To Club/Bar it solo...?

[Victoriana]

Hi girls,

There are some events coming up and seeing how I just got back into dressing I have some questions.

Have any of you gone solo to a club or a bar (drag/gay/Tgirl bar/club)? If so what was your experience? What do you need in your purse? Any other advice?

Note* I have never gone to a bar/club so this would be my first time out. Should I wait to go with someone instead?

Thanks!

Victoriana

[mike~the~islandman]

A few times I went out to a club while crossdressing. They were good experiences! The bartenders were really sweet, and the overall environment felt welcoming.

The first time I went with two friends, which made me feel less nervous. Second time, I was ready to get out and dance myself dizzy. Go with friends if you have some that want to join Solo works fine, too. Just make sure its a place you're comfortable at.

[dragdoll]

I've gone out to clubs/bars multiple times crossdressed by myself. Make sure you keep your makeup in your purse in case you need to touch up, maybe a stun gun or bear mace if you're paranoid about being followed. I say go for it. Going out by yourself builds strength and strength builds character. Don't wait to go with someone because they might just flake out on you anyway. You can have just as much fun solo.

[Victoriana]

This place which I will not name is primarily for a TG crowd or crossdressers. It is not a straight up gay club or a straight club. I think I may bring pepper spray. Are you allowed to do that? I will probably show up fashionably late as well lol. I need to put some thought into this.

[Lorileah]

I do it all the time. I also go home alone that way, In between I meet so many great people.

[kimdl93]

Yes, I have many times. I bring a wallet keys, wig comb, lipstick and a compact for touch ups.

My experiences have ranged from good to great. I've met some very interesting people, been hit on by several women interestingly enough, and been thoroughly entertained.

[Daisy41]

I've only been to a club once and it was the Play in Nashville, TN. I was with a group of friends so I had them as safety if anything went wrong. Honestly, clubbing isn't really something I'm crazy about, but my experience was fine. I got smiled/waved at by a drunk guy, other than that I had no issues at all. I think the important thing is not to mislead someone at the club in order to avoid potential conflict, otherwise have fun!

[GinaD]

Victoriana,
Just a few tips from someone who has been to more than a few bars/clubs. Since this might be your first time in such an establishment, it is just more fun with a friend, plus you can look out for one another if something goes amiss. Remember, anytime people and mind altering substances mix, bad or good things can happen. As far as going dressed, I usually recon the place as a male to get a read on the type of crowd that is there. If I like it, I'll go conservatively dressed the first time. if i'm totally comfortable, I go as my mood dictates. I have found I usually meet the best people dressed pretty but not too over the top. If I just want attention, the party girl shows up. Just remember its different as a girl, especially if a guy is really pushy. Guys, especially drunk ones, can be real jerks. As any GG.

[Launa]

I've been out about 6-7 times to bars dressed. 4 times have been at a gay bar and the other 2 times were at a sports bar. I have met our local Tri Ess group at the bar everytime I went out but I had to find my way to the bar dressed by myself because I don't have a close circle of friends to go with at the moment which was a bit nerve racking. There really have been no problems other than I think I've scared a few people when I walk by them before I got into the bar.
One thing you can do is call the establishment ahead of time and ask them if they are TG friendly, now of course this place your going to will say, "yes we are TG friendly so come on down" for some reason that phone call helps take the edge off you.

I would say bring pepper spray if you think you need it but be careful and check your local laws on carrying it with you.

[Nicole Erin]

Going to clubs or bars alone is pretty boring cause people tend to stay in their cliques. If you go alone, you are likely to be one of the people sitting in the dark corners who no one notices. So yeah going alone - you probably would not need a defense method cause no one is gonna bother you either way. Never hurts to have one though. You might get flirted with by some weird guy who is ummm, less than desirable. Or maybe the drunken college chick who is loud and obnoxious and thinks everyone is her best friend. Yuk.

If you can find someone to go with - you will have a lot more fun.

I don't know about anyone else but I hate going to clubs alone, it just feels lonely and boring. I mean unless you are one of those types who can go into a random place and easily strike up conversations with strangers.

[JohnnieCD]

you mentioned events coming up so it sounds as though you have the place picked out. I would go in drab before the event and scope the place out, clothing, theme, restrooms, etc...you may find you will fit right in have fun and stay safe

[linda allen]

In my experience, GGs seldom go into a bar alone. That doesn't mean you can't, it just means that it's unusual. If you can go with someone, I think you'll have a better experience.

[erika_kerrie]

Hi Victoriana, love your name btw

I have been to a tg club by myself, I was younger 21, and I was suppose to go with another tgirl but she kept backing out, so I said to heck with it and I went. The club was in another city but I got dressed up and drove over. I've been to this city before so I knew my way around and I chatted with enough people to know what the club was all about. The club was basically for tgirls and admirers, and they also had hourly drag shows. I had a pretty good night, it's alway fun to get dolled up and go out. I spent most of the night to myself, watching the drag shows. I did get hit on a bunch, mostly from older drunk guys and I guess the local tgirl "escorts" do not take kindly to younger tgirls. But overall it was a fun experience. I did make sure I had an extra car key and money on me other than in my purse, just in case someone stole my purse, would be hard to chase them in my heels I also had a mini pepper spray key chain just in case, I like to be prepared I felt safe the whole time, I even chatted with some other tgirls, they were very nice, so were so beautiful. I love the ladies room as well, felt great to be able to fix my makeup there with the other girls. If you go just be safe and have fun, but safety first of course.

[Victoriana]

Thanks girls! And Thanks Erika for the compliment.

I am not sure what I will do yet. My one friend who knows about me can't go and it seems she won't want to go anyways. So that leaves me to go on my own. This place is for Tgirls and admirers. I think I can handle it as long as I don't get bothered by drunk guys who keep pushing me to dance or talk to them. I may be a girl but I can kick ass like a guy! But I appreciate all the advice and welcome more experiences if any other girls have any!

If I go I plan on having no more than two drinks so I am not too drunk and stupid. I really don't know what I would do if a hot guy (whatever hot means to me) hits on me. Not sure if I am into men but it is a way to find out if I like men if a hot one hits on me. I do hope I can chat up some other crossdressers there. I understand a lot of girls go it alone...not sure if I can just yet. We will see. Might be too nervous.

Victoriana

[Gena Gurl]

I am a newbee too at going out to a club. The first time is the worst (nerves). I have gone to mostly lesbian bars and the two that I have been to are CD friendly and had good experiances and met up with some CDs from the area. 3 times by my self and 2 with my girlfriend. I must say that the ones with my girlfriend have been the more enjoyable. I am going out tonite by my self so I do enjoy getting out. I drive dressed and try to drive as careful as possible as I do not want to get pulled over. Do's: DL, credit card, make-up, I do carry a small pocket knife (don't know why I have had no problems) and keep your car keys in hand. Enjoy your time out.