... I still like to look attractive, although maybe not so hot and sexy at my age (in my 50s lol). But, there's a difference between how we look when we look our best, and how William Belli looks. Don't forget that you're also looking at stage makeup seen on a youtube video or a picture, which is two-dimentional. If she was standing in front of you made up like that, you likely would not think that she passed either.
Just before my SO started to go out in the mainstream, she went to the Be All conference in Chicago. She got a makeover & professional photo shoot there that really, and I mean REALLY transformed her looks. My SO is attractive, but in those pictures she looked downright delectable! Not a wrinkle, not a hair out of place, perfect, professional makeup. Her eyes were bigger, her lips were fuller, her cheekbones were well defined, her skin was perfect, the hair was "big", etc. I asked her if she would like to have the skills to look like that all the time and she said h*ll no. She said it was fun to have the experience, but there was no way she could ever go out in the mainstream looking like that and be taken seriously. No one can with stage makeup and big wigs.
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Reine
The videos are a bit opulent but if you have the chance look for her in a bit part in a movie called Barry Munday. Now THAT is passing and it's actually a cute little movie. I would agree Ticked-Off Trannies with Knives was a pretty bad try at a Quentin Tarantino style movie.
Its probably the objective to look hot and sexy but doesn't always turn out that way. I remember after one particularly unsuccessful session I ended up looking like my one aunt, not the look i was going for.
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absolutely I want to look hot and sexy---but when I go for that look, I know that I'm likely to attract attention and when I attract attention, I and the vast majority of CDs, are less likely to pass then when we put on our mom jeans, flats, and plain jane tops to hang around the mall. I guess I would rather be thought of as a hot and sexy cross dresser then a plain and drab GG
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There are a gazillion CD's who would give a teste to look like her but most of the active CD girls are really shooting for something different. Why? I can't say that I know. I'm on record as not understanding why straight guys cross-dress but I can say for sure that drag queens cross dress for different reasons than most all of the members that have ever posted here. They don't do it to pass or blend. They don't do it for fetish reasons. They don't do it because it turns them on. They do it because they have a decidedly feminine aspect of their personality that they enjoy exploiting for the sake of performance. There are always exceptions but the average DQ does not sit around the house in drag and they certainly aren't in the closet about who they are.
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Drag queen, passing, passing, drag queen, bla bla bla…………..
All I know is, I wished I could look like that Tara. Then even I would go out dressed!!!!!!!
[And anyone that says she “doesn’t remotely pass as a woman” should get a new prescription for their glasses]
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Tara, look, I know way too much about everything with us, and even with them. DQs, in their performances, are quite traditional, going for a very much "over the top" look which is done in a really specific way (seriously plastered on makeup, WHITE eyeshadow for no apparent reason, hair and dresses like they were a 60s showgirl, giant fake eyelashes, etc). Clearly she toned it down a bit, but she still did what was expected of her.
No women wear makeup and dress like this. In fact, if women get too close, they're sometimes even called a "hot tranny mess" as it's clear they took it too far that way. You can wear a lot of makeup, but it's really an art when it comes to that level. It's not just a gigantic amount with big hair and big makeup. It's subtle, sexy, flirty, classy, and more things, all in one.
Now, I don't know what you're looking for in this. I'd say that pretty much 100% of girls who truly 'pass', no matter how hard they've worked their bodies at the gym, have been on HRT for a while, possibly with some FFS, depending on genes and their age. A number of DQs these days actually are TG women who use it as a way to make a steady living and have had breast implants, HRT, etc. And, some even grow out of it, like Carmen Carrera, who has now pretty much transitioned. That might be confusing you a bit.
This Will is a very passable look and would probably be more convincing with a different style of makeup.
This discussion has brought to mind the question I've always had. Are cross-dressers and transgendered just able to spot other cross-dressers and transgendered better than the non-CDers/TG?
Last week I was flipping through channels and came across a reality show the "Stars" were in a DRAG themed restaurant and one of the guys, who looked like he knew his way around a real woman was honestly amazed and shocked that every member of the wait staff was in fact a man in drag. These drag queens fell far short of William's caliber. I was confused how someone could be so confused but seen this happen before. Do cross-dressers by the fact of being cross-dressers have a better eye for spotting other cross-dressers? Do cross-dressers who feel they don't pass actually passing much better in the general public than they think? This may be the source of the disagreement as to whether William is passing or not. Just a thought.
Folks, people responding to a thread are not bound by a requirement to answer only the specific question asked. If they wish to discuss the question, explore other ramifications, etc. that is part of the function of a forum.
Let's not take offense at things simply because there is disagreement.
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Eryn
"These girls have the most beautiful dresses. And so do I! How about that!" [Kaylee, in Firefly] [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
"What do you care what other people think?" [Arlene Feynman, to her husband Richard]
"She's taller than all the women in my family, combined!" [Howard, in The Big Bang Theory]
"Tall, tall girl. The woman could hunt geese with a rake!" [Mary Cooper, in The Big Bang Theory]
As a drag queen the video was OK. As for passing as a woman? I don't think he would. Maybe other videos would show him more fem. He has a lot of male features. I've seen CDers with much finer features that do pass.
This is so beautifully stated, Janessa! But, it may have slipped by those involved in the discussion because they may not be CD's that care to look, "hot and sexy". So, it went rite over their heads. I happen to be one that does! Altho Sherry can pass in some of my pics, I have zero chance of passing in person.
So, I have 2 LOUSY options when I go out. Dress as a blending granny, (which I hate), or go out as Sherry and scare the crap out of everyone! Not what I'm about either.
If I could go out and look as fem as Eryn does, I would go out a lot more. But, that's not an option for me. And, may not be for Willam either.
Let me explain this in a way everyone can understand: We have mirrors!
RE:"I'm on record as not understanding why straight guys cross-dress.": MANY on here have proclaimed they do not understand it themselves."
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
Tara, I agree with the crowd that Williams's stage presentation is too extreme to pass, but I think you have a point underlying your statement that is valid. If William chose to, he could make some adjustments and pass with kind of a Madeline Khan/Bernadette Peters look.
Fun vid. Thanks for posting it.
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William does not pass..
not even close...not even trying to pass....
Looks sexy and great..and its easy to see she looks more female than most drag queens...
tara, you can't convince people that they should like the same music as you, you can just play it, enjoy it, and let them decide what they think...same thing here...
here we go with that "passing "word again.
The word itself holds many different definitions for many people. The idea of it is based on your personal perspective of femininity. For most here it is this holy grail of a perfect representation of femininity. Voice, body language, body type, facial features, (ect, you all get the point.)
To me the whole idea of it is ludicrous...and not what passing is about to me. My idea of passing is being comfortable enough with yourself that you dont give a damn about being the perfect storm of femininity. Its about being yourself and having the self confidence to rock whatever look you want, where ever you want.
I think Willam passes well. Her confidence is great, her style is awesome, and she has a bright enough personality to pull of Sexy and Provocative.
This holy grail of passing is a fools notion to me. No matter how far we transition our lives as TG people we will always be Trans*........
Stop chasing what doesnt exist,
-Donni-
Maybe people are confusing being attractive with "passing"?
William Belli has an attractive face, no matter how he presents. Cheekbones are cheekbones. Look at him in guy mode - he's gorgeous!
http://ia.media-imdb.com/images/M/MV...0,214,314_.jpg
His eyes are beautifully shaped, he's got gorgeous cheek definition and jaw line, his lips are sexy. In short, he is appealing to women! So it stands to reason that if you put makeup and a wig on a man who has excellent facial proportions and features and who is handsome, he will look equally attractive in female mode.
Is this "passing", or is it just having an attractive and sexy face?
Reine
I would be more inclined to say that people hold too much stock in how others perceive them as a binary creature.Maybe people are confusing being attractive with "passing"?
Willam is handsome as a guy and pretty when in drag. He passes because it is his aim to be a Drag Queen. Being good looking helps, but it would be less believable if he did not have confidence to rock who he is.
Passing is about being confident in expressing who you are. It is not about falling into a stereotypical societal view of what women are perceived as.
Our boards general consensus of what passing is defined as, is just based on a "Finishing School for girls" type of context. Proper, Pinkies extended, and Ladylike.
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If thats "passing" you can have it, ill just stick to being myself and being confident. It seems like the whole idea of passing is just another way to reaffirm feelings of "not fitting in". You dont have to be like everyone else to be accepted, you just need confidence in yourself.
-Donni-
PS
Me too. For some reason the notion "of trying to be who someone else perceives i should be" goes against the grain of my core being.no you aren't the only one here who would rather be a DQ than a GG--I feel the same way
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I think Willam can be passable if she wants to, and looks passable in one of the photos you linked to, but in the video and the rest of the photos, no way, she is looking like a drag queen to me too.
Carol
My name is Carol.
I agree with Suzy here. While I wasn't too impressed with the video, her photo shoots look fantastic. I don't think she looks overly made up, and she has a wonderful smile. In fact, there are many women who like to wear makeup like she has here...just walk into any Ulta store. Not every woman goes with the simple, bare makeup look. If I had her build, I would be out more often!
The problem with any "passing" thread is that how one looks in a photo is just the very beginning of what it means to move in the real world presenting as a woman. Willam Belli certainly has the potential to pass muster on the "looks" level. After all, there are venues for "dressing to the nines" and I don't have a doubt that Willam would fit right in at Sardi's on Sat. night after the shows let out (not showing quite that much skin, however).
The real test comes when one talks, moves, uses the expected mannerisms, and gives off all the feminine cues that GGs do so naturally. We can't tell all of that from a "drag" video and from stills. Invite her over to dinner in jeans and a T-shirt (okok, a skirt and a nice top for Karren) and see how it goes...