sexually stimulating

[Shari]

I just finished reading a thread started by Wife and how her husband became aroused when he donned the fineries. Big suprise there.

When I first started dressing I was too young to know about sex, but as time wore on and I continued and entered puberty, dressing became the means to an end.
Now later in life, the stimulation is still very much there but my sessions no longer always end with an O.

My question is, is there anybody on this forum who was NEVER turned on and/or came to climax as a result of the clothing?

I can't imagine anyone saying otherwise, however, there's always that 10%
Please enlighten me.

[Ressie]

Not me. Arousal has always occurred. That's why dressing is so addicting.

[JUSTME]

Same here, big time...

[Raychel]

When I was just a teen, ALOT of years ago, Sure it was stimulating. But that has mostly past now. and I just like the feeling of womens clothes. Helps me relax and forget the worries of the world.
And really I am not huting anyone. Actually I am probably helping the economy, I do have to buy clothes for 2 people afterall.

[BRANDYJ]

Maybe part of what makes dressing so addictive that we continue to dress in hopes we can rekindle that euphoria we experienced when we were just becoming sexual. It's still there with me, but not like when I was around 11 or 12. But than again, seeing nude breasts in National Geographic, or looking at lingerie ads in Sears or Montgomery Wards catelogs don't do the same thing today either.

[ChelseaErtel]

i thought that my dressing was supposed to end in the big "O". But it didn't. There was a little stirring when i had an new outfit, but then donned and nothing. So, in my thirties and after I never tried to get the big "O". I realized it was not part of my dressing.

I figured out this year that I was transsexual and bingo - know I know why! So, even women get a little turned on when that look good - that's normal. I thought that not only was I was weird man but a weird CD, which is true but I'm a normal woman (in mind only right now).

I have had my naughty bits out for years now, they are just tucked away wishing they were gone.

So, I suppose this doesn't count, but it's another alternative.

[MsJanessa]

The answer is yes---sexual stimulation was and continues to be a part of why I dress----that said, I have reached a stage where I can dress and do not feel the need to reach an orgasm---but does being dressed enhance the experience for me---very much so, whether Im alone or with a lover

[Wildaboutheels]

225 views/6 replies. Not very surprising. Being born a male dictates we will "literally" be slaves to our vision. 10's of thousands of years of EVOLUTION tends to do that to a fellow. Any guy who claims they have any control at all over his "equipment" is in all likelihood a few sandwiches shy of a picnic.

Sure, many here started dressing at an early age, long before they ever had any concerns about birds or bees. But, I am guessing MOST young boys at least tried on something female at a young age simply out of curiousity?

I would be very surprised to see anyone come in and claim NEVER. JMO, but I think the sexual association aspect is THE reason so many feel the shame and guilt that is so prevalent here.

SO WHAT if a "good feeling" is part of/associated with dressing? Nothing wrong with wearing something that makes one feel "better or happier" in any way is there?

I am sure people who really enjoy their job or people they work with "feel good" when they put on any required uniform?

[LadyPilot]

Sorry Shari I am not in the 10%. I will not say that the only time there is climax is when I'm dressed because that is far from the truth. There is always arrousal when my wife and I go out dressed and she can't keep her hands off me, yep, one thing will lead to another because of her arrousal.

[Tara D. Rose]

I can't say that we dress or become our female side to become sexually aroused. For some that may be the case. I will speak only for myself as not to say this applies across the board of cross dressers. I started wearing girl clothes by my own choice when I was very young, around 4 and 6 years old. That was long before I ever knew what sex was. It was natural for me to feel this way. I still kept it hidden when I was that young for I at least knew that these were girl things. Then like any other young boy, puberty hit real hard and so the usual self exploration stage of life begins. Then when the dressing in girl clothes continued during the years from 13 to 35, I used to think that it was for sexual arousal. Now that I’m much older and wiser, of course the natural decline of libido takes place, but yet, the desire to dress or become Tara is still here today stronger than ever, regardless of libido. During my teens, of course I was so confused and with so little information about what I was, I had to try so hard to figure it out on my own. I didn't have it figured out nonetheless, but I was still confused.
So I ask myself now, why did I do this as a very young little child before I knew what sex was, and why do I still do this now when I do not get aroused by dressing or becoming Tara? I don’t do this with the hopes of getting turned on, I will always do this from now on. I mean I can get aroused from some things, whether I’m as Tara or not, but it isn't the dressing that gives sexual arousal. Maybe some are in the stage of confusing the dressing that has been done for all of their lives, and when puberty hits, it may seem that it is the dressing that causes arousal, but it may be just the natural full blown testosterone.

But when we dress, it does feel so good inside and so relaxing and brings so much more joy in and of itself than for sexual arousal. I apply my philosophy not only to myself, but to those that have done this since very early childhood.

I look back over my life now and can see very well in hindsight, that as much as I loved and needed to do this, it wasn't for sexual arousal, it wasn't at 5 years old, it's just that I would sometimes incorporate it into my lonely times during puberty, when I thought I was very strange. Some cd's MAY dress in women's clothes only for the purpose of sexual arousal, and maybe many years from now when it no longer does that to them, maybe they will hang the clothes up for good. But for me, I will always become Tara because it feels so right sometimes. Just a few hours or minutes before I take my shower and shave with the intent to become Tara, there are no sexual thoughts going through my mind before hand at all.

[Joanne.England]

It often does for me but not always. Maybe dressing just makes me more relaxed and it just makes me feel sexy inside.

[docrobbysherry]

I didn't start dressing suddenly at age 50+ because it turned me on. I did it because it fed fantasies I had of having breasts and becoming female. In fact, at the time I was seeing a doc because nothing got me aroused back then.

However, after a time I began dressing completely. Once Sherry appeared in my mirror it was like a sexual miracle! That was 15 years ago. While orgasms r unpredictable at my age, arousal is no longer an issue! While I don't get dressed for sexual reasons, it's rare when dressing at home that I don't get turned on by what I'm doing and that image in the mirror!

[Sally24]

I'm sure I'm in the minority here. Background....I've only had sex with my wife and I was 20 before I had an orgasm! (I don't count waking up after "the big event" as my dreams have never had any sexual component). I can't say for sure that I've never had an erection while dressing as a youth but I don't recall that ever happening. The clothes were exciting enough in their own way. Fear of getting caught. Curiosity at how a girl feels. Wondering why I was doing any of it!

Now as far as crossdressing in my head, yes that can be exciting. I have as many stories as fictionmania running thru my head but they have little to do with my real life dressing. Many of the fantasies I would not to come true but they are interesting to run thru like a movie in my head.

It may be unusual but I suspect there are others like me out there somewhere.

[Lady Catherine]

I can honestly say there has never been any sexual arousal from dressing. Guess that makes me the odd one here.

[Eryn]

Young males can be aroused by anything. In fact, they can be aroused by nothing at all. When I was that age I couldn't separate my attraction to women from my attraction to feminine things. To me these attractions were one and the same and I had no idea that CDing was involved at all. I thought that all males had similar feelings.

Now I am in my 50s and my CDing has come to the fore. Being more knowledgeable and mature I now realize that my CDing isn't sexual in nature and I don't get aroused at all by dressing. There are better times for that!

[kymmieLorain]

Well I will admitt that my start in CDing was sexual. But developed into some what normal. While at times it can be sexual, may because dressing make me feel sexy.

Kymmie

[Tracii G]

Now I become my other side and don't have that problem.

[Tara D. Rose]

Heck back when I was 12 through 20, I could just look at garbage truck, or a tree, a '68 Chevelle SS, my next door neighbor, or even a guitar and I would become a porn star in an instant. So the clothes just added to it I guess.

[Beverley Sims]

I cant answer your question either as it has always been a turn on for me and if it wasn't I had some girlfriends that would ensure I was turned into someone that could push their buttons.

[Bootsiegalore]

Not really for me. However it is strange that when I have the occasional perverbial "nocternal-emmission" I am dressed in the dream. I have always thought it odd. Dressing is just something I like to do.

[Harry]

It has always been a TURN ON for me. Attraction to girls, wearing their clothes, shaving and doing whatever they do has always turned me on. Moreover girls noticing me with shaved legs has always turned me on!!

[Jaymees22]

It was very stimulating when I was a teen, now that I'm in my 60's not so much. I still get turned on sometimes dressed, but then when I'm not dressed by imagining myself dressed actually works better for the big O.

[NicoleScott]

Not me. Arousal has always occurred. That's why dressing is so addicting.

A lot of crossdressers here over the years on many threads have stated that their dressing was sexually exciting in the past, but not any more, just a lifestyle.
I'm like Dee, it's always been exciting for me. Any lessening of the frequency and intensity of the excitement is a result of aging, but it's still all about getting pretty and sexy for the mirror (in my eyes).
The thing that puzzles me a bit is that I was attracted to women's things, as I remember, around age 4-5. Presumably before I had any sexual urges, or was it?

[ReineD]

Coincidentally, a friend has just posted something on facebook about the teenage brain. While it was once thought that the brain's architecture was set by age five or six, new research shows that the teen brain is still very much a work in progress, like a giant construction project. Millions of connections are being hooked up and millions more are swept away, thus having the ability to rewire the brain as significant amounts of dopamine floods it.

So, if a male teenager is particularly transfixed with the sexual expression of the female sex, it can significantly change who he becomes in the future.

http://www.enotalone.com/parenting/4334.html

[Laura28]

When i was young it was very sexual to me, now as i have aged not as much, dont get me wrong it still is very xciting, but i dont do it to just get aroused. it is just a part of me and who i am.