I feel pretty sure not many here have ever tried that line with your SO?
Does YOUR SO have any characteristics or traits that you could happily live without if it WAS as simple as asking?
On the other hand, how many here, make "bargains" with your SOs based on your CDing?
How many here have SOs with at least one interest [let's say bridge for example] that you have not the slightest interest in playing or discussing? Is this not a simply a different version of DADT?
I'm not directly comparing the two.
But under certain circumstances, they might be comparable.