This is mainly aimed at beginners and those who are afraid to walk out of their bedrooms.
I have been reading a lot of threads and posts concerning “Passing” and it is interesting to note, some people say it’s not important to them, a LOT say they could never pass or they don’t pass, but everyone is so excited when they get “Ma’mmed” or called a “Lady” or “Miss” So I have been thinking about writing this thread for a very long time in a effort to help those who don’t think they can pass, or are afraid to go out because they don’t pass.
I wish when I had started that there was a series of threads like this that I could have read where everything is in one place. Hair, Makeup, Body Shaping, Nails, Clothes etc. That is why I decided to write this.
I have gone out many times and have passed 100% each time. The “Acid Test” was the week of Thanksgiving when I went into a ladies room. It was PACKED with women waiting for a stall. There must have been 12 to 15 women in there, but I just stood in line and waited my turn. When I was done, I stood at the mirror to fix my hair and makeup. I NEVER got a Glance or a look from anyone. Women were coming in and going out and no one treated me any differently than Any Other Woman in there! I Knew I had done it! I passed the Test! It felt Wonderful!!
I have many people call me “Mamm” and “Miss” when I want to try something on and ask an clerk where to go, they always show me to the ladies fitting rooms and never question me.
So I thought I would share how I accomplished this.
First of all let’s change “Pass” to “Accepted as a Woman”
Now, let me say that I KNOW I am NOT the only one on this forum that goes out and is “Accepted as a Woman 100%”!! The reason I know this is that the way I accomplished my “Acceptance” is by Reading and Paying Attention to all the Advice listed by other members!!
We need to ask ourselves, “Why do we want to be accepted as a woman?”
The main reason is that we don’t want to have people stare, or laugh at us! We want to go about our business and be treated as any other woman. There is a great deal of fear and a mindset that “all eyes are on me! Kids will point and laugh at me!!” But the truth is that this probably will not happen. There are several things you can do to prepare yourself and insure that it does not which is the whole point of my writing these threads.
So if you too want to be Accepted as an actual Woman, I will share some of the things I have learned.
Now this would be a Very Long post if I shared everything at the same time, so I have decided to break this up in to several threads, each on a different topic. I will be sharing what I have learned from this forum and I will be mentioning a few people that have helped me, and they may not have known they did! I will mention Karen Hutton right now.
You see I almost quit right after I started. I was so discouraged with the way I looked I wrote a post saying that I quit and was selling my stuff. Karen wrote a reply that made me change my mind. She explained that many of the girls I saw on the forum have been doing this a lot longer and have practiced. So, I did sell some of my things, that didn’t work for me, but I kept some and started again. It took me Three Years of practice to get where I am now, but it was worth every minute and paid off thousands of times over. So Thanks Karen!
Here is what I learned and what you need to do to be Truly Accepted as a Woman.
I will start here with the number one, which is Size.
I read a lot of posts that say “I’m way too big to pass” or “I am too tall” Well let me tell you that I am a “Plus Size” woman myself! My dress size is 24W.
I have a GG Friend that knows about Barbara and she has helped me a lot. I first told her that I didn’t think I could really look like a girl due to my size and she said “Girls come in All Sizes”!! So I started looking around and guess what? She was RIGHT!! There are All Sizes of Girls out there, just look around you. Take a look at the women’s clothes sizing and you will see sizes from Extra Small Petite, to 40W Plus and bigger!! I personally have Dated a couple girls that were MUCH Bigger than I am, in fact at lease one was TWICE my size!
The point is that girls Really Do come in assorted sizes. Do we all want to look like Movie and Television Stars? Supermodels? Of COURSE we do!! But the reality is 99.9% of us will never look that way and you know what? 99.9999% of Real Women out in the world don’t look that way either!!!!
You need to “do your homework” and you can start by Observing women around you and out in the world. Go to the Grocery Store, the Mall, Walmart, and LOOK at the women around you (Discreetly of course!). Pay attention to their Sizes, what they are wearing and how they carry themselves. You will see that YOU can do that too!! So don’t be so hard on yourself. Size really Doesn’t Matter. What does matter is that You WANT to be Accepted as a Woman, to “Blend In” with the women you see every day.
Well, this has turned out to be a pretty long first post, so I will continue with the next subject this in the next Thread.
Originally Posted by Beverley Sims
