Didn't want to hijack another thread for this tangent, but I've seen the argument on here plenty of times that our wives have a right to not accept CD'ing because they "didn't sign up for it" when we were married. (This thread is somewhat specific to CD'ing and not those who want to transition, since that's a different direction and usually a different conversation with the wife...)
Other things spouses don't sign up for:
- cancer or other diseases that require lots of care
- wounded in combat / accidental loss of limb that requires care / compassion
- going bald (certainly less serious than the first two and more superficial)
- gaining lots of weight (ditto to #3)
- losing a long time career / job and can't get back into same field
I'm sure there are others (leaving "cheating" off the list, since that's a *direct* breaking of the vows by one party)... but the point is that wedding vows include "for better and for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and health ...."
Ultimately it all comes down to the ability to cope and the depth of the love felt between the two people. Love can overcome most things if it's strong enough... so I'm not sure "I didn't sign up for this" is *technically* a valid excuse. I think it's certainly an HONEST reaction, but there are many other factors at play in a relationship.
Curious what others think about this. At the end of the day it's all semantics because as human beings, we can keep vows, break vows, stay with spouses, leave spouses, as we have free will to do as we choose...
VS Fan