I can't remember a time in my life I have spent so much time thinking. Sounds wierd, but now that HRT, and the beginnings of transition are a reality, I daydream about what my life will be like.
I think I have very realistic ideas about what HRT will and won't accomplish at my age, so no, I'm not dreaming about looking like Charlize Theron.
Yesterday, in the coffee shop some women were giving me the 'Look at the tranny look', not mean or judgemental, just 'I see you'. All of a sudden my heart sank a bit. Will I always be the guy that changed sexes? My community, friends, and colleagues have been miraculously supportive, but how do I ever lose the 'used to be a guy' stigma? I was lucky to be able to relocate and start a new life as a woman, but people know I'm trans, can I ever just be a woman to them?
Sometimes I wonder if I should try so hard. If they will always treat me as the former guy, why go the extra yard to present EVEN MORE female. I need the HRT, and nothing will stop me from getting a BA, short of me having unheard of breast growth. Maybe I should just stop there. Live as 'There goes the tranny' guy, if they know anyway. Get on with my life presenting pretty much the way I have for so long anyway. I don't hate my appearance. I don't make anybody ill, or make them laugh at me, be I see the masculine markers that make me 'the guy in the dress'.
Does everybody have moments of doubt like this? Would the pain and expense of further hair removal, FFS, and hours of voice practice etc. just be for my benefit? I plan on staying where I live now, so I'll be interacting with the same people for a long time.
Despite presenting as female for as long as I have, do I just have new girl jitters?