I have never gone out dressed as a women (other than one burning man and that does not count). The only person who has ever seen me in my "alter ego" is my Girl Friend. Yet, something has come up and she feels I should go public.
My department is awesome and the people around me that I work with directly are awesome. We have a massive amount of respect for each other. Yet, upper management (who other area of the building) have other ideas about me.
I have learned that my work is looking to let me go but has not yet built their case fully yet. My supervisor is fighting to keep me. She and I work really well together.
I am an older male graphic designer and they want a younger person with a younger view point for my job. They are looking at options. Obviously they won't let on that it's an Age thing. That would be illegal and amoral. Companies find other ways to make things like this work out for themselves. For example, upper management gave my supervisor "their" personal input for my review. So, instead after getting 6 years of absolutely impeccable reviews (4.5's or better for 6 years), I am getting 2.75's to 3's with lame excuses. My supervisor does not and can not afford to loose her job and so....gave the review.
So here is my dilemma.
If I lose my job, I will most likely loose my house and just spiral down from there. My girlfriend feels I should show up at work dressed as a women. She feels that then, if they fire me, I can claim discrimination. I am pretty sure if I show up dressed as a women, they will for sure let me go. Still citing what ever other than the Cross Dressing (or Expressing who I am). So lets say they don't let me go out of fear of reprisal and bad publicity. It is still a problem. The idea of going to work as a women that is. Here is why -
Other issues I have are how it will affect my personal life. Colleagues I work well with I don't envision will understand. My closest friends are EXTREMELY anti-cross dressing as is my family. How do I know. I checked years ago and pretty much check again here and there. Simple questions when the topic comes up or something in the media comes around (tv shows, news, what ever).
My mothers response is, "Being gay is fine, but any guy that isn't gay and dresses like a women is crazy and should be shot". My closest friends (Males) don't see far from her view point.
All of my friends know that I am a bit feminine and I do things because I feel like it. I think that is partly why so many of them have emphasized their viewpoint on the Non-Homosexual Cross Dressers.
They are either waiting for me to announce I am a Homosexual male, or I am sure pray I will not say anything.
So now I don't know what to do. My Girl Friend really really feels I should make the move before they let me go. Since I got my review, it's now literally a "any day now" thing. Going home from working thinking, "Good night Westly, sleep well, for I may have to kill you in the morning".
Stress levels are insane. Health is deteriorating. Jobs are out there but NONE pay as well as this (with years of pay raises and such). And that is IF I could find a job in a field that is over saturated in the industry (art colleges are pumping out people like bots in a factory).
So, what do you think? Should I just say $#% it and just go for it?
Again, as mentioned, I have NEVER ever let others know about this. I have never gone out in public. Family problems will become massive. Friend issues. No guarantee the person who wants me to will even stick around when the $%*& hits the fan (Family and friend wise). Heck, I don't even own a wardrobe. Just a few items here and there and make-up.
Please, can anyone share their issues, experience and wisdom on this? I am so scared to loose my job and yet, am just as frightened to go to work as a women knowing how much it will affect my personal life.