I came out to my wife about 2.5 years ago. We have had a DADT relationship since. I have felt pretty good about myself and was confident and sure. My wife a couple days ago once again brought up my cd and asked point blank "aren't you ashamed of this. Don't you feel shame.". This now of course brought back all the negative feelings and then some. Once again the shame and guilt have sucked me back to the dark space. I am at a loss. Even my meds don't seem to help and my anxiety is through the roof.