Told the wife's BFF about me

[DeniseNJ]

Well as some of you know s
South NJ was hit with some nasty winds. It took out Power to nearly 130,000 homes and businesses. I was fortunate to get power back after just 24 hrs. My wifes best girl friend stayed here for a few days, due to extended outages. Well when I feel low I need girl time, so I went out to get a pedicure before the storm. Tho a more netural color, how I wanted a bright pink, I had to spring for a design. I went out after the pedi to stores and the casinos wearing shorts and my girly flats. it felt so good to be me + I loved the look. Ok well my wife was letting me walk around barefoot and didn't flip out too much but she still hates me getting polish on. I have a pool and I didn't want to take the color off so I left it on and was acting normal. Thursday night when my wife went to take a shower , I asked Kathy if she please wouldn't make a big deal about my pedicure as not to piss off the wife. That turned into me showing her the pics of my Vegas Makeover and many other heel and pedicure pics. she was in AWE. She called me a Bitch and said my feet looked better than hers so I opened up and showed her more pics of Denise , she had seen me dressed many years ago for Halloween but never knew that I was really a cd. She is so supportive and said Hey! if it makes you feel good do it. I told her I have 14 pairs of heels she couldn't beliieve it. The pic that I am posting are the heels I modeled for her. She was like I want those heels, She made me feel like her girlfriend as we chatted. She said your such a Bitch, I love it, that made me feel good.. Today it will be over 100* and I hope I keep the polish on and go in the pool but some of her family might come over and if they see my feet my wife will get mad cause it will embarrass her. Time will tell but all I know is it is starting to feel so much more natural walking around and not careing what people think. I spent over 4 hours in three different Casinos that night and not one funny stare or comment and yes my flats were womens and you could tell. I felt so relieved telling my wife's friend , If my wife knew I was telling her about Denise and showing her pics , The wife has yet to see my Makeover pics from Vegas, she is like I don't ask so don't tell. Well, I am out to another person and the list is slowly growing. It feels so good to share me with others.

[DonnaT]

That's a great look/combination!

Don't forget, if you need to remove the polish to make your wife happy, you can always go back and get another pedi later to make yourself happy.

[Marlana]

I'm also jealous. Love the nails and the heels. Good luck with the family coming over.

[Cynthia Anne]

The heels and toes are very pretty indeed! Pissing the wife off is never pretty! Hugs!

[stacycoral]

The heels and toes are very pretty indeed! Pissing the wife off is never pretty! Hugs!

i would have agree with Cynthia, and jeolus off not having my toes done. hugs girl

[jillleanne]

Ok, you've punished me enough. Where did you get those sandals in the pic? I need them!!!!

[Jolene Robertson]

Denise, Not good to piss off the wife, but the nails do look fantastic and I would hate to take that off too.

Jolene

[Beverley Sims]

I think Jolene has it....
Don't dig a hole for yourself.
Don't piss off the wife.

[Lori B]

I wouldn`t push it too far,,,your very lucky that she`s accepting..........btw,,nice tootsies and shoes

[STACY B]

Hell I thought thats what they made Crocs for ,,,Cover up a pedi !!! For your eyes onlt Baby ,,,lol,,,, Some folks just dont deserve to see our pretty feet ,, LOL,,,

[DeniseNJ]

I got the heels at the Avenue it is a plus sized womens store .. They always have a nice selection of heels in larger sizes. I bought a few pair there. look up the website they got some newer shoes that I would love to buy Thanks girls, yes i am fortunate to have nice feet, if only I were a size 9m, I would have more shoes and if I wore a size 6 dress , I would be in heaven!!!

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Denise, That picture looks fantastic remember don't rock the boat
because you could be thrown overboard by the captian.

[DeniseNJ]

I can't believe my wife isn't making a fuss. Today her son saw my toes, I know he knows I crossdress but we don't talk about it. He stays over and watches the dogs while we are gone for a day or a week and he is a snoop , I am sure he has seen my heels in his old closet along with my fem undergarments and a few dresses and a draw full of nail polish. In the PAST it was
{Take that Sh!t off NOW!} in a stern voice and if I didn't she would start fight. Maybe she is just tired of yelling. I think I will go out to the Pool and lie on the raft to tan up my feet in the hot sun

[Joanna Maguire]

My wife told my daughters. She was suprised that they already knew I was a CD They had found my sstash and some pics of me enfemme in my drawers plus on the internet plus traces of nail polish on my nails. They had known long before I told my wife as they saw me dressed out in public.Some of their friends also knew. Now most of my wifes friends know as have seen me dressed in public with my wife and spoken to us in public and at home when they visit. I am now much happier that almost every one knows except my sone

[Babeba]

I it really fair to your wife to tell her friend without her knowing?

[DeniseNJ]

I it really fair to your wife to tell her friend without her knowing?

I never even thought of it that way. My reply {Is life fair to the average Crossdresser?} Is it unfair to not tell the truth sometimes. I have known Kathy for over 20 years !~!!

[Babeba]

I never even thought of it that way. My reply {Is life fair to the average Crossdresser?} Is it unfair to not tell the truth sometimes. I have known Kathy for over 20 years !~!!

You definitely have the right to tell or not tell whoever you want about your cross dressing - but, this is your wife's best friend, the person she probably goes to for her good and bad moments. Maybe she wanted to keep her relationship with Kathy free of having to think about trans stuff. Maybe she had held back from telling her because she worried it might change their friendship. Maybe she didn't tell to give you a little privacy with people you know and would have really liked to confide.

Now, your wife will never have another conversation with her best friend without that elephant hanging around in the room. It might hurt her friend that your wife didn't tell her. It certainly will hurt your wife if she finds out from her friend that this conversation happened rather than from you.

If it's okay to tell a certain person, shouldn't it be okay with giving your wife the heads-up beforehand? If you can't let your wife know you are telling her best friend, maybe your reasons for sharing are not good enough.

[Badtranny]

{Is life fair to the average Crossdresser?}

No. Life isn't fair to a single one of us because life isn't fair to anyone.

The average crossdresser wants fantasy acceptance. Real life acceptance is dirty and dangerous and difficult. Not exactly the realm of the "average crossdresser"

[shesadvl]

You definitely have the right to tell or not tell whoever you want about your cross dressing - but, this is your wife's best friend, the person she probably goes to for her good and bad moments. Maybe she wanted to keep her relationship with Kathy free of having to think about trans stuff. Maybe she had held back from telling her because she worried it might change their friendship. Maybe she didn't tell to give you a little privacy with people you know and would have really liked to confide.

Now, your wife will never have another conversation with her best friend without that elephant hanging around in the room. It might hurt her friend that your wife didn't tell her. It certainly will hurt your wife if she finds out from her friend that this conversation happened rather than from you.

If it's okay to tell a certain person, shouldn't it be okay with giving your wife the heads-up beforehand? If you can't let your wife know you are telling her best friend, maybe your reasons for sharing are not good enough.

I agree with everything Babeba has said here, more so,... no matter your wife is accepting, dont you realise that no matter the acceptance she is as much in the Closet with you,
and if you are outting yourself to her friends isnt it a Tad selfish of you.

Some of you crossdressers, all go off that your wives are not accepting,... and here is a classic example of why these wives,.. who do accept that you dress,do go off at you,.. because you behave in this manner.

Like some of the CD'ing members have said here Denise its not good to piss off your wife, I sincerely hope you are more up front with her since this has happened, as if the friend
has a conversation with her re you/Denise, theres gonna be hell to pay....

Life is not fair to anyone sometimes no matter you dress or not... so doesnt it pay to always be up front and honest... at least you will get to know where you stand.....

[Silentpartner GG SO]

I would be very unhappy if my SO told my BF and didnt tell me first that he was going to do so. What is going on? its seems to me almost as if you are trying to be 'girlfriends' with your wife's best friend and sidelining your wife.

Its hardly surprising that Kathy was fine with your CD'ing etc. she doesnt have to live with you 24/7 does she, she has a totally different view of it all and lets be honest, even if she wasnt fine and actually, secretly thought you were a perv or whatever, she's hardly likely to say so when she is staying in your home is she! and she certainly wouldnt to ruin her friendship with your wife because of it - you've actually put Kathy in a very difficult position - if she tells your wife that you have come out to her then your wife will be pissed because you've told Kathy behind her back, and if she doesnt tell her, then she will feel bad about keeping something so personal from her - she's in a no win situation now.

Originally Posted by DeniseNJ

I never even thought of it that way. My reply {Is life fair to the average Crossdresser?} Is it unfair to not tell the truth sometimes. I have known Kathy for over 20 years !~!!

So life is unfair to the average Crossdresser - is that an excuse not to be fair to your wife? I think not. Regardless of the fact that you have known Kathy for 20 years, she is your wife's best friend for goodness sake, the person she will, in all likelihood, tell her innermost thoughts to and now there is a huge secret between you and her that your wife is not privy to.

[Jill Devine]

Denise... Denise! You are blowing it girl. Trust me: your wife is not going to be happy about you jumping the gun with HER best friend. This can have terrible consequences and will likely cause extra resentment. My advice is to admit all to your wife and apologize. Not cool.

[DeniseNJ]

I can't change what happened , and she knows how my wife is and how much I do for he . She see's the total disrespect my wife has for me and that''s is on a daily basis. She even tells my wife that she is lucky I put up with her shit and that has nothing to do with my crossdressing. Can I QUOTE Doris DAY here PS: If I messed up , I never said that I was perfect. We all make choises some good / some bad <> maybe my choise wasn't a good one so if I offended anyone in here I am sorry. It is my CROSS to bear and only I will feel the repercussions. I guess I better come down off my HIGH Pass the Paxil please!!!

[Helen Grandeis]

In his essays on leadership, the late RADM James Bond Stockdale (senior POW in Vietnam and Medal of Honor) was a believer that life is inherently NOT fair. Those who could stop worrying about why this terrible thing happened to them survived the experience better.

[Di]

I can't change what happened

I read this post earlier and thought wow what a JERK( meaning jerk thing to do)....but knew I should not say that.....and now you see it was not such a cool thing to do so live and learn.
But really if she is your wifes best friend....I am sure she will say something.

[BobbieBrooks]

Get a lawyer, marry the best friend. problem solved. Going to happen if you keep doing this to your wife. My 2 cents.

BobbieB