You are correct honesty is always the best policy. However therein lies the dilemma. Do you get all attached and then come out to your SO or do you tell them before the relationship goes to far. I told my wife about it a couple months into our marriage and she was accepting... for a while, then changed her mind. We both came away feeling deceived and cheated. I often ask myself - Would have been better to have told her up front and not get married in the first place? No, because there was so much other good stuff about our relationship. Much like Garth Brooks song - "I could have missed the pain, but I'd have had to miss the dance."Originally Posted by smellymelly
