Greeting everyone! I've been following this site for a couple months now, but this is my first post. I want to begin by thanking everyone for your honesty and kindness in the way you all treat one another. I'll admit that it took me off guard as I've come across this forum in the past and thought it a pornographic site (which I'm definitely not into!) I was pleasantly surprised to find that it's anything but that! In fact, you all have been a helpful and comforting resource to me on many occasions. It makes me proud to be part of such a caring and close-knit community and I'm elated to have good people such as yourselves to call friends.
With that said, here is a brief introduction: I've been married 18 years and have four children. I more or less came out to my wife about a month after we married and over the years my wife has been through several cycles of acceptance and rejection over my crossdressing. Sadly, we have most recently entered a phase of rejection, prompted in part by a website my sweetheart found called: help4families.com The proprietor, Denise Shick runs a ministry for families of crossdressers. Apparently her father was not a very nice man who also happened to engage in crossdressing.
I'll let you judge for yourselves, but I can't help but wonder if Mrs. Shick's efforts might be more than a little misguided, if not homophobic and hateful.
Literature from the site basically instructs women that if they find their men crossdressing that they need to ask them to leave the house immediately and not return until they have rid themselves of all clothing, stopped shaving their bodies, cut all ties with transgender support groups and allowed the wife total access to all internet surfing, e-mail and telephone.
I can certainly understand that Mrs. Shick is trying to be helpful and supportive to wives in trauma over finding out for the first time about their husband's hidden secret. (That's why we don't keep secrets, right ladies?) And I in no wise underestimate the cost a crossdresser can bring to a family in emotional drain, time and actual dollars. On the other hand, having been through years of therapy, I truly believe that there is no "cure" and that crossdressing can be kept in check at a healthy level.
Has anyone else had experience with the site or any of the resources they offer? My wife wants me to join one of their support groups and I'm feeling a little uneasy about it.