A recent thread here and actually one of my threads here has brought up a point.
Do we stay in the closet because we want to protect the people around us or do we do it to protect ourselves?
The thread I am referring to mentioned how they stayed out of sight out of respect for the neighbors. I can relate because I, too, tried to not embarrass the neighbors and more so my GF. My Gf knew about me from the beginning, she was never uncomfortable with me and we went out often. However the last 5 years I personally worked to NOT dress when I was around her. I felt I was something that would bring unwanted attention to her (that's my story and I am sticking to it...until now). But the truth was I didn't want the attention which I assumed would be shown and by default reflect on her. It was MY issue not hers and just before she died she told me she missed seeing "Lori" as much as she would lie.
Jenniferathome made the point that we hide not because we are worried about what others may think (I think I have proven that a fallacy at least to myself in the last year) but more because we are the ones who are uncomfortable.
So why do you not go out? Is it for the community or is it for you???