I did it! For those who have followed my posts and comments, you know that I am an 'out of the closet' CD'r, as of last August. This is all new to me. What I am hoping by creating this thread, is that I reach out to all of you who are in a similar situation as I find myself to be, with a very wonderful wife who has absolutely NO interest in being a part of me and my CD'ing. She is accepting that this is now me, but she has no desire to see me, or be a part of my CD'ing life style.
I accept this.
Tonight, however, something changed a bit, and I am hoping that this will bode well for me and may be an inspirtation for others. I am taking my wife to a weekend getaway and I told her how much I appreciated her and how much I am feeling down for knowing that I may have disappointed her when I 'came out of the closet'. My wife told me that I should not feel this way and admitted that she must be making it hard on me by not wanting to see me in 'en femme' mode of dress. I told her that it was indeed hard, since I have virtually no time to fulfill my needs to CD. She understood this and said that when we go away for our special weekend to celebrate her birthday, that she would try to accommodate me in letting me CD in her presence, to see if she could take the emotional feelings she expects to have by seeing me in this state of dress.
At least she is willing to try!
I sit here this evening writing to you all, after having put her to bed, and coming down to my living room and changing into 'en femme' clothing and 'stepping out' for the first time - totally 'en femme' in black nylon panties, a short denim skirt, open-tip bra, scoop neck blouse, and sandles. I walked down the road of the neighborhood (ducking into the bushes when cars approached), silly me, and made it to the end of the block, and back home again. For me this was a thrill!
I am sitting here writing in my clothes and am dreading taking them off before I go back to bed with my wife. I just love being dressed 'en femme'.
Anyways, the point of this message is to give you all a glimmer of hope which I now have, and which I never expected a few weeks ago. The hope is to give your wife or special partner some time to take it all in when you have confessed to her about your need to CD. Allow her the opportunity to take it all in, assess the impact, and react to her feelings about this disruption to her life. I believe that love conquers all and if you are patient and communicative and understanding, a good life balance between you both can be had.
Best wishes to you all.
Di