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    Junior Member Andrea J's Avatar
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    Does your character change when you dress?

    I'm curious about this. I have heard people talking about how their character changes when they dress and I was wondering how common this was. Particularly, do you 'deliberately' change or does it happen without you really intending it? Do you find you naturally move more femininely? I've heard there are people that change the sex they are attracted to. Or are you permanently feminine however you're dressed? Any interesting stories? I'd love to hear them.

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    Thanks for all the interesting answers everyone! Just one thing, a number of people are missing an important point in their answers: Are the changes put on deliberately or do they just happen naturally?
    Last edited by Andrea J; 09-05-2012 at 03:14 PM.

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    I get all chatty and talkative when I'm dressed. In contrast, I'm usually pretty quiet and shy in boy mode. Probably has more to do with feeling comfortable than it does with trying to be feminine...

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    Nope..... only thing that changes with my clothes are my looks.....
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    My male side is hateful and ugly and inconsiderate to others! My fem side is just the oppersite! That is one of the reasons I am trying to leave my male side behind!
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    In small ways, yes. Actually, I'm just noticing that when I'm typing right now, I'm reading the words in a female voice in my mind. I often wonder if there really is a difference between the way I speak here, and how I speak (as a male) on other forums. A lot of the real life changes are deliberate though. I try to remove male mannerisms like I try to remove my facial hair. It's not really a core-being change, but more of a change in expression.

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    Yeah, Karren will body block with the sweetest smile. I do change...more relaxed, smile more, peaceful.

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    It appears that I'm bi-gendered. It took my wife and I no time at all to realize that Tina has her own characteristics and personality. It was that realization that drove us to an intense curiosity about what role Tina had played in my life to that point (unidentified) and how she might now affect our lives that we know she exists. Therefore, the obvious answer was to engage in the adventure to "make a life for Tina"! My wife always engages Tina in conversation to see how she feels about one topic or another, and just loves it when the he and she of me don't agree!

    Oh, and although I'm predominantly right-handed as a male, Tina is strikingly left handed!

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    I agree with Stephanie, i've been told that i come out of my shell a lot more, i'm more chatty, more communicative and generally a lot more comfortable when Flic is around, contrasted with being very shy and awkward in male mode. I put that down to being an awful lot more comfortable as my true self, which can only be a good thing, quite honestly though, i think the boundaries between my two worlds are blurring hugely these days.

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    In my early days of dressing I was defiantly two separate personalities. My male being was always mad always getting into trouble. I think my male personality was trying to show up my female personality and always failed which just became more frustrating. My female side was fun loving and care free like a dress blowing in the wind. I really enjoyed that side when I could, which wasn’t enough.

    As I have aged my male side has been able to accept my female side and vise versa. They have come together as one being both male and female comingled and of one mind. I am much more content being one and am probably more female than male. I enjoy both sides of me and wouldn’t want to change a thing.

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    Since the female side of me is what makes me feel "normal", yes I do change. I am more gregarious, more friendly, I smile a lot, I truly attract more people who just want to talk. I am calmer. Little things bother me less.
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    Quote Originally Posted by suchacutie View Post
    It appears that I'm bi-gendered. It took my wife and I no time at all to realize that Tina has her own characteristics and personality. It was that realization that drove us to an intense curiosity about what role Tina had played in my life to that point (unidentified) and how she might now affect our lives that we know she exists. Therefore, the obvious answer was to engage in the adventure to "make a life for Tina"! My wife always engages Tina in conversation to see how she feels about one topic or another, and just loves it when the he and she of me don't agree!

    Oh, and although I'm predominantly right-handed as a male, Tina is strikingly left handed!

    That's why it's an adventure!
    I love to hear it when wives are supportive. And the changing of handedness is very interesting. So what do you two disagree about... I mean what do you 'one' disagree about? Is it like what music you prefer, political ideas or what? Hmm, if you disagree about politics then which of you gets to vote? LOL.

    Here's an interesting idea, when you are in boy mode you can write a note to Tina about something you disagree about. When you're Tina you can read it and write a reply. You could have a slow conversation between your two sides. Wonder what would happen. (Or perhaps you can do it by switching back and forth in your head but that wouldn't have been so entertaining.)

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    I'm definitely more calm in girl mode. I certainly swear less and think about alcohol and sex a lot less, all of which are things I tend to do or think about quite a bit in male mode. I also move in a more feminine manner when I'm dressed, it just naturally happens.
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    I too consider myself to be bi-gendered. Meaning, I have personality traits from both teams. While I've known about loving to CD my whole life, I wasn't aware until about a year ago of this other personality. I am still searching for who Jayne is, and want to experience life through her eyes now. She is more creative, outgoing, friendly, artistic. And at the same time a conniving psycho b####! But I can be her with only my nails done, or while dancing around in nothin' but an attitude. I sometimes wonder if I had been born with girl parts instead of boy's, if I would be a different person, and then wish I knew what is was to be male.
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    Hi Andrea, the only thing that changes is that i am better looking for a while.
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    I've recently come to realize that there was more fragmentation between my male and female expressions than I'd thought. I think it was a defense mechanism. I learned to present very well as male when I was younger to avoid being harassed. I'd emphasis what was accepted as male and de-emphasize or distract from what didn't. All of those personality traits I had to suppress showed up as Josie. Neither was complete so, I suppose I wound up "filling in the blanks" over time and my personas fragmented.

    These days, I'm trying to realize that I am who I am regardless of what gender I'm presenting and I'm becoming less concerned about anyone who can't or won't accept me for who I am. It's been working. I find myself in male mode seeing things through Josie's eyes.....it's both fascinating and a little disconcerting to see how much I was shaped by societal expectations....
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    I am more relaxed and wife said I am more confident when I am wearing bra and panties
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    Candice is more spontaneous and out going. But besides that she still listens to the same music and does things that I would normally do. Nothing really changes...

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    My mannerisms do change. I still do the same things I like but I move, sit and act more feminine. I just feel more confortable en femme. I'm more relaxed and at ease. I'm still working on a voice but it's proving to be difficult.

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    Of course... my mannerisms, speech patterns and such change as does my attitude.
    My wife and I were out one night and she made the comment that I "acted very feminine". I told her, "I'm not acting". When I am allowed to be me that's just what I am.
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    Hi,

    My name reflects my maleness & femaleness no-el ,noel or noeleena. pretty much too intertwined to seperate one from the other. When i was younger it was there , just i did not express all of who i was. call it supressed locked down little difference i just did not show much ether way. yet it was seen by a few people my difference unbeknown to me of cause.

    Now i express my self in the way i could not before, so yes a very big difference in who i am now. many lovely changes & hard as it may sound Im so much better to be around & asking Jos she would say very very different & a different person.

    so from percived noel to noeleena totaly different,& for the better,
    A female / woman in the making just had to grow in to myself,

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    I certainly feel more feminine when I dress, but never realized that my personality and mannerisms change too. That is, until my wife brought it up to me.
    She told me that my actions become markedly feminine and that my voice becomes softer. The heels certainly make me walk differently too.
    I'm okay with that. It's sort of what I'm trying to accomplish by dressing to begin with.

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    Hell yea I change ?? You can understand what I say ,,Cuz Im not DRUNK ,,, Now I can see the world threw the right set of eyes ,,Not the Beer Goggles ,, Free at last,,, How Sweet it is to be Free at last ,,,LOL,,,, PS. Save Alot of money to ,,, Buy more clothes ,,,LOL,,,
    Yull Find Out !!! lol,,,,

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