After a rather tumultuous patch involving much thought (and cursing!) I've decided not to quit until Moxie (aka: Doormat) has asked at least one question that will annoy the paranoid few here.
Hey, I promised!
So here it is (and yes, this one really confuses me!)
I read often that GG's give friendly comments on how you look 'en femme' etc. Those who hear these comments immediately assume one of three things: they look convincing and everyone sees them 'as one of the girls'; they're attractive, fashionable women and GGs are jealous and want advice or friendship; we are HOT for you.
Here's my question - what would change if I suggested that maybe we're just being
polite??!!
First, to answer your question, I can only respond with a simple answer. Everyone likes compliments. Not just us CD'ers. I'm sure all GG's like them too. And if the compliment was just to be polite, that's Ok too. Nothing wrong with being polite. Of course, I can usually tell if the compliment was just to be polite. I then of course take it with a grain of salt.
I have had sincere compliments from GG's while out to a function where we that dress are welcome and expected to be there. I don't go out otherwise. You won't see me out shopping or socializing in the general society.
The compliments from the few GG's that are friends and not lovers or SO, I know some were sincere while a few were just being polite. When it comes to my SO (when I had one), the compliments were perhaps equal to the corrective advised about the way I looked. Honestly, I welcomed those comments as much as a compliment. As far as it being important
What if I also asked WHY it's so important what GGs think at all? I mean, if you're truly just being your inner self, who cares what anyone else thinks? Or...is there a sexual component after all, and it's a 'rush' to have a GG accept you?
It's only important to me to hear compliments from an SO. Not so important to hear it from strangers. Nice to hear from my GG friends. No, there is no sexual component for me to simply hear a compliment. Don't even see how it could be. True, there is a sexual component to my dressing, but not to having a GG accept me...even an SO. No real rush felt by me. Just nice, as if they were complimenting me on my siging karaoke LOL
See...Moxie can still bring the tough questions, lol. And NO...no research papers. Im just a big thinker all the dang time. Though, I have a very personal question coming after this one; unrelated to dressing and I'll probably just ask my friends here. But let's just say that despite all the questions I ask and thoughts I post, ultimately most of you seem like very kind, considerate and attentive partners and I would kill for a husband like that right about now. I had one once...
xx Moxie