I'm sorry the teenage girls were so mean. My SO (and many other members here) stay away from places where they and teenage boys (who can also be mean) congregate, namely the mall on Saturdays, although it is more difficult to avoid them now that school is out. Some children are not taught manners and they will not have the maturity to keep their opinions to themselves until they are adult.
Developing a thick skin is essential, but this does not mean the comments won't be hurtful. My SO feels the same way, and so do I when I hear them. I don't think I will ever stop feeling hurt ... except when I feel angry.
Quick question for you, simply because I don't like to make assumptions; you mention being out all week. Were you going out in male mode with perfectly shaved legs and pedicure and if so were you wearing feminine sandals, or were you presenting as Anne? People are not accustomed to seeing individuals who present as males and who incorporate something that is obviously feminine. If you were Anne, however, the extent of the rude remarks surprise me, although I do understand the stares if you were read. But I'll tell you my own secret: when I encounter the stares I tell myself these people are expressing a mild curiosity; they may not necessarily be judging us. Or, they may not know for sure whether my SO is male or female and they're just trying to figure it out. Or, (this is a good one), they are struck by her beauty.
The lack of compliments about your nails: yes, they are beautiful. But it is summer time and not unusual to see red and pink toe nails. Your toes do not stand out as being more beautiful than anyone else who paints them (sorry
). The point I'm making is that having painted nails is particularly beautiful for you since you're mentally comparing them to your male looking toe nails. This is understandable. But, others don't see it through your lens. They just think "Oh, painted toenails with designs on them". And please Anne, as a friend and for your own peace fo mind I'm asking you to reconsider your theory that people are jealous. They really aren't.