In the twelve months since I voluntarily stopped taking female hormones that were helping to keep my PCOS (poly-cystic ovary symdrome) under control, I've undergone a roller coaster ride of physical sensations, strong emotions and vast confusion. After decades of thinking I knew what I was and what I wanted, I have come full circle to that scared and confused little boy that I remember from so long ago and thought I had put behind me for good.
In the last year I have progressed from an asexual genetic female to a straight female crossdresser (whose engine has started racing again) to a transgendered/bi-gendered FtM who keeps trying to assess how much is male and how much is female (and finds that this changes constantly). Now that journey has led me to yet another discovery - one that has me slapping my head ("doh") and wondering how I could have been so blind for so long.
I had a hard time saying the word transsexual the other day. I didn't want to say it 'cause I felt that once I opened that door it would remain open and I would have no choice but to walk through it. I tried telling my best friend (who has been on this journey with me) and the words got caught in my throat. He didn't press me to say it. Instead he asked me roundabout questions in order to confirm my feelings. It worked. The words found their way out of my mouth and I felt tremendous relief.
What now? The door is open. The road stands before me, almost beckoning. I can't believe how much has changed in just a year, and I can't help but wonder what life will be like another year from now. I have a lot of thinking to do. How much do I want to change my whole life? I do and I don't. I don't know. I've been agonizing about this for several days (and sleepless nights).
I feel very fortunate to have found this site when I did (thanks Abraxas) because it has been a much-needed source of information and support. I know from reading this part of the forum that most (if not all) of you are MtF and not FtM, like me, but I feel that we're on the opposite sides of the same coin and so I would appreciate any advice from those who can relate, have gone further down the road and can tell me what's ahead. Thanks.