Crossdressing Goal

[linda allen]

What is your Crossdressing Goal?

We have members here who are satisfied wearing a pair of panties to bed and we have members who have had reassignment surgery and are living as females and we have everything in between.

Some of us are where we want to be, some haven't started, and some are part of the way towards their goal. So:

How far do you want to take your crossdressing and how far along are you?

I'll go first:

I don't want to be a woman or live as one. I don't want to be "out of the closet" to my friends or neighbors. I don't want to be "out of the closet" to my grown children or their children. I just don't want the hassle.

I am wearing bras and panties in public and I am wearing female clothing in my home around my wife. She gave me some and we have shopped together for the rest. I am not wearing forms, wig, female shoes, jewelry, or makeup. There are things I want to do with her at some point. I'm working on it.

So in a few words, my goal is to dress and act like a woman in my own home and around my wife and have her accept and enjoy this. My ultimate goal then would be to go with her to a town and hour or two away where nobody would recognize either of us and spend time in public with her as two women out sightseeing and shopping on the town.

[KARI AN]

Sounds like me, my wife helps me to pick out clothes buys me bras and panties. My goal is to live like I feel and go out as I should be, yes some times its difficult to complete but for the past few months it seems to be working, makeup, dressing and feeling like the woman I am.

[Julie1123]

My goal is a bit narcissistic I guess. I want to be able to look in the mirror and think, "Yeah. I would be attracted to her."

[Nichola]

I'm just a normal guy most of the time, but as a goal, I'd love to get out to just live a little as a girl & have a bit of fun

[Cheryl T]

I don't really have a goal. A few years ago when I came out I did. I wanted to meet others and be able to go out. Now I've done that and we go out all the time.

As for where I'm headed, I don't really know. I don't give that much thought. I'm on a journey, so much is new and everything is interesting. I'm just going one step at a time and seeing where this path leads.

[kimdl93]

I started out stating that I have no goals, but that's not entirely accurate. I have accomplished a number of things that weren't necessarily goals - such as dressing pretty much full time, going out in my community and meeting neighbors en femme, shopping, etc. And I'm out to several close family members and friends. This all happened without a plan, more or less on its own momentum.

So where might the momentum carry me? Hard to say. I hope that eventually my wife and I can travel together en femme. That will be a big step for her...but I have no timetable and make no demands.

[Marlana]

My goal is to someday be able to fully put the whole package together, makeup, wig shoes, and really hot outfit. At sometime I would like to be able to go out with other "girls" and just be in public having a good time. I really don't want to come out to family and friends. My wife knows, but is not ok with it so, add that to the list. For now, I wear a bra and panties every night and morning until I can wear them all the time.

[Cynthia Anne]

My goal is to give up cding! But right now I can't! 'Cause I'm busy painting my finger nails so I can get dressed to go shopping!!! Hugs!

[Barbara Ella]

Things have happened so rapidly to me over the last ten months that I really have had little time to think of goals. I have been too busy trying to figure out what it was that i just did, and why the hell would I ever to something like that! While the physical things have slowed, the mental hurdles are increasing. My goals pertain to not coming out to friends and family outside of my wife. I am still thinking on the makeover, and a transformation.

My first goal is always to be having fun with who I am. That takes a lot of work by itself.

Barbara

[Beverley Sims]

Linda I am similar to you except I have been away, overseas and partly lived the dream.
I am not interested in coming out at home but when away the mice can and do play.
I do underdress all the time and dress androgonously most of the time.
Not at work though.
I do not aspire to do much more except give support to those that want to transition.
We have some fun times together, me usually as a man outwardsly.

[Jaymees22]

Hi Linda, My goal is to improve at dressing and make up. i never realized how hard it is to put make up on. i feel I'm okay from the neck down. I hope practice makes perfect. i have gone out in the car, to a park and took a picture of myself, I thought that was an accompllishment. My next mission is to go out and get a cup of coffee in public, I think I better wait for colder weather so I can wear more clothes. I'm afraid my goals are a little silly, but my main goal is to have fun!!! Jaymee

[Marleena]

I don't want to be "out of the closet" to my friends or neighbors. I don't want to be "out of the closet" to my grown children or their children. I just don't want the hassle.

Nice idea for a thread Linda. Agree with the above.

I don't really have any goals left. I just go with the flow. It's different for each of us. We all seem to end up in different places on the TG spectrum for the most part. I guess that's what makes us individuals.

[whowhatwhen]

My end goal is looking in the mirror and not seeing a man looking back, everything else, including the clothes while not unimportant take a huge back seat to facial appearance.
I do want to be able to go out eventually, as the only thing keeping me in male mode is quite literally fear.

That being said I'm still talking with my therapist to figure myself out and to help me deal with the stress of all those feelings I get.
As for how far I need to go, we'll see.

In theory I have nothing against going on HRT, but I have to make 100% sure it would be the right decision.
I've dealt with life-threatening side-effects before so that's nothing new, and at this point I'd consider less (or no) erections a bonus.

TL; DR:
I'm crazy.

[Karren H]

I really never had any goals.... And if I had had goals...... I would have met or exceeded every single one already!!

Ok maybe having an artist create fem artwork based on Karren would be a goal... Wait... That happened last week! Lol.

[SallyS]

I guess I'm pretty lucky? I work/study at home, so I can be 'me' for quite a lot of the time.

My SO gives me plenty of space to do my thing, and for that I'm thankful

However I do want to get more involved with the whole CD'ing scene, and hope to meet (face-to-face) with other couples, at some point in the future.

My SO is too busy bringing up the kids, working full-time and keeping me out of trouble

She just doesn't have the time to get too involved with my CD'ing side at the moment. So my 'goal' is to, someday, do things together as girlfriends!

My other goal is for all my children to know about the famale side to my personality, when the time is right

[Jacqueline Winona]

No real goals, but If I did have them they would be similar to yours, Linda. I don't have any desire to blend, pass, etc. I really don't have time to dress that much, and my desire to do so just hasn't been there all that often recently. Hoipefully I can continue doing what I do and being happy with it.

[Pamela Thomas]

I want to look in the mirror and see a woman, go in to the world and be recognized and treated as a lady. The best feeling you can have is being addressed as maam or a guy holding the door for you. I just love being a girl.

[Wildaboutheels]

No goal and no agenda. I simply wear what is comfortable and practical for me. I have never felt the need to "do what everyone else does" even from age 5 or so.

To me thay are JUST clothes and nothing more. It may make me the "odd man out" at this Forum but I can certainly live with that.

[SerenityQueen]

I'm a crossdresser
Just dressing at the moment (no make up, nail polish, wig etc), but I'd like to dress in such a way that I present as a gurl. Even if I do not pass.

[Jennifer W]

I have no actual "goal" except to be comfortable wearing whatever I choose to wear. Right now, I'm basically there.

[onlinecloset]

My goal is to be more comfortable being fully dressed enough where I can go in public even if not passing to a club out somewhere it of town and to think of a way to make my wife thinks its her idea that I try cross dressing maybe a little sneaky but figure if she thought it was her idea she couldn't get mad.. Doubt I'll ever pull that one off but would be great.

[onlinecloset]

Sorry about my typos on my post. Was using my phone and it changed a couple words and didn't check before I posted.

[Msora]

I'm still figuring out my goals. I'll just put passing in public even though I think my face is too masculine for that.

[rachaelsloane]

I've far exceeded any goals I would have set, had I set them. I enjoy being able to go out for drinks and dinner with a friend in SF and interacting with the people we meet. I have had some of the most interesting conversations and these more than likely would not have happened had I been in guy mode.

[Tracii G]

As far as goals I would say I have had them in the past.
Doing my own make up,dressing up and going out in public I suppose were the main ones.
I have come farther that I ever thought I would.