CD to TS-TG

[Contessa]

Has anyone become transexual due to being a cd. I believe I have I find it hard to switch back and forth. I have since come out at work as well as at home and to others in my family. I will soon go on to HRT. I will probably never have SRS or try for breast implants. FFS I'm not sure.

I guess I kept this secret too long. Some may say its just a pink fog thing, if so why hasn't cleared up yet. I am only speaking for myself no one else may feel as I do. Is it easy to put the girl away and go back to male? Can you go out in femm without wig and makeup?

Tess

[AngelaKelly<3]

Personally, I find it quite easy to switch between "guy mode" and "girl mode", because I just see them as both being equal parts to a whole, that is me.

I could imagine that many TS people would have some form of CDing experimentation as their "first step" sort of, so they are definitelly linked.

[AllieSF]

A lot of TS's started out as CD's. They were always TS but maybe needed time and the CD experience to clarify their status. Then there are a lot of very enthusiastic CD's who mistakenly think that they are TS. That is where a good gender therapist and the RLE come into play and can help define and even avoid unnecessary pitfalls.

[jillleanne]

You will never become a ts simply because you are currently a cd. Your expressing yourself as a cd currently may be a precursor to what's to come some day down the road, but one does not lead to the other no more than a glass of wine with dinner leads to alcohol abuse.

[becky77]

I don't know, i'm as confused now as I was 30 years ago. I'm more than just a crossdresser but do not see transition in my future. I just think of myself as Transgendered now. I identified with girls and girls toys etc before I ever realised I wanted to crossdress, so I don't think one leads to the other.

[Rianna Humble]

I'm more than just a crossdresser but do not see transition in my future. I just think of myself as Transgendered now.

Hi Becky, have you considered that you might be bi-gendered? There are some members on these forums that although they are not TS, have both genders within them. ReineD has written quite a lot about the experiences of her SO who is bi-gendered.

If you want to PM me, I would be interested to know why you say that you do not see transition in your future.

[Angela Campbell]

I became a cd because I was a TS......

[NathalieX66]

Transsexuals will tend to argue that one "is" transsexual, not one "becomes" transsexual.

Special hells are reserved for people like me that can't make up our minds, can't stay in one place, and argue in our heads a thousand times daily what gender we should be.

[Melissa Rose]

Cross dressing does not cause someone to become a transsexual. Cross dressing may be part of the journey of exploration and discovery, but there is no cause and effect relationship. Being a cross dresser is life long so it will not go away or clear up. It may go into hibernation or be repressed, but it is always a part of you. Being a transsexual does not require someone has to transition. Only you can make the final determination whether you are or are not a transsexual.

[Nicole Brown]

Many say that the difference between a CD and a TS is 2 years. This may or may not be true for some, but not for all. I would have classified myself as a CD up until 5 years ago, but no longer. Over the past 5 years I have come to realize that I am TS and will begin living full time within the next 5 months when I begin my transition. That said, I have never believed that I became a TS simply because I was a CD.

As Nathalie indicated, you are a TS or you are not. It may take you time to realize that you are TS but simply being a CD does not automatically make you a TS.

[Karren H]

I'd probably be a transsexual but my wife wont let me! lol.

[Marleena]

I'd probably be a transsexual but my wife wont let me! lol.

Try asking her nicely after the home renovations are done Karren.

[Angela Campbell]

I'd probably be a transsexual but my wife wont let me! lol.

Thats not fair....you let her be a girl don't you?

[missmars]

HRT might make you TS

[Ezekiel]

HRT might make you TS

HRT does not make you TS. Many crossdressers went through HRT and they are not TS. HRT might be sought to further enhance ones capability of passing / feminization. Together with this facial feminization surgery can also be sought.

[Maria S]

It seems a lot of TS know from an early age that they were born in the wrong body. People who CD either from young or later in life may wonder whether being a TS is in them but does not obviously show. Personally I CD a lot 30-40 hours per week. I do not believe I was born in the wrong body but do wonder if things like HRT and breast implants etc would make a great thing excellent, the icing on the cake, the lacquer on the car's paint work.

Maria

[Kaitlyn Michele]

Transsexuals will tend to argue that one "is" transsexual, not one "becomes" transsexual.

Special hells are reserved for people like me that can't make up our minds, can't stay in one place, and argue in our heads a thousand times daily what gender we should be.

the first sentence true...altho transsexuals may grow up crossdressing to alleviate gender feelings, and often view themselves as crossdressers for some of their lives...

the second is not..generally speaking we are quite happy with people such as yourself that are happy with their gender identity!!! that's undeniably a good thing.

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you either are ts or not, so pls don't worry that your crossdressing will turn you into something and trick you into beleiving something that isnt true....

if your crossdressing seems unsatisfactory to you, and more and more you want to meet people and talk to people as a woman, or if you start hating your time spent in male "mode" or become ashamed of your male body...

...that's something to take seriously..but that's not because you "turned into" anything, its because the real you is coming into the forefront

... and btw...NOT crossdressing will not stop it from coming to the forefront, it will only delay it and make it harder on you long term...

[Julogden]

Transsexuals will tend to argue that one "is" transsexual, not one "becomes" transsexual.

Special hells are reserved for people like me that can't make up our minds, can't stay in one place, and argue in our heads a thousand times daily what gender we should be.

I couldn't agree more, Nathalie, well stated. I'm in that same place.

Carol

[Angela Campbell]

Sometimes is seems like a CD became a TS, but I think that is because it takes a while for someone to come to terms with what they truly are. It is difficult to finally admit to yourself that you are this different from most of the other people in the world, an outcast. It is easy to deny and tell yourself ...no this is a fetish, it is just sexual, or whatever. I do know some who are truly CD's and have no desire at all to be a woman. I spent years knowing I wanted to be a girl and at the same time trying to ignore it, hide it and tell myself it was not real. It wasn't until I fully dressed for the first time with makeup and wig that I finally accepted the fact that I am TS. I also had to accept the fact that I will most probably never be able to fully transition. I am ok with both realizations now but I see that the feminine part of me is beginning to merge into the male side and I fear that someday there will be no difference and I wonder what will come of that.

[Luna Nyx]

im on the fence about this myself. Part of me wants to transition but part of me doesn't. I have alot of time to figure this out. Atm I am happy, but i do feel the same as others have stated that when it comes back to turning into guy mode, i really dont want to.

[Emily_Safford]

I became a cd because I was a TS......

yep...this. exactly my thoughts. I was born this way (TG) ^_^

CDing just gave me a way to feel a little more like myself

Emi ~.^

[Annette Anderson]

This was actually a fear of mine.when i was younger pre-internet i had no clue.I found a cd group address in a cd/ts circulation in an adult book store.It was close to my home.When i got there i was greeted by the woman who ran it,she was ts.She was one of the most helpfull people i have ever had in my life,but in the back of my mind i was afraid that this will probably be the next step for me.I was even afraid to tell her.But i think she already knew,she told me don't worry your not a ts ,but you will be a crossdresser for the rest of your life.The first part i bought but not the second,i fought this with everything i had, determined to win..... well i guess you all know what happened with that.

[Amy R Lynn]

I can honestly say that I enjoy being both Amy and Rob. I wouldn't be complete without both sides of me. So.... Yeah, I have no problem being in guy mode. However, I do dread having to take all of my girly things off. I often wish that I could stay in Fem mode a lot longer than I normally am. But once I'm back in guy mode, its business as usual.

[wantstocrossdress]

I can honestly say that I enjoy being both Amy and Rob. I wouldn't be complete without both sides of me. So.... Yeah, I have no problem being in guy mode. However, I do dread having to take all of my girly things off. I often wish that I could stay in Fem mode a lot longer than I normally am. But once I'm back in guy mode, its business as usual.

same here.

dressing up is for fun. being a man is a requirement.

i have to be a man at work and at home. its how i earn my bread and butter and i dont think i could do so if i was dressed up. furthermore, there'd be tons of criticism and prejudice if i told the people i knew about me dressing up. to save myself from the headache, i prefer to keep my dressing up in the closet.

i like to dress up at night when im alone. when im dressed up, i wish that i could be dressed forever, that i could have the body of a woman, that i had a sister and we would dress up together... then i get sleepy or the sun comes up and cinderella has to go back home (back to guy mode)

if the 2 year rule was applied to me, i started to wear pantyhose at about 13 then moved up to having my own stuff and dressing up on my own, then i should have been a ts now. should i? if was born as a girl then i'd love it but im not so i'll have to do with balancing both sides.

i dream about being a gal in public or at work but wont do so. when im dressed up, i enjoy every second of it but i know that the second will come that i have to be a man again.

[Michelle (Oz)]

I can honestly say that I enjoy being both Amy and Rob. I wouldn't be complete without both sides of me. So.... Yeah, I have no problem being in guy mode. However, I do dread having to take all of my girly things off. I often wish that I could stay in Fem mode a lot longer than I normally am. But once I'm back in guy mode, its business as usual.

Me too although the balance is changing prefering more femme time without ever considering myself TS. Maybe that reflects human nature - the more you get of a good thing the more you want.