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    Do you think it's inevitable that you will have to give it up?

    This is mainly for younger crossdressers, but anyone can give their opinion

    The main conflict I have with crossdressing is the possible inevitability of having to give it up. I love being a woman and prefer to be in my female clothes but I feel every time I become Katie, she's one day closer to going away for good, mainly because I know that this is still a taboo thing to do and I know I would give it all up in a heartbeat for the right woman. Do any of you feel this way?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katiegal View Post
    This is mainly for younger crossdressers, but anyone can give their opinion

    The main conflict I have with crossdressing is the possible inevitability of having to give it up. I love being a woman and prefer to be in my female clothes but I feel every time I become Katie, she's one day closer to going away for good, mainly because I know that this is still a taboo thing to do and I know I would give it all up in a heartbeat for the right woman. Do any of you feel this way?
    As a CD who is not so young any more, I'm firmly convinced that you cannot give it up, regardless of whether or not you find the "right woman"(and btw, the"right woman" is the one who will not want you to give it up, but will share it with you) Any attempt to give up CDing for someone else will not only make you very very unhappy but be unsucessful. Sooner or later it will raise its lovely, silken head again.
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    I will try and answer this one however I'm middle age... I have stopped dressing several times over the years for the right women. I have thrown clothes away and even torched a bunch of them one time. I found that for several years I could bury all crossdressing tendencies but then it came back around again. It was the old whip factor and it cracked me hard in the back of the head. Now I have no intention of ever quitting but at the same time I have an awesome wife! I thank the stars she doesn't ask me to put it all away because I can't anymore. I'm not going to live my life with the shame and guilt as I did before, screw that but at the same time I would never want to give everything up for womens clothes either. What a crazy thing.

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    I guess my only fear is that the kids will find out about my dressing after I die.
    I just do not want them to think badly of me; now or some time in the future.
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    Katie I feel the exact same way you do. There is nothing I love more than being Riley, but there is a feeling sometimes that I need to give it up and move on. I have quit many times and had no desire to dress but for me it just kind of takes one thing and I'm right back doing it. I dont know how things will go in the future as I'm fixin to move out of my parents house, I may give it up or the desire will grow. But I guess the only way to see is to let things take their coarse and just enjoy the time you have being Katie.

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    It's not inevitable that you will give it up, however odds are you will abandon it before your life's end. I am 70 and have been cross dressing since the 1950's. I have been everywhere and done it all. Dressing now is a real chore. It takes time, energy and money that is at a premium now. My results are still good 70 passing for 50 LOL.
    I still do enjoy it, more so now at home in private though. Last wekend I was out to dinner, show and karaoke. The thrill was just not there this time and has been decreasing over the past three years. I am tired of battling Societies Phobias about gender issues. Their ignorance bres me now. I no longer want to be an ambassador for Trans life. Good luck to you all. Keep in mind it does come to an end the day you look in the mirror and you see your grandmother.

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    Guilt and shame forced me to make a decision back in '97. I let it all go for 13 years. And then all of a sudden, in 2010, it was triggered when I told my new wife about what I once "USED" to do. She loved it and so I did and now it is in me now for life. I cannot give up the desire ever, I can obstain sometimes, for my wife's sake, and it brings me great emotional pain to have to surpress it, so now I can anytime I want to. During the 13 year purge, it never left my mind though. It did seem though that one time my boss chewed me out in his office really ,really badly. It hurt me so. On my way home that day, though it had been years, I had one of the most uncontrolable urges to become Tara, I felt weightless in my car, I had a yearning and a craving to become her, but had nothing by way of that. Something that day was calling me in my mind, though I didn't follow what I was feeling that day, but it had been years, and all of a sudden, that but chewing triggered the desire ever so strongly.

    With that being said, I know with all certainty, that for some of us that have been this way since the earliest of childhood, that it (the desire) never leaves us, Tara will be with me for the rest of my life.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Katiegal View Post
    This is mainly for younger crossdressers, but anyone can give their opinion

    The main conflict I have with crossdressing is the possible inevitability of having to give it up. I love being a woman and prefer to be in my female clothes but I feel every time I become Katie, she's one day closer to going away for good, mainly because I know that this is still a taboo thing to do and I know I would give it all up in a heartbeat for the right woman. Do any of you feel this way?
    You would give it all up for the right woman? Maybe for a while. But like a shiny new car that finally becomes just another monthly payment, the newness wears off and the desire to dress returns. Usually stronger than it was before.

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    yea i think we all thought that at one time and most have tried only to find it was never gone just in hiding for a short time this is not something i want to do it is something i have done all of my life and i am now comfortable with my self because it is who i amand i am happy being me and the right woman will be happy with me as i am Hugs Ronda
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    Nope, never.
    I've read so many posts here about those who've tried and the relationships destroyed by people hiding who they really are.

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    I am 29, i'm married and i have a 5 year old daughter. I don't see me ever giving up. As i've got older my confidence as Katie has increased as has the quality of the result i see in the mirror. But i go through periods where i don't dress for months at a time. It always comes back....
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    i just asked myself this a few hours ago. sorta freaked out at the possibility of not being able to dress or live openly about my sexuality. soon i'll have to take a pause from this wonderful lifestyle. it's a decision that has taken years for me to commit to, but it's what i want. i want to do something that will require me to be 100% committed. once that's over i will bring sandy out of the closet again.

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    Hi Katie, Crossdressing is like the Miafa, You can't just quit it.
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    id love to give it up tomorrow....... what I really fear is the day I have to give up playing ice hockey..... which is coming sooner than I want.....
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    Quote Originally Posted by Karren Hutton View Post
    id love to give it up tomorrow....... what I really fear is the day I have to give up playing ice hockey..... which is coming sooner than I want.....
    If you give up hockey, there's always crossdressing.....just sayin'

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    Quote Originally Posted by NathalieX66 View Post
    If you give up hockey, there's always crossdressing.....just sayin'
    Hockey is my life.... Anything else is just a place I go between games!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Karren Hutton View Post
    id love to give it up tomorrow....... what I really fear is the day I have to give up playing ice hockey..... which is coming sooner than I want.....
    There's always the "running of the brides" in Boston and elsewhere. Probably almost as physical as hockey and you get to shop at the same time!
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    I actually think that it is a great question that has caused me to think about what would happen if I had to give it all up. In your case as others have already said, I think that it will always come back from everything that I have read, though one member here believes that anyone can give it up completely. As it applies to me, being an older and very late starter, I have wondered what is going to happen when I can not physically take care of myself through an accident, severe illness or just more old age. I guess at that point I probably just have to live without it, though I really do enjoy it and embrace it as an important part of me.

    Regarding your kids finding out before or after your soul leaves this good earth, I think that they will have to deal with it as best they can. My kids don't know and probably will not know unless they "discover" or catch me in the act. So, when I die they may have the answer to why I am acting different since retiring, i.e. ears pierced, plucked eyebrows and a very big closet overflowing with women's clothing and accessories. I trust me kids to handle it well, hopefully getting some good laughs out of it. Even if they do not, I really do not care. I know that they love me with all my strangeness known and unknown. When I am dead, I am dead and it really does not matter.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AllieSF View Post
    I have wondered what is going to happen when I can not physically take care of myself through an accident, severe illness or just more old age. I guess at that point I probably just have to live without it, though I really do enjoy it and embrace it as an important part of me.
    This is something that worries me. I can't imagine what it would be like to be in an old peoples home and not be able to dress. I think that would drive me nuts. Not to hijack this thread but my wife Marla has said the same to me that it would be such a shame for an older CDer in that kind of senior home situation and she even said that she would love to go visit old folks at the home (that she knew from before) and help them dress, put makeup on etc and be able to help them to still enjoy their dressing. However, she thinks that the senior's home staff would probably have something to say about that, as well as the family of the CD (especially if they were still in the closet to their family) .. in other words. It's not really work-able or do-able.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rachel Morley View Post
    This is something that worries me. I can't imagine what it would be like to be in an old peoples home and not be able to dress. I think that would drive me nuts. Not to hijack this thread but my wife Marla has said the same to me that it would be such a shame for an older CDer in that kind of senior home situation and she even said that she would love to go visit old folks at the home (that she knew from before) and help them dress, put makeup on etc and be able to help them to still enjoy their dressing. However, she thinks that the senior's home staff would probably have something to say about that, as well as the family of the CD (especially if they were still in the closet to their family) .. in other words. It's not really work-able or do-able.
    Now that my wife knows I don't think I could ever give it up. Its too much a part of me now - always was but now its running in high gear!

    And, Rachel, you are right that the dressing assistance thing for the home bound would be hard to pull off but I admire your wife for even thinking that that would be a good idea. That is very respectable.
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    As a matter of fact Im looking forward to getting older as far as dressing goes ,,Cuz when people get older they tend to start looking alike ,, Sometimes when ya see older folks its harder to tell there gender ,,So it will be easier for all of us to get by .. Yee,,,,Haww,,,Im an ol Lady,,,, Nobodys mean to an ol Lady !
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    Quote Originally Posted by AllieSF View Post
    I actually think that it is a great question that has caused me to think about what would happen if I had to give it all up. In your case as others have already said, I think that it will always come back from everything that I have read, though one member here believes that anyone can give it up completely. As it applies to me, being an older and very late starter, I have wondered what is going to happen when I can not physically take care of myself through an accident, severe illness or just more old age. I guess at that point I probably just have to live without it, though I really do enjoy it and embrace it as an important part of me.

    Regarding your kids finding out before or after your soul leaves this good earth, I think that they will have to deal with it as best they can. My kids don't know and probably will not know unless they "discover" or catch me in the act. So, when I die they may have the answer to why I am acting different since retiring, i.e. ears pierced, plucked eyebrows and a very big closet overflowing with women's clothing and accessories. I trust me kids to handle it well, hopefully getting some good laughs out of it. Even if they do not, I really do not care. I know that they love me with all my strangeness known and unknown. When I am dead, I am dead and it really does not matter.
    I could not have put it better myself, and my daughter (25) knows.

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    Id say that 70% of the people on this forum are more TG than simply CD. Its not like a light switch that you can turn off and on. Its something very deep within us that we have had since birth. A lot of us dont want to be this way, but the inner feminine attitude wins out. I honestly dont know how you can simply say "Im not doing this anymore", and just stop forever. If I could....... I would have stopped years ago. Somedays I hate myself for being like this, but I'm drawn to it like a bug to a light. I just can't resist the feelings that come over me when I see Heather looking back at me in the mirror. Hopefully, someday I'll be able to put it in my past, but I have no idea how that will happen.

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    Sure. Go ahead. Give it up. You will not be happy in the long run, trust me. I know....

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    Giving it up?! Please, maybe give the woman within a vacation but she isn't going anywhere for too long. Try all you may she'll keep whispering in your ear oh so softly.

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