So many questions have been asked over the years directed to anyone born genetically male and who expresses themselves in a feminine way, by, people born genetically male and express a feminine side, about how, when, why do I tell my s/o about who I really am. The answers come in all flavours, sizes and shapes with a filing cabinet full of justifications. The simple amswer is of course, simply ask them in a generic way that does not out oneself at the time. That answer received might change if truth be known but a good idea of how they feel about it will come out. A good example of that would be a parent learning their child is gay. Prior to the knowledge, the parent might have commented in sentences using words such as,'faggot, queer', etc. After learning of the sons' true identity, in many cases, that all changes.
So let's put the proverbial shoe on the other foot:
How would you, as a genetically born male that expresses a feminine side, feel if you came home from work early unannounced, and saw your genetically born female s/o dressed in mens dress socks and dress shoes, with glued on beard, leg and chest hairs, getting ready to put on a mans dress shirt and pants?
1: Would you feel violated?
2: Would you feel your s/o lied to you about herself?
3 : Do you believe you had a right to know this information at any time?
4: Would you consider ending the relationship?
5: Would you accept her partially or totally for who she really is?