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[DebbieL]

A phenomenon I find interesting is the ability of a CD to be enjoy dressing and being very feminine, and yet not be observed as anything other than a very masculine man by his wife, friends, and family. I'd like you to fill out this little survey.

Are you Transsexual, Transgender, CD, SO, or ??

In Girl Mode
1 - How often do you cross-dress?
2 - When did you start?
3 - Do you get fully dressed?
4 - Do you present as a woman (clothes, make-up, and hair or wig)
5 - Do you go out dressed in public?
6 - Have you ever spent more than 8 hours dressed in public?

In Man Mode
7 - Have you ever been called a Sissy?
8 - Has anybody asked if you were gay?
9 - Has anyone told you that you were pretty or cute?
10 - Has a woman told you she was jealous of one of your features (hair, eyelashes,??)
11 - Have you been given a feminine gift (pink sweater...)
12 - Do you do housework?
13 - Do/did you participate in child care?

In Relationships
14 - What percentage of time does your wife wear skirt and heels?
15 - Is that her choice or yours?
15 - Have you told your spouse or girl-friend?
16 - Was she surprised?
17 - Did she accept your dressing?

[ReineD]

Debbie, it is unclear to me if you would like everyone to answer this, or just CDs and so I'm checking with you first. My SO no longer participates in this forum and I can answer part one and two on her behalf, although obviously I will answer part 3 on my own behalf. Please let me know.

[Laura912]

Also, why do you think that 12 - Do you do housework? 13 - Do/did you participate in child care? are feminine traits especially in 2012?

[MssHyde]

In Girl Mode
1 - How often do you cross-dress?every chance I get
2 - When did you start?when I was just a boy
3 - Do you get fully dressed?yes
4 - Do you present as a woman (clothes, make-up, and hair or wig)yes
5 - Do you go out dressed in public?yes
6 - Have you ever spent more than 8 hours dressed in public?yes

In Man Mode
7 - Have you ever been called a Sissy?no
8 - Has anybody asked if you were gay?I'm not sure, with a serious remark
9 - Has anyone told you that you were pretty or cute?yes
10 - Has a woman told you she was jealous of one of your features (hair, eyelashes,??)yes
11 - Have you been given a feminine gift (pink sweater...)no sweater but other items
12 - Do you do housework?not much
13 - Do/did you participate in child care?some

In Relationships
14 - What percentage of time does your wife wear skirt and heels?10 percent approx
15 - Is that her choice or yours?hers
15 - Have you told your spouse or girl-friend?yes
16 - Was she surprised?yes
17 - Did she accept your dressing?not really

[Lady Catherine]

In Girl Mode
1 - How often do you cross-dress?-Ocationally, once a week
2 - When did you start?-Childhood
3 - Do you get fully dressed?-Yes
4 - Do you present as a woman (clothes, make-up, and hair or wig)-Yes
5 - Do you go out dressed in public?-Yes
6 - Have you ever spent more than 8 hours dressed in public?-Yes

In Man Mode
7 - Have you ever been called a Sissy?-Yes. When I was little
8 - Has anybody asked if you were gay?-Yes
9 - Has anyone told you that you were pretty or cute?-Yes
10 - Has a woman told you she was jealous of one of your features (hair, eyelashes,??)-Yes
11 - Have you been given a feminine gift (pink sweater...)-Yes, fuzzy sweater.
12 - Do you do housework?-No
13 - Do/did you participate in child care?-Yes. Raised three kids on my own.

In Relationships
14 - What percentage of time does your wife wear skirt and heels?- 2-3 times a month
15 - Is that her choice or yours?- Wish she would more often
15 - Have you told your spouse or girl-friend?-Yes
16 - Was she surprised?-Yes
17 - Did she accept your dressing? -Yes

[Terri Andrews]

1. 3or 4 times a week
2.5 but did`nt leave the closet until 52
3.yes
4.yes
5.yes
6.yes
7.no
8.yes
9.no 10.no 11.no 12.no 13.no
14. seldom,but always when she worked
15. hers
15.yes
16.yes
17. mostly

[TonyaV]

In Girl Mode
1 - How often do you cross-dress? Not often enough
2 - When did you start? As a child
3 - Do you get fully dressed? Yes
4 - Do you present as a woman (clothes, make-up, and hair or wig)Yes
5 - Do you go out dressed in public?Yes
6 - Have you ever spent more than 8 hours dressed in public?Not yet

In Man Mode
7 - Have you ever been called a Sissy?No
8 - Has anybody asked if you were gay?Only a couple of occasions
9 - Has anyone told you that you were pretty or cute?Yes
10 - Has a woman told you she was jealous of one of your features (hair, eyelashes,??)Hair, skin softness
11 - Have you been given a feminine gift (pink sweater...)Only me to myself
12 - Do you do housework?Rarely
13 - Do/did you participate in child care?No

In Relationships
14 - What percentage of time does your wife wear skirt and heels?Regularly
15 - Is that her choice or yours?Both, she always asks my opinion
15 - Have you told your spouse or girl-friend?Yes
16 - Was she surprised?Suspected hints
17 - Did she accept your dressing?Not really

[Tara D. Rose]

In Girl Mode
1 - How often do you cross-dress? About once a month in cold weather(strange), and once a week in warm weather.
2 - When did you start? Around 3 or 5 years old.
3 - Do you get fully dressed? Yes.
4 - Do you present as a woman (clothes, make-up, and hair or wig) Yes, everything.
5 - Do you go out dressed in public? Yes, but just a few times.
6 - Have you ever spent more than 8 hours dressed in public? Yes.

In Man Mode
7 - Have you ever been called a Sissy? No.
8 - Has anybody asked if you were gay? No.
9 - Has anyone told you that you were pretty or cute? Yes.
10 - Has a woman told you she was jealous of one of your features (hair, eyelashes,??) Yes.
11 - Have you been given a feminine gift (pink sweater...) Not as a man no, the only exception are feminine gifts from my wife.
12 - Do you do housework? Yes.
13 - Do/did you participate in child care? Yes.

In Relationships
14 - What percentage of time does your wife wear skirt and heels? At work most times, but personal time, mostly never.
15 - Is that her choice or yours? Hers.
15 - Have you told your spouse or girl-friend? Yes.
16 - Was she surprised? Yes. Very shocked and surprised.
17 - Did she accept your dressing? Yes, but took a while.

[Angela Campbell]

In Girl Mode
1 - How often do you cross-dress? every day
2 - When did you start? 4 or 5 yrs old
3 - Do you get fully dressed? Most days
4 - Do you present as a woman (clothes, make-up, and hair or wig) Yes
5 - Do you go out dressed in public? Occasionally
6 - Have you ever spent more than 8 hours dressed in public? No

In Man Mode
7 - Have you ever been called a Sissy? many times when younger
8 - Has anybody asked if you were gay? not that I can remember
9 - Has anyone told you that you were pretty or cute? Yes
10 - Has a woman told you she was jealous of one of your features (hair, eyelashes,??) Yes...eyes and eyelashes
11 - Have you been given a feminine gift (pink sweater...) no
12 - Do you do housework? Of course I live alone. But then when I was married I did all of it too.
13 - Do/did you participate in child care? I did the bulk of it.

In Relationships
14 - What percentage of time does your wife wear skirt and heels? When married.........never
15 - Is that her choice or yours? Hers
15 - Have you told your spouse or girl-friend? Nope never did. do not have one now
16 - Was she surprised? N/a
17 - Did she accept your dressing ? N/A

[DebbieL]

Anyone who would like is welcome to reply, this includes TSs and SOs, please identify that status if you wound. I know that most TSs have been more adept at maintaining the two identities - because the female Identity is the real one and the male one is more like a mask and armor designed to protect the girl. I would be interested in getting the contrast.

[Alice B]

In girl mode: 6-8 times a month - Age 63 (7 years ago) - yes - yes - yes - Yes.
In Male Mode: no - no- yes - yes - yes - yes - no, children grown adults.
In Relationships: Skirts almost never, heels daily (low) to work - hers - yes - yes - yes.

[DebbieL]

Are you Transsexual, Transgender, CD, SO, or ?? - TS

In Girl Mode
1 - How often do you cross-dress? Daily
2 - When did you start? 2 years old
3 - Do you get fully dressed? yes
4 - Do you present as a woman (clothes, make-up, and hair or wig) yes
5 - Do you go out dressed in public? yes
6 - Have you ever spent more than 8 hours dressed in public? yes

In Man Mode
7 - Have you ever been called a Sissy? yes
8 - Has anybody asked if you were gay? yes
9 - Has anyone told you that you were pretty or cute? both
10 - Has a woman told you she was jealous of one of your features (hair, eyelashes,??) yes - hair, eyelashes, legs.
11 - Have you been given a feminine gift (pink sweater...) - yes
12 - Do you do housework? yes
13 - Do/did you participate in child care? yes

In Relationships
14 - What percentage of time does your wife wear skirt and heels? Only rarely
15 - Is that her choice or yours? She wore skirt only as a favor to me on special occasions.
15 - Have you told your spouse or girl-friend? Yes to Both
16 - Was she surprised? Not really - First wife suspected, second wife saw my picture of Debbie on Match.com
17 - Did she accept your dressing? - First wife pretended to but never did. Second wife accepts dressing but not transition.

[Kaz]

Hi Debbie, good idea, but I got thrown by the questions...eg do I get fully dressed? Yes... sometimes! Mostly not.. depending on how you analyse this, there is a real risk of some distortions in the findings...

Sorry... I do this for a living! Not with CDs though!

[Kate Simmons]

If by all of this you are asking if I can be a sensual lady on one hand and a dapper gentleman on the other, the answer is yes!

[Melissa73]

In Girl Mode
1 - How often do you cross-dress? whenever i am home, and dont need go out
2 - When did you start? 12 yrs old
3 - Do you get fully dressed? yes minus makeup or wig
4 - Do you present as a woman (clothes, make-up, and hair or wig)no
5 - Do you go out dressed in public? sometimes underdressed!
6 - Have you ever spent more than 8 hours dressed in public? yes

In Man Mode
7 - Have you ever been called a Sissy? not to my face
8 - Has anybody asked if you were gay? yes
9 - Has anyone told you that you were pretty or cute? no
10 - Has a woman told you she was jealous of one of your features (hair, eyelashes,??) no
11 - Have you been given a feminine gift (pink sweater...) no
12 - Do you do housework? yes
13 - Do/did you participate in child care? no

In Relationships
14 - What percentage of time does your wife wear skirt and heels? 1%
15 - Is that her choice or yours? hers
15 - Have you told your spouse or girl-friend? yes
16 - Was she surprised? definitely
17 - Did she accept your dressing? yes and no.... formally yes, but she doesnt understand it fully

[Karren H]

Maybe its just me ....... but ever notice when there's many (in this case many many) questions in a thread that no one reads anyone else's replies? maybe I have ADD.. lol. Just wondering..... Squirrel!! ..... if anyone noticed.....

[Ceri Anne]

Are you Transsexual, Transgender, CD, SO, or ?? --- CD

In Girl Mode
1 - How often do you cross-dress? --- whenever I travel, at home when I have time alone.
2 - When did you start? --- around 10 or 12, very rarely, continued a couple times a year until January '12
3 - Do you get fully dressed? --- absolutly
4 - Do you present as a woman (clothes, make-up, and hair or wig) --- yes, forms and all.
5 - Do you go out dressed in public? --- thats the best part (well primping is the best part)
6 - Have you ever spent more than 8 hours dressed in public? - yes, spent a whole weekend

In Man Mode
7 - Have you ever been called a Sissy? --- in Jr High
8 - Has anybody asked if you were gay? --- yes, was a nice guy and was considered gay by casual aquaintences
9 - Has anyone told you that you were pretty or cute? - not in man mode, other than girls saying I was cute
10 - Has a woman told you she was jealous of one of your features (hair, eyelashes,??) --- yes, thick hair, long eyelashes - even more so now that I have gloucoma
11 - Have you been given a feminine gift (pink sweater...) --- no
12 - Do you do housework? --- yes, but wife prefers me not to, she is old fashined, its her job, I mow, fix the car, make the money
13 - Do/did you participate in child care? --- yes, but wife did most diper changes etc. I was the cub scout and scout leader

In Relationships
14 - What percentage of time does your wife wear skirt and heels? --- 10%, she is more of a jeans and t-shirt girl
15 - Is that her choice or yours? --- hers, I would have her dressed most of the time
15 - Have you told your spouse or girl-friend? --- no, she is very conservative, I've been dressing often for about a year, working towards it.
16 - Was she surprised? --- na
17 - Did she accept your dressing? --- na, but she has commented on my bare chest and stomach, not over fond of it.

[AmyGaleRT]

Are you Transsexual, Transgender, CD, SO, or ??
CD.

In Girl Mode
1 - How often do you cross-dress?
As often as possible; I can't do it daily because certain other things intervene. Call it every other day, close to 2 days out of every 3.
2 - When did you start?
Sometime in my pre-teen to early teen years.
3 - Do you get fully dressed?
Much of the time, though sometimes just panties and a dress or nightgown around the house.
4 - Do you present as a woman (clothes, make-up, and hair or wig)
I certainly practice to do so as much as possible, consistent with the above.
5 - Do you go out dressed in public?
I have, for short intervals thusfar.
6 - Have you ever spent more than 8 hours dressed in public?
No.

In Man Mode
7 - Have you ever been called a Sissy?
I very well might have, though many of my childhood memories are thankfully blurred.
8 - Has anybody asked if you were gay?
Yes.
9 - Has anyone told you that you were pretty or cute?
My fiancee has called me cute...and, like the Purity Test, "All Technicalities Count"
10 - Has a woman told you she was jealous of one of your features (hair, eyelashes,??)
My ex-wife was quite jealous of my hair. Hers was relatively thin and lifeless compared to mine.
11 - Have you been given a feminine gift (pink sweater...)
No.
12 - Do you do housework?
Yes, more of it than my fiancee, in fact.
13 - Do/did you participate in child care?
N/A (I have and had no children)

In Relationships
14 - What percentage of time does your wife wear skirt and heels?
Maybe 10% for my fiancee, usually when we're going out somewhere. That's for a skirt or dress; she doesn't tend to wear heels at all. (She has a swollen foot that won't fit into a lot of shoes, so finding them for her can be a challenge.)
15 - Is that her choice or yours?
Hers, of course. I don't dictate to her how she dresses.
15 - Have you told your spouse or girl-friend?
Yes, quite recently (weeks ago).
16 - Was she surprised?
I think she was, though she didn't seem to show it much.
17 - Did she accept your dressing?
Yes, and it feels wonderful to be open with her about it.

[Ann Thomas]

Are you Transsexual, Transgender, CD, SO, or ??
Not sure - "full time CD", "Non-op transsexual", "Gender Fluid", "Gender Queer" may all apply to me, or not

In Girl Mode
1 - How often do you cross-dress? All but 4-6 hours per week
2 - When did you start? Young, pre-pubescent
3 - Do you get fully dressed? Yes
4 - Do you present as a woman (clothes, make-up, and hair or wig) Yes
5 - Do you go out dressed in public? Yes
6 - Have you ever spent more than 8 hours dressed in public? Yes, most days

In Man Mode
7 - Have you ever been called a Sissy? When I was young
8 - Has anybody asked if you were gay? Yes
9 - Has anyone told you that you were pretty or cute? Yes
10 - Has a woman told you she was jealous of one of your features (hair, eyelashes,??) Yes
11 - Have you been given a feminine gift (pink sweater...) Yes
12 - Do you do housework? Yes
13 - Do/did you participate in child care? Yes

In Relationships
14 - What percentage of time does your wife wear skirt and heels? 5%
15 - Is that her choice or yours? Hers
15 - Have you told your spouse or girl-friend? Yes
16 - Was she surprised? Not sure, just very upset
17 - Did she accept your dressing? No

[docrobbysherry]

In girl mode:
I'm a CD and have done everything on your list more than once.

In man mode:
I've never had gender issues or anyone question mine. "No" to all your questions.

Relationships:
Haven't been in any since I began serious dressing.

[Princess Chantal]

Are you Transsexual, Transgender, CD, SO, or ??
- Crossdresser

In Girl Mode
1 - How often do you cross-dress?
- Not too much and not too little.... a perfect balance to satisfy me without wreacking havoc on my life
2 - When did you start?
- About 9 years old when I developed a curiousity for pantyhose and the opposite gender
3 - Do you get fully dressed?
- Yes, however most of the time it's just partial.... why waste the time & effort to put on make up, shave and etc when not planning to go out
4 - Do you present as a woman (clothes, make-up, and hair or wig)
- Nope I present as a crossdresser with clothes, make up and wig
5 - Do you go out dressed in public?
- Yes
6 - Have you ever spent more than 8 hours dressed in public?
-Yes

In Man Mode
7 - Have you ever been called a Sissy?
- No
8 - Has anybody asked if you were gay?
- No
9 - Has anyone told you that you were pretty or cute?
- Yes
10 - Has a woman told you she was jealous of one of your features (hair, eyelashes,??)
- No, not when in guy mode
11 - Have you been given a feminine gift (pink sweater...)
- Yes, My partner's mom does often
12 - Do you do housework?
- Yes, got no elves to do it for me
13 - Do/did you participate in child care?
- No
In Relationships
14 - What percentage of time does your wife wear skirt and heels?
- Not married to my partner and he is the wrong gender to be classified as a wife, but he does wear heels at home often while he works on his models. He wears skirts and heels about 90% of the time when he does crossdress
15 - Is that her choice or yours?
- His choice
15 - Have you told your spouse or girl-friend?
- Obviously he knows
16 - Was she surprised?
- Blah Blah
17 - Did she accept your dressing?
- Obviously

Gee I guess the relationship questions are focused on those that are in a heterosexual marriage..... Nothing new there for this forum (with the majority of the members that post are what is referred to as "traditional crossdresser")!!!!

[stacycoral]

In Girl Mode
1 - How often do you cross-dress?almost everyday, from 50 to 100%
2 - When did you start? in seven grade
3 - Do you get fully dressed?YES
4 - Do you present as a woman (clothes, make-up, and hair or wig)YES
5 - Do you go out dressed in public?YES
6 - Have you ever spent more than 8 hours dressed in public?YES

In Man Mode
7 - Have you ever been called a Sissy?YES
8 - Has anybody asked if you were gay?YES
9 - Has anyone told you that you were pretty or cute?YES
10 - Has a woman told you she was jealous of one of your features (hair, eyelashes,??)YES, LEGS
11 - Have you been given a feminine gift (pink sweater...)YES
12 - Do you do housework?YES
13 - Do/did you participate in child care?USE TO

In Relationships
14 - What percentage of time does your wife wear skirt and heels?20
15 - Is that her choice or yours?HER'S
15 - Have you told your spouse or girl-friend?YES
16 - Was she surprised?YES AND NO
17 - Did she accept your dressing?TO A POINT

[Kati F]

1 - How often do you cross-dress? - Several times a week... unless we're counting underdressg then it's 24/7
2 - When did you start? - 4 or 5 years old
3 - Do you get fully dressed? - Sometimes
4 - Do you present as a woman (clothes, make-up, and hair or wig) - Sometimes
5 - Do you go out dressed in public? - Yes
6 - Have you ever spent more than 8 hours dressed in public? - Yes

In Man Mode
7 - Have you ever been called a Sissy? - When I was young
8 - Has anybody asked if you were gay? - Yes
9 - Has anyone told you that you were pretty or cute? - Yes
10 - Has a woman told you she was jealous of one of your features (hair, eyelashes,??) - Yes, I get compliments on my hair often...
11 - Have you been given a feminine gift (pink sweater...) - Yes, from my wife
12 - Do you do housework? - Yes
13 - Do/did you participate in child care? - Yes

In Relationships
14 - What percentage of time does your wife wear skirt and heels? - 1%
15 - Is that her choice or yours? - That's her choice, not mine!
15 - Have you told your spouse or girl-friend? - Yes
16 - Was she surprised? - Yes
17 - Did she accept your dressing? - Yes, she is very accepting

[WillowWriter]

Are you Transsexual, Transgender, CD, SO, or ??

In Girl Mode
1 - How often do you cross-dress? I dress every few weeks for a few hours.
2 - When did you start? 6 year olds.
3 - Do you get fully dressed? Yes, I do.
4 - Do you present as a woman (clothes, make-up, and hair or wig) Yes, I do the whole 9 yards.
5 - Do you go out dressed in public? I've been dressed in public twice.
6 - Have you ever spent more than 8 hours dressed in public? Almost, 6 hours.

In Man Mode
7 - Have you ever been called a Sissy? I've been called the male version of a girl.
8 - Has anybody asked if you were gay? No, but I've been hit on by gay guys.
9 - Has anyone told you that you were pretty or cute? Yes, several people
10 - Has a woman told you she was jealous of one of your features (hair, eyelashes,??) My hair, its wavy, soft and silky.
11 - Have you been given a feminine gift (pink sweater...) No, not that I can think of.
12 - Do you do housework? Yeah, I clean up quiet a bit.
13 - Do/did you participate in child care? If a dog counts, yes. XD

In Relationships
14 - What percentage of time does your wife wear skirt and heels? My girlfriend wears wedges every now and then, skirts, every so often.
15 - Is that her choice or yours? Her's, but I like everything she wears, so that probably influences things.
15 - Have you told your spouse or girl-friend? Mhm, I have.
16 - Was she surprised? Yeah, somewhat.
17 - Did she accept your dressing? Yes, she does Shes on the forum and 100% supportive

[ReineD]

Anyone who would like is welcome to reply, this includes TSs and SOs, please identify that status if you wound.

Thank you!

Are you Transsexual, Transgender, CD, SO, or ??
My SO is dualgender (or bigender), I am the GG SO.

In Girl Mode
1 - How often do you cross-dress? She CDs on average twice per week, with occasional weekends away dressed.
2 - When did you start? Age 12.
3 - Do you get fully dressed? Yes.
4 - Do you present as a woman (clothes, make-up, and hair or wig)? Yes.
5 - Do you go out dressed in public? Yes.
6 - Have you ever spent more than 8 hours dressed in public? Yes.

In Man Mode
7 - Have you ever been called a Sissy? No. My SO does not give off a sissy vibe, although someone did ask once if he had long nails because he plays the guitar.
8 - Has anybody asked if you were gay? No. My SO does not give off a gay vibe.
9 - Has anyone told you that you were pretty or cute? Yes, many women find my SO attractive, especially his blue eyes, magnetic smile, and long, curly hair.
10 - Has a woman told you she was jealous of one of your features (hair, eyelashes,??) Yes, I do all the time. I wish my smile was as nice as my SO's!
11 - Have you been given a feminine gift (pink sweater...)? Just about every Christmas and birthday, but only from me since I am the only one among his close acquaintances who knows about the cross-gender expression.
12 - Do you do housework? All his adult life. He has to since he lives alone.
13 - Do/did you participate in child care? My SO has no children, but he cares a great deal about his students and he is wonderful with my kids, just like all my other friends.

In Relationships
14 - What percentage of time does your wife wear skirt and heels? When we go out to nice places for dinner. Unfortunately there aren't many of those in a small town. And I don't usually wear dresses to places where other women are dressed casually in jeans.
15 - Is that her choice or yours? It's my choice, although I would love nothing more than to go to nice places more often. Our town is rather casual.
15 - Have you told your spouse or girl-friend? Yes, at the beginning of our relationship.
16 - Was she surprised? Yes.
17 - Did she accept your dressing? Yes.

I also want to say that my SO does not look or behave differently, whether dressed or not, other than light makeup. He keeps his fingernails long (saves time when dressing), his hair is long (kept tied at the nape in guy mode), he keeps his body shaved (saves time when going out), and he has had facial laser surgery so there is not much facial hair (no more need for beard cover).