Why do I emulate as female ? Is there a feminine side I hold hostage inside of me that I refuse to let lose? I would hope that's not the answer, I mean I am approaching 50 years of age and have always had the urge to dress and feel Feminine...But I have honestly never felt like I am a girl..
Oh.. I have tried to think I was a girl..Ha ha it never worked ..I felt like a fool to be honest.. So I have also done a lot of deep soul searching, do I really want to be a girl? Was I born the wrong sex? To be honest I am very happy to have been born a male.. This was the result I came up with and I would never change that..So why do I continue to dress and have the urge to feel feminine?
The " denial " as some will call it.. This has nothing to do with up bringing,religion or political beliefs there are no moral reasons that keep me from openly expressing the gender I sometimes express by appearance only..Sure I have dressed femme in front of people and I have even been out dressed as a female ( not halloween ) just to do it because I've had overwhelming feelings to do those things .How did I feel to clear that from the bucket list? Little regrets but very stupid..I am destine to stay in the closet..
Going through a failed marriage due to and because of my urges( so she says) to feel feminine I have found myself seeking a female partner that will accept my desires. I have even posted pics on dating sites that were suppose to have females who accepted folks like me .It was a disaster and all it brought me was a large amount of men who wanted to met me, not women.. I deleted my accounts.
I came here over 5 years ago ( because of the name) ..I thought I would find more people here with similar issues ( sorta did) ...What I did find here is how different we are, sure there will be some people here that can relate to this post ( many may not even reply to it) but the majority that do reply will be those who tell me I shouldn't define myself..I should accept who I am without labeling myself .. I am in a group and I should enjoy life and be satisfied with that..
That's fine go ahead and state your opinion that's what this Forum is all about I take no offense to anybodies opinion I know you are trying to help.. So why am I posting this? It's not to start a pissing match over labels I can assure you of that.. I just want to know am I alone? Am I the only person here who feels that crossdressing( or the act of it) happens to people who do not feel like they are a girl? I want to learn from those who feel the same way as I do because as it stands right now I feel like a total freak dressing to the nines without any desires to be a girl!
It started out as a sexual satisfying experience that has now grown to be a comforting and relaxing experience no sex is required now am I a freak or what? I mean who dresses to emulate a female without wanting to be one?