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    Wink Is there a term for someone who is attracted to males only while crossdressed?

    I'm aware that many men crossdress but still identify as straight through and through.

    And I don't find the idea of a man and another man particularly appealing.

    But when I'm crossdressed and (more importantly in a feminine frame of mind) I can imagine it because I am a female and its only natural at that point.

    I also can imagine myself easily with another man who is crossdressed.

    I know this is a common state of mind, but is there a term for it?

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    um.....normal?

    Not my thing, but it's pretty typical, and not that unusual.

    Welcome to being just another garden variety species of transgender.

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    It's not a common state of mind. And the term is homosexual, in the case of a crossdressed male who is attracted to another male.

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    Just look at Craigslist t4m section and you see a lot of these people. Rarely in Chicago do you see a pretty one. But Philippines Craigslist has quite a few very beautiful ladyboys but they all prostitutes because they're looking for a hookup and getting paid.

    I think dressing up and messing with men is the wrong thing to do.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenniferathome View Post
    It's not a common state of mind. And the term is homosexual, in the case of a crossdressed male who is attracted to another male.
    Jennifer, the next time you are at any LGBT bar or club, you will notice that the majority of guys prefer guys, not guys prefer guys dressed as women, or transsexuals.
    But CD'ers who prefer to be in the company of men, and men who are attracted to them do exist.

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    A little more complicated. Common for many hetero CDs en femme to want to be as feminine as possible and with that often comes the desire to have males become attracted (sign they have "passed"). Then most might fantasize but really have no desire to have sex, that is, not attracted to the same gender. Now, since most have a preference for ggs then those that wish to go further are actually bi-sexual.
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    Quote Originally Posted by KateSpade83 View Post
    I think dressing up and messing with men is the wrong thing to do. .
    That isn't adultery unless they have a spouse who doesn't know she's out with men.
    Also, practicing safe sex reduces the chances of contracting HIV - just as it would if it were heterosexual sex.

    OP:
    That sort of thing can only be answered with lots of inward reflection and thought.
    It is fairly common, but for the record liking two guys being together isn't a prerequisite for being bi or gay.

    Confusing as hell I know :P
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    Call it whatever you want. I guess if you need a term, I'd pick something like wardrobe-dependent selective bi-curiousity. Personally, I find myself attracted to other men only on Tuesdays, and only when I'm holding a donut in my left hand, and the temperature is in the 80's. Therefore, I'm a Tuesday-exclusive, fried dough-dependant octothermically activated bisexual. See how it works?

    Frankly, all these labels are pretty silly. More than anything, they allow other people to make judgements about you. They allow other people to pigeon-hole you. You are what you are, and you're into what you're into - and there's nothing wrong with any of that. Just be yourself and be proud of who you are, and you won't have to rationalize same-sex curiosity with statements like "well, it's more natural if I'm dressed like a female...

    Quote Originally Posted by KateSpade83 View Post
    I think dressing up and messing with men is the wrong thing to do. .
    How is this adultery? Furthermore, if safe-sex practices are followed, the odds of contracting AIDS (or other STD's) are pretty insignificant. Also, sex toys are a pretty poor substitute for the real thing. To refer to crossdressers who "can't help doing this" is condescending, and implies that the act is somehow wrong - as if it's some kind of pathology. If that's your personal morality, why not keep it to yourself, rather than advise others on how they ought conduct their business?
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    Wow, I should be surprised. People who belong to a minority group and are discriminated against because they are cross dresser or TG's discriminating against a subgroup that likes men?

    But I am not.

    Yes, if a CD or TG is attracted to men only he/she would be gay. If both men and women, then he/she would be bi. But discriminate? Look down on them? PLEASE!!!

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    What do people in the psychological, medical, and academics field say about same sex attraction? Remember, Galileo Galilei was persecuted because his views of the universe contradicted those of the Vatican.....you know, planets that revolve around the sun, us being a mere speck in the Milky Way Galaxy. Scientists have determined that the Earth is 4.6 billion years old, not 6000 years old that some religious folk suggest
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    Quote Originally Posted by SuzieLod View Post
    Wow, I should be surprised. People who belong to a minority group and are discriminated against because they are cross dresser or TG's discriminating against a subgroup that likes men?

    But I am not.

    Yes, if a CD or TG is attracted to men only he/she would be gay. If both men and women, then he/she would be bi. But discriminate? Look down on them? PLEASE!!!
    Don't be.
    We have several members here who are against equality, and it's really hard to wrap one's head around.

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    Quote Originally Posted by twistedkatie View Post
    I know this is a common state of mind, but is there a term for it?
    It's quite common and the term is bisexual.

    Straight men don't fantasize about giving BJ's and neither do lesbians, but bisexual men and women sometimes do.
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    I wouldnt do it, but I see absolutely nothing wrong with someone who wanted to experiment with their sexuality...isnt that what we are doing already?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenniferathome View Post
    It's not a common state of mind. And the term is homosexual, in the case of a crossdressed male who is attracted to another male.
    I think the term should be more like ,,bi sexual.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KateSpade83 View Post
    Just look at Craigslist t4m section and you see a lot of these people. Rarely in Chicago do you see a pretty one. But Philippines Craigslist has quite a few very beautiful ladyboys but they all prostitutes because they're looking for a hookup and getting paid.
    I just noticed this little tidbit.
    I assume you're browsing the t4m section to email all the girls telling them they're going to hell then?

    That's okay, I await your coming out thread and apology to the LGBT community.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KateSpade83 View Post
    Maybe fornication might be the better word.

    As for gay sex with men, there is a phrase in the BIBLE that says no practicing homosexual will enter Heaven. So it's not my morality, it's GOD'S.
    Ah, a crusader with a bible! I see that there will be no reasoning with you. Carry on browsing the T4Ms then, good christian soldier! (:
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    Katie to answer your original question it's called "bi when dressed" the topic comes up a lot in the CD section.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KateSpade83 View Post
    Maybe fornication might be the better word.

    As for gay sex with men, there is a phrase in the BIBLE that says no practicing homosexual will enter Heaven. So it's not my morality, it's GOD'S.
    It would be better if you could show the book, chapter and verse before paraphrasing the bible. The bible is filled with 'don't be homosexual' messages, I just don't recall ever hearing that exact wording. But I don't want to derail this thread either

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    twistedkatie: at what point does the "feminine frame of mine" which I consider crossdressing to be, become nothing more than a man wanting to be with
    another man (homosexual??? dana.

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    How about heteroflexible?
    "one day I'll fly away..... leave all this to yesterday"

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    Quote Originally Posted by kellycan27 View Post
    How about heteroflexible?
    I refuse to believe that's anything but a straight contortionist.

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    Oh my! This one is SO EASY! Fantasies and ancient religions aside, the answers r:

    1. If you're a guy and u LIKE shwantz, you're gay!

    2. You're a guy and u like opposite of shwantz, you're straight.

    3. U like both shwantz and opposite of shwantz, it doesn't MATTER what gender u r! You're bi!
    U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.

    Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!

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    There's more to a man than just his doodle though :P
    If you like penises but not men then that's just something for more careful reflection, it's not a race and there is no need to rush and over analyze things before you're ready.

    An idea may be to look at pictures of guys, doesn't matter if they're naked or not and just see if you have a reaction.
    It doesn't need to be gay porn either, hell, I'm attracted to guys but I'm not a fan of watching two guys hump either.

    Good luck in your quest!

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    Is there a term for this? Certainly! The term is denail.

    If putting on a dress alters your sexual orientation, that is either one heck of a powerful dress, or you are one heck of a powerful compartmentalizer.

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    Lots of love, I never expected this large of a response so quickly! Most of you are wonderful, and I appreciate your kind support. I suppose either the blanket term bisexual or cross-bi would be best.

    As for those of you telling me that your imaginary friend in the sky condemns my sexuality in a book written by wandering Jews thousands of years ago, and featuring rules about how to force your daughter to marry her rapist, and how to take slaves from neighboring tribes right before condemning homosexuality.... A big fat LOL at your expense. Any crossdresser who is a devout believer in the Christian bible needs to seriously examine the verses that talk about how it is shameful for a man to have 'long hair'. Really, I thought you were joking at first... But at best you're trolling. Religious thumping should really be moderated... I seriously can't believe someone would even DARE to condescend or decry someone elses lifestyle or preferences on a crossdressing forum.

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