I guess many of us have been in situations where we've been with a group of people and someone makes 'tranny' jokes or says something derogatory about transgendered people. I'm not a humorless Buzz Killington and can take a joke, but because 'tranny' comments strike at the heart of who I am as a person I don't mind admitting that sometimes it irritates me. I say sometimes because it's not always malicious, and appreciate that some jokes can be good natured.
Because I haven't yet revealed my transgender identity to the whole world it's sometimes difficult for me to voice any sort of objection or to stick up for the transgendered person being joked about without the fear of drawing suspicion upon myself. If I was 'out' it would be different, but because I'm not I sometimes find myself staying silent when I really feel like I want to say something.
What do you do in similar situations? Laugh along with them, stay silent, speak your mind or something else?