So until this point I was happy being just a crossdresser. But for a while now when I am in 'girl' mode I have started fantasizing about guys.. I guess as a part of what I naturally feel as a girl.. I am not sure if I like guys as a guy. I understand that it is a grey area but has anybody gone through such a phase?
I have and for many years I believed I was bi when dressed enfemme only, I now realize that I always had bi inclinations. Best wishes in your CD life.
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I have had similar thoughts, but for me I think I am more curious about the physical act of sex while in girl mode. Absolutely nothing physically attracts me to a man while dressed or not.
I have always been confused about my sexuality I suppose that I come (sorry ) under the bi umbrella , I have always fantasied about having a man and when I had the opportunity I thought it is now or never , so I did and to be quite honest it was a really good experience , but when the opportunity came up again but I wasn't dressed , I did it again and afterwards I felt guilty and confused , for my male persona it wasn't as good as for my female persona , I dont know if this helps , but that is an outline of my personal experience , love and hugs Sarah xxx
Heya!Originally Posted by karusiskaru
Actually it's quite common and there have been numerous threads on the topic of what it means.
The thing about being bi or gay is that the crossdressing shouldn't change it, in theory if you're attracted to guys enfemme then you should be attracted to them in male mode as well.
I would rack my brain trying to figure the whole thing out until I opened up and just tried to explore and understand my attraction to men.
As it turns out they're hot no matter what I'm wearing or how I'm feeling.
Try taking a look at some naked/half-naked guys in male mode and see how you feel.
That's not suggesting that you run out and grab a ton of gay porn, since that's not a really good measure.
For example, I like guys but not two guys.
The key is to check your level of physical attraction while keeping sex mostly out of the picture.
Good luck in figuring it out!
Yea what they said. Crossdressing doesn't make you gay or bi. There are some good youtube and articles on the web about this. It sounds like some crossdressers have gender confusion at times.
Like others noted. When you are not crossdressing.... Be honest with youself, what do you like. What do you desire? What turns you on?
im open and relaxed and go with flow... i think that when dressing it is more possible than when not but even having experimented, i am generally straight
Im not interested in guys at all. At least not in general terms. I can appreciate the various good looking ones but very picky about what looks I would ever like. Smooth shaved, no body hair, no fat or flab. Only in femme, transformed into a total woman, could I even pretend to be interested in a guy's advance.
That's pretty much it in a nutshell. It's often thought that when in femme mode, our tastes in who we are attracted to miraculously change, and that's not really true. After all, your two sides share one body and one mind....The thing about being bi or gay is that the crossdressing shouldn't change it, in theory if you're attracted to guys enfemme then you should be attracted to them in male mode as well. I would rack my brain trying to figure the whole thing out until I opened up and just tried to explore and understand my attraction to men...
...The key is to check your level of physical attraction while keeping sex mostly out of the picture. Good luck in figuring it out!...
Crossdressing does, for some, set the stage for more unfettered personal introspection, and there's how you'll find what really piques your interests, as opposed to the limitations you allow society to place on you in your everyday mode.
Limiting yourself to femme mode when you begin to open up to the idea of interacting with a male can feel a bit more comfortable and seemingly natural, in terms of what your imagination manifests, as opposed to what your mind might conjure if you were imagining you were in boy mode and interacting with another male. Many reject the latter outright because those mental images of you (as a male) interacting with another male challenge the male ego in a very big way. It's often a facade designed to hide reality and keep us feeling safe and secure, like only a facade can.
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This seems to be where I am at also. I have always been curious of what, how, and why a woman feels during intercourse. I find myself wanting to enjoy the way that a GG would enjoy, but I know for me this is just daydreaming. My mindset alone tells me I am born man. For this simple fact I don't think I could truly enjoy being a genetically-correct woman. My head would have to be reprogrammed to know that I was never a male, otherwise my perspective is still coming from a male's POV. This seems to me, to defeat the whole thing. BUT, I would love dearly to spend sometime as a woman to be able to enjoy a man if only for the experience.
If i knew then what i know now, i would have stolen my ex wife's clothes. I loved the way she dress
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Only talking to other girls and the conversation got a little risque, they forgot what I was.
Talk about blending in. I even added to the conversation, you had to be there to hear it though.
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I would pretty much agree with this. Like 99%
Not remotely attracted to men but the idea of being the woman in a relationship attracts me. I'm a lesbian in a male body and happy like it
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I know your new, but try to refrain from saying "JUST a CD." That kind of language is often used in a pejorative manner by SOME People within The Community. It implies some sort of diminished status, or Put-Down, or it's often used to push The Idea that CD's are not "genuine....like us." It causes divisiveness and sometimes hurt feelings. I know you didn't do it on purpose, but I thought I would let you know, and perhaps remind other new members to do the same.
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Kind of a sad state of affairs that we have to watch our P's and Q's to this extent when we're speaking to each other in our own house.... People would be much happier if they didn't take offence at every little word.... Just saying
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I'm not attracted to men. If I was a woman, I'd be a lesbian. But, if your do fantasize about men when en femme, be sure that if you do begin a relationship that honest is best. Not every situation works well with little (or big) surprises.
Good luck. Talk about it, find friends to discuss it, or find a support group in your area. You'll be able to talk about those feelings and you won't feel so alone.
Chelsea
If it turns out to be the best sex you ever had, I reckon that should answer the question, keep on being safe out there, roy.
Figuring out whether or not we should be offended is all part of the fun...
Personally, I have no interest in trying to limit what people say (or type) in the name of political correctness. That's a form of blanket censorship that does not take into account intent, and it's bad. These are but mere words on a screen. I am capable of defending myself if need be.
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I wonder why this is? I wonder if it affects more single folks than already married and established folks. As for me, just the thought of man flesh next to mine for sexual purposes just totally gives me the yuks. That would be (to me) like trying to french kiss my brother or something
I just enjoy the euphoria I recieve from it and thats about as far as it goes for me. If I was single I would be a lesbian semi kinda man ***** I guess
Thera
I've always considered myself as a "straight CD" but one night as I was leaving a club a handsome man started paying me some attention and we started talking, he was smooth in his actions and mannerisms. Telling me how sexy I was, I could see his nostrils flare, his desire ignited in me...we kissed and my goodness...I've never felt that before. But that's as far as it went (kissing and light petting)...I've fantasized about what could have been on numerous occasions. I love women and try to emulate my dress in what I like to see a woman wearing. But if given another opportunity... I just may be swayed. Maybe it was the attention he showed me, I'm not sure really. I know it wasn't alcohol, I don't drink when I'm tasked with driving... but he sure had me high.
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sinderella,
A most interesting post & experience. Thanks for sharing darlin.
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I know what you mean sinderella. Once, I was out dancing and I started flirting with this really cute guy, and we started dancing. When he grabbed my hand and spun me, oh my, I was in heaven.
HollyH,
By your avatar that a gentlemen would be attracted, you are lovely.
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I agree Arlene, she is absolutely adorable
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Aw, thank you both. I appreciate the kind words.
One thing I'll never understand is why someone's attraction to someone else is limited by what they are wearing. Feeling are feelings in my book.
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