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Thread: Those who are out: How did you get out?

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    Member Jacky Aikou's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by AllieSF View Post
    I live in a townhouse/condo complex and know and like all my neighbors. I would dress completely, then put on baggy male clothing (sweat pants and a sweatshirt work great), drive to a quiet parking are and complete my transformation there. I usually would put my base makeup on at home and then finish the eyebrows lipstick and wig while parked. On the way home, I would just repeat the process. It is different now that my son moved out, but when necessary I still follow that same basic process.
    Brilliant, Allie! Thanks for the tip. I've only been out a few times, but completely female attire with wig & full make-up each time, and usually in broad daylight. I feel like Jane Bond peeking around the back of my house seeing if the coast is clear for me to click-clack down my driveway and into my car. I would have a lot of explaining to do if the neighbors spot me! Maybe they wouldn't be as wierded out if I'm just wearing foundation and baggy work-out clothes. ^_^

    Sheesh, they probably know anyway... O_o;;
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    Hi,

    Ill just recount the day well some of it, that is today,

    I have Jos at home with me this week, so its been lovely , first off after the phone rang this morning our sons Wife rang us concerning family matters, after that we had our showers & wash got dressed & headed of to Timaru 1 / 2 an hour away. from us in Waimate, went to the library went to the building surplys shop, & picked a few things up from where Jos is staying, then home ,

    We had some lunch about 3 this afternoon & i went to our Strawberry Fair, about 1500 to 2000 people i spent about an hour ,

    talked with a few people selling thier ware & chitchat, then a few others i know form Waimate, here were we live,

    The fare is held every year, about this time .

    Okay how was i dressed,

    A black long skirt in black with shiny velvet bands spaced at 6 in. from the top down each going all the way around the skirt, a white tee top. with a pink sleaveless jacket, my backpack come shoulder bag, & my head wear the one you see in my avatar twrlled around my head like a turbin . & my sneakers.

    The day was over cast mild with a south east wind & some sun shineing through,

    When Jos & i go shoping or any where, its no different i wear similer clothes, & Jos is lovely to have around .

    Oh dear forgot , my makeup is eye browliner & lippy nothing else. & i walked there & home & say hi to a few more people as well.

    Okay we have had a lovely relaxed day to gether,

    ...noeleena...
    Last edited by noeleena; 12-08-2012 at 01:28 AM.

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    As for me I only wear female jeans on a daily basics along with my sneakers that came from lady foot locker no dresses or skirts have been doing this for years now. just dress like you want to and be your self and enjoy is all I can say

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    The first time I went out enfemme was to attend a local crossdresser support group. I left the house wearing sweat pants and a baggy jacket over my dress. Put on my make-up in the car and nearly ran through the hotel lobby to the room where the group was meeting.
    Immediately I knew I needed more and began looking for more and more opportunities.
    Now I am full time except for work. That will change in 2013 to 100% full time.
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    Like so many others, my first time out was just driving around the community at night to get a feel for "being out." I loved it. My first time really out was in Hong Kong after I shared my "secret" with a close, male friend who I thought I could trust [thankfully, I could]. I got dressed and we went out on a "date." He kept telling me to stop shaking or my eyelashes were going to fall off. I've never felt better in my life. We had dinner, went shopping FOR ME!!!!, went to a cinema, and returned to our hotel to talk about it for hours. He has never been interested in me romantically, just a really good friend to talk to.

    I suppose that's another reason I'm here. Several of my friends know about Lara, but they are all guys and GGs. They are really clueless about what we face in our own minds and as we look the world in the eyes. Thank you for this place to vent and learn.

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    I've CDed off and on thru four wifes and three kids and now that my last wife walked out and told me she could no longer live with the two of me, I stayed in seclusion for almost a year and then one day a light bulb went on in my head and I said what are you doing LAURA. At that point I when fully into femme mode and have not looked back. When I look at my pictures of before and now I can't believe how much I have learned and how much better I look. Last month I decided to go full time and haven't looked back, scheduled to start HRT in January and can't be happier. Friends have changed and now they are the supporting type, just love them and can't wait to see what is in store for me as I progress down the HRT path.

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    I've been out and about for the first time twice, i.e. two very separate times of my life. The very first time was when I'd be maybe about 10 or 11 years old, and I probably looked aweful.

    Then followed a long time when I could not dress, got married etc, children passed through the house. Then after dressing at home for a while and driving around I decided I needed to get out again and booked a makeover session with a day out. It worked wonders, learned a lot about blending in and also about relaxing.

    Hannah

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    Candice doesn't go out often, she's only been out four or five times. Every time has been for a late night walk after a full day dressed. The first time Candice had a few drinks to calm her nerves, then touched up her make up and out she went. She sweated like crazy and squeezed the crap out of her purse strap, felt relieved to get back to her apartment... Only to carve more.

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    I've only been out at night to TG events and bars etc other than that I have yet to go out in broad daylight but I will be giving it a try in a couple months or so.
    Right now I'm still learning how to look the very best I can before I venture out. Its not easy when you look ultra male and are built like a linebacker but thats life for some of us.

    The big thing that has started to push me out the door is people on this forum and also talking with a couple gals from our Tri-ess group. Other than that I've had to put one high heel in front of the other and just started walking. I am slowly learning to quit judging myself, I used to call around to stores and ask them over the phone if they would be ok with me coming into their establishments, I have had only 1 negative reaction.
    I decided a couple days ago that I won't be calling ahead again looking for approval as I won't care and I'm not going to put a kick me sign on my back again.
    I forgot to say I just read the book called The successful Crossdresser by Lacy Leigh, it has helped me out a lot.

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    I would dress occasionally as a teen, and would try things on of my wifes in private every once in a while. Then one weekend last January, I was home alone and the urge hit to try her stuff on. While I was doing that, I wondered......wonder if I can get my own stuff, and try dressing when I travel?

    I went to Goodwill that weekend, bought a dress and shoes, went to Walmart, got a bra, panties and thigh highs. At the Dollar Store I found cheep make up. I then looked up wigs and found a shop to go to the following Monday. Total expenditures about $80, a bit more than I initially figured, but once the bug hit, I was hooked.

    I was out of town on business a couple days later. I dressed in my room the first night. It felt really good. I looked for gay bars that had drag shows online and found one. I went there the next night. There was no show, but I was welcomed in. People would come up and talk to me, I was accepted. I felt really good being out and about (once I was in, very very nervous before that)

    The following week, I went to three different cities, and did the same thing each night. I was warmly welcomed everywhere. I even had a guy buy me a drink (wasn't looking to hook up and didn't) and in another place there was a bridal party. They invited me into their group and we danced the night away. I was really shocked by the way women responded to me. I didn't expect that at all.

    Since then I have made a number of friends in a lot of places I travel regularly. I just go out to have fun, flirt and dance when I can. It's a bit challenging in heels, but I adapted to them pretty quickly. I go out a couple times a week now with no worries. I go shopping, try on cloths and to resturaunts. Even got pulled over in a small town for going a bit fast........that was frightening, but went well, with no problems. I now have a fb page just for Ceri with pics and all. I still have another step to take.......coming out to my wife, but I'm working towards that. She is very conservative, and I'm very worried at possible consequences. I am slowly working towards that goal though. It needs to happen.
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    My first time OUT in PUBLIC REALLY OUT I went to a TGirl week long event all about learning how to dress do make up etc. in Port Angeles Washington far enough away that I would not run into anyone I new. I only could afford the end of the week so missed alot of the early fun! But the end of the week included dinners, parties and dancing as a girl!!! The whole experience was an eye opener, there were over 160 of us. That was comforting and my first feeling that I did not have to lead a lonely existance. I learned so much in a short time and went from walking with my head down in the hotel to head up confidence on the rise. Had so much fun and the bonus met some gals from Portland my home town. This opened the door to occasional get togethers in town with friends. I must say just like this forum If you can find a Tgirl group or big event in your area or in another area which allows more freedom if you have fears, and you are willing to open the door and step into the public, the support is amazing! and my comfort level has grown so much.

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    There have been several different "first time out" experiences for me, each at a different level of committment and each one had it's own level of difficulty and two characteristics that were shared.

    First was the 2:00 AM walk in the back yard wearing a skirt, top, wig, forms and makeup. It was nerve-wracking and I stood at the door for a full minute frozen before I opened it and stepped into the night air. After I got back in the house I was thrilled and wanted more.

    Next was roughly the same experience, but at a motel during a business trip. This time I went to the ice machine after being frozen at the door before I stepped out. After I got back in my room i was thrilled and wanted more.

    On a quiet summer Sunday morning, very early while everyone was sleeping I partly dressed and put on baggy gym wear. I got in the car and drove to an isolated spot in a rural area and finished dressing. Then I drove to a local theatre complex that wouldn't open for another 6 hours and after being frozen in the driver's seat for what seemed to be an eternity I got out and walked around. I repeated the process in reverse and while I cooked Sunday breakfast I wanted to get out more.

    I took a trip to Las Vegas where I checked into a motel and dressed. I stood at the doorway on two successive nights, frozen to the spot with my hand on the door latch. I didn't get out and beat myself up all the way home.

    I made another trip to Las Vegas, checked into a motel and dressed. I stood at the doorway frozen before I stepped out and closed the door behind me. I walked to the casino across the street, got paranoid and returned to my room fearing the worst all the way back. I decided the reason I was afraid was my outfit, so I changed and went out again, this time much more mainstream. I thought I had broken through some of my barriers.

    Later on that same trip I dressed and met with other Crossdressers and my time frozen at the door got shorter and shorter each time. And each time I was ready to go out again the very next day.

    It has been a long slow process that extended over 6 or 7 years from the first step into the night at my house to finally feeling at ease as I went out in Las Vegas. It was hard, every step of the way but for some reason I wanted and needed that freedom to express myself. It's not something we all want to do and some can do it easier than others. It's something you do at your own speed, but only if you want to. Some do it quickly, some take years and some never do.
    Sarah
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