After a long, tough fight with cancer, my wife passed away recently. I'm getting love and support from friends and family and have lots of wonderful memories to help me move along and lots of wonderful memories to cry over as well. But reason for the post is to examine a crossdressing issue. She was the only one in the family who knew of my crossdressing and had known for about the last 10 years of our nearly 40 year long marriage (not enough in either case, but we can't change the past). At least she is the only one either one of us told, so I'm back in the closet except for on-line and my local CD group.
We both always wanted her there when we told one or more of our adult children, so that plan is no longer valid. Somehow I'll need to muster up the strength to make that next step myself. I'm still a little too fragile to even worry too much about that for now but I see now that it's something I'll eventually have to do. One step at a time.
Until then, I'm back with those who must hide everything when someone may be coming over. I'm back having to tell stories that aren't true and having to worry about how and when the next person in my family comes to know Sarah. I think it will be easier to share the information because of the support and love she gave me. My self confidence is much higher now than before she found this side of me. It's a new world out there and many of the parameters have changed, but I'm moving along and in a way, I guess she will still have my back.