This community was invaluable to me when I was trying to come to terms with my identity. I especially appreciated having a forum specifically set aside for young CDs. The day I "aged out" of that forum, I lost something very special.
Please don't misunderstand me. I don't have anything against the older members here. I've lurked and read as much in this forum as I have in any other forum. This isn't about being better or cooler or anything like that. It's a matter of how well I feel I relate to the members outside the youth forum.
I'm turning 28 this year, but I'm one of those people who has had a late start in life. I've meandered through my education, passing from school to school as part of my quest to form an identity. I have only really been out on my own living as a "real" grownup for about a year, and I'm still in school trying to make something of myself. Chronologically, I may be almost 30, but personally and professionally, I'm about 21.
I see a lot of love, wisdom, and compassion here, but I am only compelled to click on one or two of the posts I see in this forum each day, because I don't feel that I relate to some of the common problems of the people who post here (especially marital issues). Just as GGs of different ages have different concerns and interests, middle aged and older CDs are naturally going to have a lot of conversations that may not be relevant to a younger CD yet.
On the other had, I am now missing out on the conversations that DO matter to me. I care about navigating the minefield of dating as a CD, discussing GLBTQ issues on campus, and even shooting the breeze about video games.
My point is that I feel profoundly lonely now. I am surrounded by people who have one very important thing in common with me, but sometimes it feels like that one thing is the ONLY thing we have in common. I know a community of people who are more like me exists, but I am now outside the fence. Actually, it's more like a solid wall, because I can't even look in.
One day, I'll be more mature, and I'll have problems and questions more like the ones I see here every day. On that day, I will count myself as a very fortunate individual to be in such good company. Once again, I did not mean any disrespect to the people who post in this forum. I simply don't feel as comfortable out here yet. It'll be a long while before I do...