am, and more importantly the person I hope to be, this exercise was a big deal . . . .

    Anne
    This is a big deal. Each step is a big deal. In retrospect they may seem minor, but they are not. Facing challenges, dealing with disappointments, and trying again...that's is how we build confidence and self esteem.

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    Wut you've done is like a beginning point of "owning it". As you carry this through you will so totally reach the point where you "own" your whole look and are so kewl and confident, almost nobody questions it any longer. It's like others sense the total F you attitude you expressed with your nails and life becomes so much more better. You have arrived. .

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jamie001 View Post
    Sometimes it is necessary to be controversial. Why should a little thing like nail polish be a big deal? After all it is just paint! I see a lot of folks walking around on the city streets and in mall that are tattooed all over their bodies. Both males and females with their arms, legs, and sometimes even the neck covered in multiple colorful tattoos. It is not a big deal and therefore nail polish is not a big deal. The folks that are covered in tattoos exude confidence and they don't care what anyone else thinks. If you want to do something that is out of the ordinary, then you must show complete confidence. If you lack confidence and look like a scared rabbit, folks will notice and they will wonder what you are up to. It will draw attention and stares. It would happen no matter how you are dressed. When women starting wearing items from male fashion such as pants and many other items, they just went out there and did it with complete confidence. Yes many of those women took some criticism for it, but that is what is required to affect change. The same is true for men that started wearing earrings. At first they were ridiculed for wearing earrings, but now it has become commonplace and even NFL Football Players wear earrings. It is all what you make of it and how you go about it. I would not suggest wearing bright nail polish to work, but when you are not at work, you can certainly expose you painted nails. Men that started wearing earrings did the same. They didn't wear earrings at work, but when they were away from work, they put the earrings back in. If you don't try to affect change then it may never happen. You can help affect change by proudly wearing feminine items in male mode. We can all be part of the solution as we attempt to achieve gender equality by pushing the envelope of fashion.
    Jamie I agree with you that sometimes you need to be controversial. I am just saying that there is no reason to whine if you don't get the results you want. Earrings, tattoo's, piercings, clothes, paint, eye make up, hair styles, and so on are on my "I could care less" list. The only thing I absolutely hate is seeing a male professional athlete with hair pouring out from under his helmet. But that's just me. I would not comment to the individual because there is no gain to be made, but again that's just me.

    I have a pink polo shirt I some times wear to work and occasionally get comments. For the love of Pete, it's only a color , but I am not surprised if someone reacts in a negative or joking manner. Trend setting rarely starts with an individual making a sachet to the mall, it usually starts with a fashion designer or celeb. You go Johnny Depp with that cool eye makeup!

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    Quote Originally Posted by EllieOPKS View Post
    But honestly Anne, did you expect anything other than what you received? We all agree that in this microcosm of a forum what you did was no big deal but you go to a very public display with the desire for people to see your nail polish and get upset because they do just that but don't necessarily agree with you. There's a proper time and place for everything unless you like being controversial.
    Quote Originally Posted by EllieOPKS View Post
    I am just saying that there is no reason to whine if you don't get the results you want.
    Had I known there was a "proper time and place" for doing such things as wearing nail polish in public, perhaps I could have saved everyone the trouble and simply worn socks and shoes. I should have thought of that before. What the heck was I thinking??!! How silly of me!!!

    And to think, I have done nothing but "whine" about it ever since. What's funny, though, is that I thought I was writing about my experiences, thoughts, perceptions, feelings, and emotions, and putting it all out here for discussion, debate, and comment. I was unaware that I was "whining" about it, instead. Totally my bad . . . .

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    Annie, your toes ROCK!!!! Just beautiful! Ok, here comes the unsolicited advice. . .

    First, do not let strangers, or anyone else to an extent, affect your mood! The girls had the issue, not you! Don't even let it put a shadow on a lovely, fun day!

    Second, the teens. Owning a couple myself, I have a little insight into this. Teenage girls are as fragile and insecure as a house of cards. They often bolster themselves with this kind of cruel, pack behavior. What you need to remember is that it is all bluster (unless you are truly dealing with juvenile delinquents!) Approaching them with a big smile and saying something like "I'm glad that you like my toes. Pretty, huh?" would likely collapse the facade and sent them mumbling and scurrying off. I was in a Sephora once and a group of teen girls were whispering and giggling, clearly at my loveliness! We came face-to-face and I gave them a big lipstick smile and said hello. Their initial reaction (utter shock) was priceless and they said "hello" and disappeared.

    Quote Originally Posted by Jamie001 View Post
    Reine,

    I don't agree with you on this one. I believe that I would draw more stares and comments fully crossdressed and obviously not passing as compared to my normal mode of a male wearing women's sandals and painted toenails.
    Jamie, I think I'm with Reine on this one. My personal experience has been that what little hassles I've had have been when I have been in "feminine" spaces while drab. People tend to notice the male-female differences or the gender "transgressions" more than they do passing or not, IMHO.

    Oh yeah, OPI "Yodel Me On My Cell" on my toes! (Seriously, how do I get the job of naming nail polish?)
    Last edited by Debglam; 07-09-2012 at 01:42 PM.
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    Quote Originally Posted by EllieOPKS View Post
    Earrings, tattoo's, piercings, clothes, paint, eye make up, hair styles, and so on are on my "I could care less" list.
    They're on my "couldn't care less list", as well. Expressions of individuality are a right each of us owns.

    Quote Originally Posted by EllieOPKS
    The only thing I absolutely hate is seeing a male professional athlete with hair pouring out from under his helmet.
    First thing that came to mind is Clay Matthews... an outstanding NFL linebacker giving his all to "bring it"; he's all man and wears his hair long, as do many counter-culturist anti-authoritarian players of the most awesome sport in the civilized world.

    I have hair which hasn't been cut in over six years... and I flaunt it everyday as a male. Just don't make the mistake of calling me out on it... I'm on a hair trigger!

    Quote Originally Posted by Anne2345 View Post
    Had I known there was a "proper time and place" for doing such things as wearing nail polish in public, perhaps I could have saved everyone the trouble and simply worn socks and shoes. I should have thought of that before. What the heck was I thinking??!! How silly of me!!!

    And to think, I have done nothing but "whine" about it ever since. What's funny, though, is that I thought I was writing about my experiences, thoughts, perceptions, feelings, and emotions, and putting it all out here for discussion, debate, and comment. I was unaware that I was "whining" about it, instead. Totally my bad . . . .
    Anne, the proper time and place is now, and everyday going forward. Your pedicure is beautiful, and you've every right to show it off.

    There's no "whining" in your thread, just an expression of freedom to be yourself for which many have made the ultimate sacrifice. So please don't let those who would impose their narrow-minded attitudes dissuade you from expressing yourself.

    I'm a veteran, and I've got your back. 'Cause they'll never take back what we've won.

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    Hi Anne. Thanks for sharing your experience. I dropped off a prescription at my drive-up pharmacy window and handed the pharmacy technician my empty bottle. I have opaque pink polish that is really, really noticeable. The 20-something technician asks with all the tact and subtlety of a 5-year-old, "Are you wearing nail polish??" I said, "yes." She shook her head really obviously like she was disgusted. I was pissed at her for judging me, but I got over it quickly.

    The fact is, I recently came to a point when I stopped caring what people think. It wasn't a conscious effort or anything that I can claim to have accomplished. I just noticed that I began to feel very much relaxed and at peace with myself when dressed en femme. I really don't even notice if anyone is looking at me, staring, or whatever. I'm very lucky in this respect. It feels so natural now and is definitely what I've always desired.

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    I admire you for showing them off in public but I'm not surprised at what happened, especially when it comes to teenage girls. I think your pedicure looks nice. Getting a full pedicure like yours is one thing I have never done but would love to do, maybe I will some day.

    This weekend my wife gave me a pedicure and painted my toes bright red. I think she did a great job and I actually like how they look, but unfortunately they have been hidden in men's socks and shoes since. I thought about posting a picture on here but didn't. You are way ahead of me on accepting yourself for who you are and not being afraid to express yourself. I wouldn't let the comments and stares get you down.
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    Anne,

    Pretty Tootsie's. Popsicle toes Baby!!

    Seemingly the people that react that hard, and harass, have emotional issues that you/we are triggering.

    The young girls are insecure. They have been handed a censored picture of the world, one made of glass(a touch of the dramatic). And you shattered it.

    Your pretty toes told them that their is more than man and woman in the world. And they could not handle it, the girls needed to create drama to run from their fear.

    Teens create drama because they are insecure. They do not want to view what lies ahead of them, or they have no other things to occupy them. Or emperically, are starved for experiences and want to see what happens.

    So what I am saying is that obviously you are the protagonist in this story but the reactions have nothing to do with you, so do not take them in too deeply.

    The more you look at it the more it will disappear. The truth will set you free etc

    Are you presenting as a woman? Or a man with shaved legs and pretty toes.
    I wonder if....oh well.

    I am rooting for you Anne. And am your sister. I love to feel fem too and always have painted toes.

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