Spare me your ire about what you think I might do. I like Anne, I worry about Anne, I'm one of the people who encouraged Anne to identify as TS. I know you think you're defending her, but you've got it wrong. I have no need to refer to previous posts...it's unnecessary in this instance.
How can one offer advice pertinent to the situation unless one knows the person as best they can through this imperfect medium? Anne engages in avoidance, I know this, she knows this and has admitted she does and has done it. Many of us have done it, many of us will do it in the future. It's all about recognizable patterns of behavior that we see over and over again in ourselves and others.If all you want to do is show off your tendency toward historical accuracy
What part of "Be Direct, Use the Words, and stop engaging in avoidance", is not constructive. Essentially that's what ReineD said as well. I just said it much more simply, bluntly and directly.and if you can't offer any constructive input than perhaps you might sit this one out.
People might like to think that nice commiserations like "Oh sweetie hun dear, I so feel for you and am sorry your wife doesn't understand, I hope things get better hun." are useful, the direct "Anne engates in Avoidance, Anne should stop doing so" is actually useful advice. it's that simple.
Veronica