in a more distant way, but I did. And her response was really surprising. Not that it means she'll accept the cding, maybe it was just a joke-coincidence, but it went this way: we were talking about psychology and about some friends of ours that work with it, sharing some stories we've already heard from them. Then I told her some, she told me other ones, just when I brought it up "well, this friend of mine even told me of a patient that likes women, but also likes to dress like a woman" (true story, btw)...and the she replies "No, honey, that's not a patient, that's YOU!"....
I couldn't hide my surprise and suddenly, almost desperatly, asked with some sweat and a fake joke tone: "well, if it was me, would you stay with me?" and she went like "yes, you're the love of my life, but we would had to keep this away from the kids" (btw, we don't have kids). And then we changed subject (there was no way I could use that opportunity, we were in a public restaurant).
Does this means she already knows? Certainly not, she would've asked me. But is it possible I've already accidentally dropped a hint and she at least considered the idea? Maybe.