sex with a man is great and very different than with a woman. I'm happily married to a gg but I love it either way.
sex with a man is great and very different than with a woman. I'm happily married to a gg but I love it either way.
This is super common. I do NOT endorse it, but there is a huge scene of men who have sex with men, but are otherwise straight identified, and many of these sexual encounters are anonymous (see: senator Larry Craig, bathrooms/adult video/glory holes/Craigslist). Many/most of these guys are similar to you in that they want the male genitals, but not so much the person attached to them. I'm not too different: I primarily emotionally bond to women, but have been with men and very much enjoy it, but don't tend to form relationships there.
For me, my femme side doesn't much come into it. I like who I like regardless whether I'm presenting as male or female. Sure, you can play the femme role more when you're with a guy. But it's good in my male persona also.
Suffice it to say that should you get a girlfriend I'd recommend that you look for a consensual, safe open relationship, where you can have your satisfying intimate relationship with a woman but also have the ability to meet your other sexual needs.
I can definitely understand this. I don't particularly like kissing guys but I do love the effect of me dressing as a woman has on a man's penis and I do love 'playing' with his penis in all the ways you can imagine. For me, it is the biggest sexual thrill imaginable! When I'm dressed as a woman, nothing beats having sex with a man. I just love being able to use at least a little bit of the feminine sexual power which woman have.
I'm always a woman!
I guess I might be a little different. I am sexually attracted only to men. I love to be with girlfriends, but only as friends. Hard to have a deep conversation with guys. Need girlfriends for that. And most guys don't want to go with me to hit the sales!!
I think this is a key point. It took a while to get to this point in our lives; 20, 30, 40, 50, 60 years or more depending upon the person. Trying to develop some understanding of things does not occur overnight. In this instant society of ours, we sometimes have that expectation, but it's not how defining ones life works. As it looks now, there's a few possibilities.
Experience is a good teacher and weathervane. If, in the not too distant future, you look back and realize that you did This and That, but very little of the Other, patterns of behavior begin to form. Then, did you seek these these situations out, or were they just opportunities that presented themselves?
Sometimes the fantasy is better than the reality
I'm looking for fraternity in this sorority.
Anyone "worried" or wondering about where or how they fit in or what they like, needs to rent/watch "The Crying Game".
Viewing it might somewhat alleviate any "guilt" component that many seem to have.
trish i certainly know what you mean when you say..."my sexuality has changed as I have aged"
i know exactly i dream more of sex with a man and me bing the woman than i do having sex with a woman and me as the man...i really do want to be the woman....
well said sweety
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I was uncertain about having a romantic interest in men when I started to explore the concept of having sex with them. I've never been attracted to rough sex with women, and have tried to date only men who are interested in a girlfriend experience with me. I've had a certain number of one-time only meetups, but they've always involved kissing, caressing, and conversation. I've also had sporadic "friends with benefits" relationships (which seem to have a finite life span by definition), and two relationships where I had affectionate and deeply caring feelings for the man. But, that's the same sort of pattern which I have had with women as a man, so I'm not sure there's any conclusions to be drawn.
aalynn88. Don't worry about a label. You know what you like and don't like. If nobody is getting hurt do what you like. Now, if you're talking about having a relationship with a woman and fooling around with guys, then that woman will have to be on board (or participating). If she's not on board you will have to choose between the two genders or just stick with casual relationships. If you insist on a label, it seems pretty clear that bisexual would apply.
When we attempt to present as women, we are, by definition, attempting to be attractive. Let's face it: none of us sets out to be a completely unattractive woman! Then there is the added kicker that we are biologically men and have a very good idea what men like in looking at a woman. How many threads have we read that discuss being attracted to our feminine selves?
What this all generates is a very complicated situation trying to balance gender choices and sexual preferences. It's a wonder we don't have many more threads like this one trying to sort it all out (we've had some, just not the avalanche of them I had expected).
My suggestion is to try to figure out which facets of being with a man is exciting to you. You might need a professional to help you sort this out. It might be possible to transfer these facets to an understanding GG spouse!
Best of luck....we all need it!