I'm currently drying off from my bath after an evening of having gotten to be Amy once again, spending much of the evening on this site and Facebook, or listening to my "girly" music, and occasionally dancing. I went in and gave my fiancee a number of kisses, thanking her for continuing to be accepting and supportive. After all, I see stories here all the time about CDs whose spouses are cold or actively hostile towards their dressing, and I know I lucked out big time.
My fiancee made a comment to that: "It takes a strong and accepting woman to be able to deal with a husband who's a crossdresser. If she can't, she's not strong enough, or not willing enough." Which is true enough; some (most?) women are simply not equipped to deal with "their man" as a woman. They can learn, but the resistance might very well destroy the relationship first.
So, to those of you whose SOs are as accepting and supportive as my fiancee: be sure to tell them how much you appreciate them and their attitude, on a regular basis. And for those whose SOs are just the opposite, please believe that it's not your fault; you can't help being what you are, and your situation is all too common. (And for those who are still alone, take heart; women with the strength and acceptance of my fiancee are not impossible to find. Tough, yes, but not impossible.)
- Amy
