For a long while now, I've been noticing a pattern between members of this forum, and their S/O. It seems that a common topic is telling their S/O about their dressing, yet they've been married a long while. It's something I can't understand, as two or three months into dating my girlfriend, I told her about it, because if you are hiding things from your loved one, its only gonna get harder and harder to come out, and they could act very differently then if they told them early on. I know its straight up hard to tell someone you love something that they might not like, but if they can't live with it, or even enjoy it, how can we say the truly love us. My girlfriend enjoys my dressing, we have a little fun with it, but I keep in to a minimum, as she's dating a guy, not a girl. Often, members are saying that they wanna dress whenever they want. That's all fine and good, but is it fair to your S/O? I truly don't think so. They fell in love with a man, not a girl. It's something I can't see be fair to our S/O. Between coming out to someone we love, to wanting to dress always, or in moderation, we really need to look at the situation and ask ourselves this: "Is it ultimately fair to her? Do we really have the right to complain about her wanting it around only so much, or not at all?"
My thoughts in the matter, we need to be honest about what we like to do early on, and we can't always be dressed, some situations are different, of course, but we need to consider what our S/O wants and needs. In all aspects of crossdressing, we really should always take every factor into account, as there is a cause and effect to everything. I know for damn sure that I wouldn't choice dressing 24/7 over my loving girlfriend. It isn't fair to her, nor is it to myself. We can't always go around thinking at our own needs are the only in the world, it doesn't work that way.
With this post, I wanted to start a discussion about these patterns I've witnessed around the forum. Agree? Disagree? That's up to you, I'm only saying what I think and feel. Everyone is different after all.