People often worry too much about whether others fully "understand" them, even when "misunderstanding" isn't accompanied by any form of active or even passive oppression.
Things you should reasonably worry about:
1. Not a lack of definition, but the attribution of definition in such a way that it informs behavior or precludes you from proper expression. A lack of definition without further attribution can never exceed neutrality, as traits must be targeted in order for positive or negative judgments to be made, and those who may attribute some sort of subconscious desire to your behavior which has nothing to do with what is or isn't moral are only speculating as to the causes of a behavior which is, on the surface, already present and already tolerated or even accepted. Getting one's panties in a bunch over perfection of understanding will result in an eternal clash of wills and permanent unhappiness and failure in trying to win the clash.
2. Ends. By ends, I mean "the goals which you have set for your behavior". If you want to be addressed as and treated as a woman, and receiving such an address or such treatment would cause no one else excessive and reasonable discomfort, you should receive it. However, if one is confused as to the purposes and still willing to oblige you, you should not worry about that. It, at the surface level, at the observable level, would not affect you even minimally.
Ideal social circumstances will never be achieved, focus on achieving those circumstances which allow you to be you, and damn all the rest.