I have to admit that being a member of this forum and participating to the extent that I do, sometimes I lose sight of how it is in the real world. Since I wouldn't think twice about dating someone who is gender non-conforming (and most of the GGs that I talk to here stay in marriages with gender non-conforming husbands), I guess I sometimes lapse into thinking that most other GGs would find it no big deal.

I agree with Heatherdress, Nini, & Kim though, after reading their posts and being brought back to reality. It is best to develop an emotional connection with someone first, before telling. This is how it was with my SO and I. I knew him for some time before our relationship reached the next level and he told me about the CDing.