I have just told my Mum this week about my Transgender. She was totally surprised but not shocked and was very grateful I had told her, she said suddenly it made sense of the problems I had as a child. She just hugged me and cried that I confided in her, wanted to see pictures and everything. Right now my Mum has taken it in her stride but I am shell shocked, I don't know why I have kept this secret so long only to tell her now. It has left me feeling vulnerable and confused, we are not that close because I have always kept my family shut out emotionally. To suddenly let her into my world is so weird for me I don't know how to handle it. To make it worse I haven't told my wife that my Mum knows. Right now my wife is grieving and is emotionally fragile, she is doing her best to handle my reemerging need to express my Becky side, so I keep it need to know.
I hate lying to her and now is not the time to tell her I have told my Mum, they don't get on. If I told my wife she would start to wonder 'why' I have told my Mum now, what it means and where am I going with this. I know she will wonder if I am starting to come out to the world and how that effects her. I have always said I would be honest with my wife but I need to protect her from this till she is emotionally stronger but the lying kills me.
I feel selfish and deceitful