How girlish are you?

[Kate Simmons]

So, many of us look pretty good as girls, some even talk like girls but just how convincing are you when it comes to being girlish? By that I mean subtle movements, body language, facial expressions and actually mental inclination? If you were another person associating with yourself, would you be convinced you really are a girl? Some food for thought anyway.

[christinac]

Very interesting question. I'll have to think on that and get back with you.

[linda allen]

Probably not very "girlish". After this many years living as a male and working in the "trades", the "manish" stuff is hard to shake. And my wife would probably get upset if I stared wiggling when I walk.

If I'm going to do it, I'll have to be able to turn it on and off as appropriate.

[Gerrijerry]

once you are convincing enough to pass you will be that way 24 - 7. It is not something that you turn on and off. Yes it takes lots of practice to become convincing that you are a woman. If a person is full time that is a wonderful feeling to just be accepted and not have to think about it all the time. But if you are not full time you will be noticed in male mode. In fact that is why a woman can wear MALE CLOTHES AND YOU STILL know she is a woman.

[monalisa]

In my mind I think I am as girlish as the Victoria Secret Models. In reality not so.

[linda allen]

TV and movie actors can turn things like this on and off at will. It might be difficult, but I believe it can be done. I'm not really trying though. I have no thought or desire to live as a woman full time, just a desire to be able to pass from a distance from time to time.

If you look at all people, they are not just "girly" or "manly". Many females have manerisms that seem more "male" and vice versa.

[sabrinaedwards]

I do video tape myself when I am dressed. I can say that the video does show that I am not as girlish as I feel. I try to use it to enhance feminine mannerisms

[linda allen]

I do video tape myself when I am dressed. I can say that the video does show that I am not as girlish as I feel. I try to use it to enhance feminine mannerisms

I tried that but it's hard to get a lot of footage without someone else to do the taping. Really, about all you can do is walk away from the camera and back to it. I take a lot of still photos and it helps a bit. Mostly, I need to learn to smile.

[LaraPeterson]

While this is a highly subjective question, I believe it is one that can be answered honestly. When I am en femme, I immediately begin to move, think, and talk with as much femininity as I have learned from watching women. Plus, I practice. As to whether or not I'm convincing, I have to rely on what I'm told by those doing the "viewing."

I travel with two people on a regular basis who know Lara very well. One, who is female, is constantly critical, always trying to help me improve. The other, who is male, says I make a much better girl than guy. I like that. I don't know if he's being truthful or not. I've never been particularly effeminate, but I can turn it on and off as has been suggested.

The one difficulty I know I have is voice. I find myself whispering a lot so as to not allow the bass in my voice to surface so much. I guess the questions goes to passability, but if I understand the intent of the question, you're not just talking about passing but integrating. I've gone back and forth for so long now that I don't have the nerves I used to have and that exudes more natural confidence. The old saying, "Don't let them see you sweat," I have much better control over that now.

The other part of this does go to "mental inclination." That's where I am entering the pink fog. The more time I spend en femme, the more I am able to convince myself I am something that actually I am not. Maybe the day will come that I can walk into the fog and never turn back.

[Catherine1122]

It has been said in so many different ways, and it is something of a cliche, but the only thing it really comes down to is confidence. Difficult to attain, impossible to buy, it just takes practice and attitude. Real women are confident in public, just as real men are. I often envy real women who are dressed nicely, out doing the things people do all the time. Going to the store, having lunch. Tentativeness, timidity, these things attract negative attention. I am a large and not particlularly attractive man. As a woman, a disaster. Some time ago, I was getting a makeover at Rori's and she said something that has really stuck with me. She told me to strive to look, "put together." It gives me the confidence to go out, dressed comfortably and age appropriately, and walk among my fellow humans and my confidence challenges them to look at me as anything other than a woman. If I go out dressed like a cartoon character, or as a porn actress, then I deserve the odd looks I would get, just as a woman would if she were to dress or act that way. On the other hand, if I dress like women actually do, and feel feminine and real, I come off that way. And that is the feeling I want to have all the time when I am dressed. Not scared to be out, not afraid of people's reactions, just a woman out doing what women do.

[Kate Simmons]

The reason I asked this question was that I recently re-discovered an old VHS video tape I made in the 1980's of myself dancing to various pop songs. I thought I was good these days but I had the basic feminine moves back then and that really surprised me. I'm thinking that if we "un learn" the societal role we are assigned , we will do very well in fulfilling the other one if we make it all our own and just become our own person. Perhaps we are really all women under the skin anyway.

[Tracii G]

I tend to use my hands a lot and have those darn female inflections on certain words.
I'm pretty girly in boy mode so I get called gay quite a bit.

[Beverley Sims]

Kate,
I am girlish enough to be accepted by a group of women, but not too girly to be rejected by the same women.

[Kate Simmons]

It definitely is nice to be accepted either way Bev.

[linda allen]

.............. I'm pretty girly in boy mode so I get called gay quite a bit.

That's what happens when a male acts like a female. And it's exactly why you have to learn to turn it on and off if you're a crossdresser, not someone living as a female.

[Jenniferathome]

Not very. My wife says that's how she spots cross dressers when she is out. She can spot them from behind. Every time I am out and doing people watching, I notice something new about women just "being".

[Jocelyn Quivers]

I have a very long and hard way to go in the girlish category. Although with lots of hard training, and practice I'm sure I can make some improvement in this area. Of course in male mode I get accused all of the time of being like a girl, perhaps it's a result of me trying too hard to hide my girl side, which causes the girl side to ooze out.

[Lynn Marie]

[SIZE="4"]When dressed I'm considerably more girlish than when not. Still not passable to the discerning eye, but ladylike in a tall, husky-voiced, square jawed kind of way![/SIZE]

[Angela Campbell]

I am pretty girly but still have a lot of room for improvement. When dressed I feel like a woman and catch myself doing things like a girl without even thinking about it. Whether others see me this way I don't know, but I am a beginner and given time I will be very convincing I hope.

[whowhatwhen]

Why spend all of your life emulating male mannerisms only to obsess over female ones?
Since I'm not going to pass anyway I'll just let the chips fall where they may, I'm through with emulating behaviour.

[audreyinalbany]

probably a lot less girlish than I'd like to believe I am

[Brittany CD]

Nothing about me is girlish

[Lady Catherine]

Short answer? No.

[Barbara Dugan]

I a m pretty much the same person I always been, not overly masculine or girlish just something in between

[Cassandra86]

I would say when dressed im pretty girlish. Even when im not dressed i find the girly side of me coming out. For example i went out with my wife and her friend, friend doesnt know im a cd. Well they were all getting ready friend asked my wife for advice on an outfit, wife said it looks ok i think but told her to ask me. Without thinking i went full out cassandra mode and was telling her the heels didnt go with her outfit and so on. I even told her how to do her eye makeup so her eyes would stand out more. She kinda looked at me in aww and was all wow. Ok thank you she also said i was metro and could tell i was the fashionable one out of us. But then later the same night at the bar i knocked a guy out for being disrespectful to them. lol Its funny sometimes cassandra comes out without me realising. Im ok with that cus its who i am...