A couple of months ago i came out to a potential love interest with unfavorable results.
Her initial feelings were of excitement and support and went down hill from there.
I told her of all the research, finding out all about myself on the forums and reading literature.
2 days later i find out she went ahead and told her entire family and they gave her their version.......straight from the wonderful world of daytime talk shows.
She told me that i went online cause i was confused about my sexuality and would eventually "go gay" (yeah, i kid you not) and change my sex. I explained everything carefully and she just could not see the person i was the first 2 weeks.
Because i could see some other isues with her, i ended it.
Fast forward to today. I began dating a gal i met on a internet dating site and she's a real sweetheart, and we've been seeing each other for a few weeks.
The writing is on the wall i'm afraid. She's made several comments about my appearance in general. So far she's brought up my plucked, shaped and lightly darkened eyebrows, the long, well kept, and lightly polished fingernails.
She also said that she once dated a guy who she found out was a, gasp....."crossdresser". She wasn't overly mean about it, just said she got tired of him wearing her clothes.
Last night she felt about on my upper arms and inside my shirt and commented on the lack of hair.
The vibe thus far is leaning towards unfavorable, and i've been honest and up front without giving away too much info.
Nothing in what she has said thus far leads me to believe she's making any assumptions about me, the comments about the cd in her past were definitely not made for my sake.
I did make a couple of comments about gender stereotyping in regards to other matters.
I said something to the effect that i don't follow a rigid belief in gender roles.
My plan being to allow the relationship to build, for her to see that i'm just a kind and considerate person, a good guy who is just well groomed, before full disclosure.
We have a long day together planned for tomorrow that includes some driving so there'll be plenty of time for conversation.
My debate is in going ahead and having 'the' talk. Or at least in laying it out that i like the way i look and it feels right to me, and that i hope she see's the need for people to feel good about themselves.
Or of course, i could just go right to the nitty gritty of it. Part of this holding off has been for her sake, she's had a pretty rough go of it in life and i'm not looking forward to what could happen.
Anywho, sorry for the long post.
Not really sure if i need advice good folks, i've been round the boards long enough to have read it all, but if you have something of interest to share then feel free.
Maybe i just needed to vent a wee bit.