The Genderholic
The Genderholic person has developed a primary love relationship with his Crossdressing, making all other relationships secondary. The Genderholic is processing two main feelings: anger and fear. He is angry because he believes that significant others in his life do not understand him. The Crossdressing is not his problem—it is his solution. Why, he wonders, can't people understand that his problems are his spouse, children, or boss?
At the same time, the Genderholic is under constant fear of losing some things he values: his job (which provides the money for his supply of cloths), his family members (whom he labels as one of his main problems), and his sanity. It is difficult if not impossible to hold on to something that is both a major problem and a highly valued behavior. Strong delusion, no matter how sincere, results in creating chronic, painful emotions of shame, loneliness, and guilt. The Genderholic cannot deal with this overwhelming personal pain, but continues to apply his solution: the crossdressing.