Thanks for adding more to your response, Freddy. I have several thoughts:
It is not only GGs who are baffled by the "It's just about clothes" concept. You've been involved in several long discussions about this. As virtually the only GG who has participated, I am merely one of the voices among pages of MtF posts who feel otherwise. These other members are also largely CDs, not TS.
(bold type is my emphasis)
Well, why didn't you say so before? If your motive is to seek pleasure, whether it is of the sexual or asexual type (sensual), then I understand your reluctance to label what you do with anything that has the term "gender" in it. I think it is understood by people who are familiar with the TG Umbrella that men who do this strictly for the physical experience (whether it is sexual or sensual), fall outside the transgender umbrella.
A note on asexuality: My impression is that the majority of people in this forum understand fetish to be of the sexual variety that culminates in orgasm, whether it is object or situation oriented. But there are also asexual fetishes among, well, asexuals. There are also sexual people who have asexual fetishes ("gray-a" asexuals), for things they find sensual such as wearing taboo clothing or feeling like a beautiful woman. The "gray-a" falls somewhere in between sexual and asexual.
Here's a thread about asexual fetishes from one of the best asexual forums out there, Aven, and interestingly there is also an entire section there on gender issues:
http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/8...tishes/page-13
And here's the most comprehensive diagram of the Transgender Umbrella I've seen. Note the absence of sexual or sensual fetish motives, so again if your motives are purely physical (sensual), then I do understand why you see yourself as falling outside the Umbrella.
http://trans-e-motion.org/wp-content...ansgender1.jpg
Now. The thing that motivates physical/sensual pleasure, when it involves fabrics that are also found in men's clothing (silk, nylon, cashmere, etc) is an entirely different conversation.
It's complicated and I can see why so many people just want to throw up their hands and stop trying to assign labels. Because this would mean delving deeper than a person might be willing to do.