Gosh, been awhile since I posted last...
They warn us, but it's always hard to believe it...
It's been a long time since I started down this path in my life. It's had a lot of ups an downs along the way, but fortunately for myself Iam happy where Iam at.
My mother always used to ask before she passed away, why she didn't know when I was growing up. Somehow even without being told of the consequences of having these feelings inside, I always knew that there would be consequences if I expressed them to those around me. Heck I was in kindergarten when I was told that my favorite color, purple, was a gay color. I didn't really know what gay was at the time, but it was definately something that you didn't want to be. So, when someone said, be prepared to lose everything, although I believed it I really didn't want to. I manipulated myself into thinking that people will eventually come around, and who knows perhaps they still will.
So far, and I've been on this path since 1990, I've found that most of the people who knew me before the day I dropped the big bomb shell, simply can not handle it. It's too confusing for them, and they think that they have lost someone. They just can't seem to grasp that you're still the person that they've always known and loved, you're just making a few changes to the packaging and presentation.
I think that inorder for a TS to survive, you have to make a new life for yourself, and allow those who want to from your past, to come along for the ride. Don't dwell on the past and what you've lost, it makes for nothing but another tear session. As time goes on you'll make a new family and friends. Some of it will encompass people who were in your life formerly, but there will always be those who simply will not come around.
When you do have to deal with that former life, don't push them for acceptance. If you do, they simply feel like your cramming your lifestyle and beliefs down their throats. They have to talk about this with others, and we have no control anyway of how they'll take it and whether they'll ever come around. Be careful of how much you talk to them about it, and just what you tell them... Although sometimes people seem willing to talk and perhaps quite curious, it's easy to overload them and give them way more information than they ever really wanted to know. A lot of people are just more squeaminsh than they let on. If they want information, let them ask you for it, and then keep it short and sweet. Definately do not volunteer information they haven't asked for.
This is the hardest part of the whole TS thing. It's not easy to release your previous life, family and friends. We don't want to give it up, so we desire and need their acceptance of us. What happens when we don't get it? Some of us go on and some do not... Those who seem to think that we wake up one day and decide to be a girl merely on a whim, seriously have absolutely no clue. This life path is not for the faint of heart, and Iam happy to still be here.
There are other things to keep in mind when trying to get through life as a TS, but this is the main subject I wanted to express. Suffice to say, do not take it all personally or too seriously. Let the little things just roll right off your shoulders, they're meaningless anyway. Don't sweat the petty things, pet the sweaty things...