I thought "This forum is for those with the external genitalia and secondary sexual characteristics of one sex, but whose personal identification and psychosocial configuration is that of the opposite sex." was the purpose......where does it say "only for those actively transitioning"?
And to tell you the truth being afraid to take that first step is very much a part of being a transexual. Just because you have made it past that first step does not make you a transexual when you were not before.