Have I bought too many clothes??

[Camille15]

Since May, when my wife said I could have packages shipped to the house, I have purchased many more clothes than I ever anticipated I would. I started with *nothing*, as I only ever tried on her things before that. I thought I'd be happy with just a couple skirts and tops of my own. Maybe a bra and wig. But I've found buying clothes online to be so fun and fulfilling, and I find it hard to stop from buying another item or two each month. I'm now up to:

* 3 dresses: sweater dress, LBD, red sheath dress
* 5 tops: turtle neck, 4 T's
* 1 pair jeans
* 1 pair high-heels
* 5 skirts: 1 long flowered, 1 short denim, 3 long straight skirts from VS (all same, but different colors)
* 1 zip-up sweatshirt (for lounging)
* 2 bras
* 1 belt
* 4 pairs of pantyhose
* Several pairs of underwear
* A body shaper
* 1 wig
* Some costume jewlery
* A cute makeup bag, and some makeup to experiment with.

This doesn't include all the stuff I bought and then returned. OK, so I obviously didn't know what I was thinking when I thought I'd be happy with just a couple items. The irony of it all is, though, that I don't often get a chance to wear this stuff. Maybe once a month, if I'm lucky. I guess that's partly why I keep buying things.... even if I know I can't dress for awhile, I can still experience the thrill and enjoyment of knowing something is coming in the mail for me, and I'll at least get to quickly try it on for size before anyone gets home. It's the suspense of wondering "how will it look on me?" that keeps me feeling connected to my "hobby", even when I can't partake in it. Plus I feel like there are so many different kinds of looks and styles I want to try, and I'm always seeing new ones.

Am I out of control here? My wife doesn't care, or really keep track, as it's all neatly tucked away in my closet (for now anyway). And I can afford it financially. I suppose I'll eventually get tired of some of the clothes and donate them, and then buy new styles? Or maybe the excitement of all this shopping will eventually wear off, and I'll settle down to just a few new items now and then? For now I'm having too much fun to really care. But I am amazed at how much I've acquired in such a short time span.

Does anyone think I'm going overboard here, or have anyone had similar experiences?

Camille

[GondorRachel]

I too have been on a bit of a spree since coming out at home...

[ArleneRaquel]

Darlin,
There is no such thing as having too much female clothes. But do stay in your budget.

[AmyGaleRT]

Oh, I'd probably do that and more if I didn't exercise some self-restraint. Right now I have "outstanding" and in transit:

• 1 pair of boots
• 1 pashmina-style scarf
• 2 pairs earrings
• 3 bras
• A 10-pack of panties
• A new dress (actually two, one is for my fiancee, and they match except for color)

And that doesn't count the three pairs of shoes that just arrived a week ago (clearance prices, and a 40% off coupon on top of that!)

Of course, there's more stuff I want to get. But, out of courtesy to my fiancee, I try and keep it down to a dull roar.

You're probably just "pink-fogged" to a certain degree. As long as you keep aware of it and don't really get out of control (like spending the rent money on clothes or something like that), you're likely OK.

- Amy

[Launa]

I have done the same thing last year I bought a schwack of different things from my head to toes. My wife commented last month and said, "hey lets go a bit easy here." She doesn't spend any more than she has to on herself but what are girls like us supposed to do?
It costs us girls a lot more money to look good otherwise we'll walk around looking like sore Trannies.

We all need to look our best right? And what could be more important than that? LOL

My next purchase is going to be a custom made wig and I'm not looking forward to that bill. $$$ Ouch!

[Ceri Anne]

Your doing about right. A girl always needs to update her closet. In the past 6 months, I've gotten 4 dresses, 3 skirts, 4 tops, 3 pair shoes, 1 pair boots, jeans, shorts, and just recently became hooked on Soma Intimates bras and panties. I've found I have been updating with much higher quality stuff then I used to get.

[I Am Paula]

If the budget allows, support the economy. I bring way more than that on vacation.-Celeste

[danielleinbr]

Too many clothes?? If the budget allows then BUY, BUY, BUY!! Lol. On a more practical note, I always try to plan outfits before I buy, and figure out what can be mixed and matched too.
Hugs
Danielle

[ReineD]

Camille, I read your inventory and I don't think it's too much.

If you had 30-50 dresses, 30-50 skirts & tops, 30-50 pairs of shoes or more, plus more lingerie than you can count, and more makeup than you can use, then I'd say this was excessive for someone who only dresses occasionally, or even regularly. I dress like a GG all the time () and I have nowhere near the amount of clothing that I've just mentioned.

So enjoy, but don't go overboard either. It's easy to start hoarding and difficult to get out of it once you've started.

[CarleyR]

Only one pair of high heels????

[DanaR]

Looking at your list, it seems like you don't have very much. Wait until you decide to attend a conference somewhere for a week and you'll see the need for more clothes.

Happy shopping!

[MonctonGirl]

lots of guys do that with car parts, stereo parts, music equipment, train sets. etc etc ...

[mikiSJ]

Camille, as Carley pointed out - ONE PAIR OF HEELS!

You need to but a couple more pairs of shoes before you wear out the ONE PAIR OF HEELS that you now have.

[Diane Smith]

It sounds like you're on a reasonable course. It's natural to go overboard a little at first as you exercise your new freedom to shop, and while you're trying to build up a wardrobe comparable to what women have spent decades accumulating. But the fact that you're even asking the question means you are conscious of the idea of limits, and shopping more carefully in the future, with a definite goal in mind. This tells me you'll probably start slowing down soon and will be buying fewer, but better, items in the future. You do have to work on that shoe collection, though. You won't earn your CD license until you own at least your own weight in high heels.

- Diane

[Cheryl T]

Sounds like you're a 'beginner'....lol.
My closet is so much more full.
65 pair of panties, 21 bras, 3 pair of forms, 6 wigs, 26 pair of shoes/boots, untold skirts, blouses, slacks/jeans/leggings, 8 dresses from formal to casual, 2 garter belts, 8 pair of stockings, 20 pair of pantyhose, 4 pair of tights, and don't forget half slips, shapewear, padded panties and other miscellaneous items a girl needs.

Just make room in your closet...these things are like rabbits...they multiply quickly.

[Beverley Sims]

I think all the ones need to be a two, except for the sweatshirt and two bras need to be four.
Probably need more than two belts remember thick and thin ones here.
I notice you have no shorts and possibly no money either.

[kimdl93]

Your closet will tell you when it's full. And you can expect all those clothes to start asking for more opportunities to be worn!

[Krististeph]

Since May,...............

* 3 dresses: sweater dress, LBD, red sheath dress
---rest of list omitted* ----

Does anyone think I'm going overboard here, or have anyone had similar experiences?

Camille

Cami- your feet aren't even wet yet. :-)

But now is a good time to check out a couple of books from the library or buy a guide on how to build and co-ordinate your wardrobe. You'll tend to buy too many things that you'll wear only once or that do not seem to go with other stuff- getting some good style foundation items should be your next focus- it may feel a little 'boring' especially when you are discovering how much really cute stuff is out there- but you'll save money, dress better, and feel more comfortable in the long run. take it from someone who has blown some serious sums on silly swag...

[Suzy Parker]

Buying female clothes is like gambling, you had better set a limit before you start or you will wind up in trouble. And both are the same, the money you start with is gone when you are finished. The only difference is with one you get to take home some nice clothes.

[Joanna Maguire]

I have overbought too when I was younger.Some Ive never worn out of the house as I did not look good or they were
not suitable to wear in public. I now know what size and what suits my figure better. GG's often overbuy especially shoes. A new outfit to wear to a party so other women will not see her wear the same to every outing. My mother spent most of my fathers earning on her clothing and accessories. I amd my father had few male cloths. 2 out fits one for school and another for home. But when my mother dressed me as a girl she soon bought me lots of dresses etc. To day I have few male drab outfits. I have lots of femme gear and unisex clothing But at times I still overspend

[Grace85]

As long as your wife is on board with the spending and the storage, I don't think you have an unreasonable amount of stuff. You said she doesn't keep track...I would suggest confirming that not keeping track is in fact an indication that she doesn't care how much you buy.

If you're worried you're buying too much stuff, set yourself a budget for it, so you won't buy too much at once. (That will also help you keep your buying spread out, so you'll get a wider variety of styles - stores will have a quite different selection come March than they do right now!)

[CynthiaD]

I don't even have to read your post to answer that question!

No, of course not!

Add a zero to everything and you'll have what I consider to be a reasonable wardrobe. But then, I wear my femme clothes almost everywhere.

[carhill2mn]

Overboard? Not in my opinion since you can afford it and your wife is OK with it (and you have enough closet space! There are so many wonderful women's clothes, shoes, jewelry, etc. available that I find that I must make an effort to curtail my buying.

[Camille15]

Thanks everyone. I feel less concerned now. In fact, I feel like I still have some serious shopping to get done!

[RADER]

I had a similar problem; So I went to work and added a large addition to the house.
I put in 3 more closets, and over 600 sq. ft. of floor space. That was 10 years ago.
Guess what, all the closets are full, and there is no more room to expand......
What is a girl to do.........
Rader