Leyna’s ex-CD thread was closed, but…
Thanks for the invitation – I’ll do just that! I missed most of the earlier discussion(s), but I’m intrigued by this “peripheral” issue of dabbling in one thing or another, yet being burdened with an unwanted moniker, probably forever…Originally Posted by Eryn
This reminds me of something I wrote a while ago, namely that a male who has a homosexual experience isn’t necessarily GAY, and a woman who has a homosexual experience isn’t necessarily a lesbian. It follows that if you get drunk now and then you are not necessarily an alcoholic, if you get depressed now and then you are not necessarily a depressive, and if you, a male, try on some women’s clothing out of curiosity, you are not necessarily a crossdresser…Originally Posted by Leyna
I think there must be plenty of people who experiment with what as CALLED crossdressing, perhaps even in separate episodes years apart, and they may come here to learn a little about it. You certainly can’t learn anything out in the wilderness of societal correctness, so this place is convenient, as well as chock full of confusing and misleading information. In short, you CAN be just a crossdresser, and not very much of one at that, or you can make crossdressing your style, or lifestyle, and challenge the status quo. You may also believe you are a woman, or you want to be a woman full time, and thus spend your life on both sides of the gender fence, as you wish…
That’s fine, but some people would just like to dress up now and then, according to their own level of interest, squeezed between familial duties and expectations, and not make a big deal out of things. This “position,” if you want to call it that, is just as valid as any other. Just because you dress in women’s clothing now and then does not mean you might want to do it 24/7, or even once in the proverbial Blue Moon. However, if you have ever crossdressed, I guess that somehow makes you a crossdresser…
I think if you come HERE, to discuss crossdressing, you’re a little more than a dabbler, or a hobbyist, and, amongst others who are wondering what it’s all about, you may feel emboldened to try things you would never do on your own. This place can be like a Marie’s Bath, where you may bring yourself up to the “temperature” of your surroundings, perhaps to fit in, perhaps to dream a little cherished dream, or perhaps to think of yourself in a different light. You will meet the good and the bad, the sweet and the tough, and you’ll get a good idea of what you’ve gotten yourself into. The world of MtF crossdressing is very strange, my friend…
Do you think you’re trangendered? No? Well, your “fellow” crossdressers (if you think you’re a CD, that is), will INSIST that your crossdressing is evidence of a transgendered mindset, waiting to break free of whatever gender you were born with, or at least a glimpse of transgendered behavior, as evidenced by your penchant for crossdressing. You may have no issues with your gender identity, but others will insist that you must, otherwise why would you be dressed like that?
But, there is some good news - you can either take it or leave it, and shed your crossdressing episode, thinking of it either as an anomaly, a failed experiment, or a pleasant memory. Really, it’s no big deal, but it’s the nature of crossdressing, as well as all other arenas where the genders get blurred, to upset the apple cart and cause consternation, or worse. It takes effort to crossdress for FUN, in this leaden communal atmosphere, and maintain a healthy, irreverent outlook. I believe that you can crossdress, or do something that others would recognize as crossdressing, and yet not really be a crossdresser in the traditional sense. Now, if you return to the scene of the alleged “crime,” and begin to don your panties as a daily affirmation, then we may have to call you a CD…
I wear a carpenter’s apron on occasion, but I can’t call myself a carpenter. I once wore cowboy boots, but I am definitely NOT a cowboy. I wear kilts, but I am not of Scottish descent. I wear knee socks, but I am not young, nor am I innocent. And, I wear women’s clothing on occasion, probably more than some men might ever think of doing, so I've come to think of myself as a crossdresser. But, I am not transgendered, I don’t wish to become a woman, nor do I “see” myself as a woman. It’s just crossdressing, a back-and-forth voyaging, or a day trip, between two distinct human regions, no big deal. You CAN be an ex-crossdresser. Your secret is safe with me…
Just because you did something once upon a time doesn’t mean you ARE something, OK?
PS – Last year I drank a bottle of scotch. It took me three months to drain the bottle. I won’t be buying another bottle anytime soon. I just thought I would mention that…