Wow Melissa, that didn't half resonate with me. I tried for a couple of years to remain as a feminine man, moving perhaps towards to gender queer, since I was pretty sure that this was a place where I could be happy and I figured that this would be a place where my friends, family and wife would be able to follow. This caused all kinds of issues with my own self image and marriage, and so I tried to keep as the more generic man since anything else didn't seem to be an option. This of course broke down, and now I'm in full blown transition. I can't really blame my wife, or anyone else, but if given the opportunity to live as a more expressive feminine male, I guess I wouldn't be where I am today.
Given that though, zero regrets regarding transition.